Only by educating children like flowers, carefully watering, fertilizing and caring can they succeed. But in fact, not everyone can grow flowers well. If you don't know, you should ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of growing flowers.
On the way to raising children, you will encounter many problems, most afraid of being helpless. Ignorant parents often make their children suffer more "suffering" and "torture".
For example, children are constipated. Why is it not effective to eat probiotics? After the child is 2 years old, do you want to enroll in an early education class?
Cui Yutao, a famous pediatrician, used 2 years of clinical experience to extract the problems and misunderstandings in parenting from 65 real cases, so that you can master a set of healthy and scientific parenting methods from a medical point of view.
The core educational concept of this book is: natural parenting.
It is mentioned in the book that natural parenting requires parents to understand their children, accept their innate characteristics, respect and comply with their needs, and strive to provide assistance and guidance for their children.
For example, how old does a child start to read? How old were you when you started mathematics?
Parents often ignore their children's own development characteristics. For example, when a child is 3 years old, he is taught to calculate math problems within 1, thinking that the earlier he learns, the more he masters, the better. However, it is often counterproductive.
The core of the "natural parenting method" is that parents should master appropriate standards according to the laws of children's physical and mental development, and neither control their children nor interfere excessively.
first of all, eat right.
A few days ago, my friend's 2-year-old baby was constipated and took probiotics for ten days, but it never got better. It turned out that my friend often stored half of the probiotics in the refrigerator and took them the next day.
Pediatric experts point out that probiotics can effectively relieve constipation, but only if they are taken at the same time with cellulose (such as prebiotics). Probiotics must decompose cellulose to produce water, so as to soften stools and improve constipation.
It turns out that three points need to be paid attention to in order for probiotics to play a good role:
First, probiotics are not only afraid of air, but also afraid of scalding, so they should be taken immediately after being washed with water below 4℃.
Second, avoid taking antibiotics at the same time, and the interval between them should be at least 2 hours.
The most important point is the third point: providing food for probiotics. Parents should supplement their children with probiotics at the same time, otherwise the probiotics may starve to death.
The source of prebiotics is explained in detail in this book, so I won't expand it here.
Eating probiotics wrong not only delays the illness, but also makes children suffer, and parents are impatient, so it is very important to "eat right".
secondly, know how to teach.
Mothers always want to give their children the best things in the world, and they want to buy the most expensive toys, because expensive things are made of good materials and are safer for their babies to use.
Cui Yutao's Natural Parenting Law mentions:
Abundant materials do not mean that parents are required to spend a lot of money to buy new toys for their children, but they are required to pay more attention to development and help their children understand the world and adapt to society.
In children's world, there is no value of money, and the best early education environment for children is family.
Real early education should take place at any time and place in the most natural scenes, such as toy cars made of empty cartons and small dinosaurs, which will bring different life experiences and tactile feelings to children.
There is a classic saying in the book: Early education is life.
If parents want to give their children proper early education, it is very important to know the characteristics of their physical and mental development.
My cousin's child is almost two years old and still can't stand. Normal children can stand at about one year old, but my cousin didn't find the problem until the child was two years old.
Later, I learned that the child's illness was a kind of cerebral palsy. This disease is one in ten million, and the effect of early intervention will be better if it can be found early.
Understanding the characteristics of children's physical and mental development can not only prevent children's problems as early as possible, but also allow children to get full development and training at the right time, so as to avoid the frustration caused by "super-class" training.
For example, a one-or two-month-old baby likes to see pictures with obvious contrast such as black and white cards. At this time, it is beyond his ability to show children colorful pictures blindly.
Being a wise parent will avoid the hardships of children's growth and help them become a healthy person.
finally, effective company.
makarenko, an educator, once said:
Giving everything to children, sacrificing everything, even their own happiness, is the most terrible gift parents give their children.
Parents are willing to devote all their time to their children if they can.
My friend Zhang Jia (pseudonym) works as an executive in an enterprise, working from nine to nine every day, often working overtime and coming home late, and sometimes going on business trips on weekends, so he has little time at home, let alone spending time with his children.
On a weekend, it was rare to have a rest at home, only to find that my mother-in-law loved her grandson too much.
When eating, the mother-in-law keeps urging the children to eat quickly; When watching TV, keep reminding children that it's time to turn off the TV; When playing with building blocks, keep interrupting children to ask questions. Almost all care has become a "curse".
It is important to accompany children, but constantly coaxing and interrupting children is not the same as high-quality companionship.
Mother-in-law's excessive attention has become a nagging, which is not only unhelpful, but also more likely to destroy the child's concentration and affect his physical and mental development.
Efficient companionship does not lie in the length or short of companionship time, but rather in devoted attention and physical and mental interaction and communication with children within a limited time.
In Cui Yutao's Natural Parenting Law, the author not only taught the true meaning of natural parenting from the medical point of view, but also taught the common problems in parenting from the psychological point of view.
For example, how to judge a child's bloody stool? Why are children prone to calcium deficiency? How old is the child to have an eye exam? What is the order of tooth development? What living habits will affect the development of oral cavity? Even the complementary food for babies aged 6-24 months is attached to the book.
I have rarely seen a book with such a detailed introduction and written by an authoritative doctor. I am very excited to read it for the first time. I hereby recommend it to the precious mothers who are looking for ways to raise them, hoping it will solve the intractable diseases on your way to raising them.