After a long ten-month pregnancy, my sister-in-law recently gave birth to another healthy boy for our family. The whole family was rejoicing, and all relatives and friends were in great spirits. Picking a name when a baby is born is the first big thing. For the sake of caution, I still feel that it is necessary to mobilize relatives and friends to brainstorm ideas.
As a result, grandpas, grandpas, uncles, and aunts all came to the venue one after another. As an uncle, I was honored to be invited to join this grand naming event. For a time, everyone was serious about their work, looking up the dictionary, scrolling through their phones, scratching their heads, thinking hard, and each came up with the best plan.
For me, I have no experience in naming my children and I don’t know where to start. So I want to sort out some thoughts about naming before making any plans.
First of all, why do people need names? I think a name is a symbol that identifies someone, allowing them to clearly know who someone is. When mentioning Zhang San, others will not think of Li Si.
Secondly, the name will also give people a good wish, making people feel hopeful and hopeful when they hear it. Choosing a name is no small matter and should not be taken carelessly.
Just because it is not a trivial matter, people often either think too much or think poorly, so that they lose sight of the other. So what should we pay attention to in specific operations?
First, the name is for the child, so we should imagine how the child will view the name you gave him when he grows up. Imagine how people who like him interpret it, and how people who don't like him interpret it. If a child with this name tries every means to change it when he grows up, it will definitely be a failure.
Of course no one can know whether the child will like it in the future. There's just one thing, if it's easy to have negative associations, it must be bad.
For example, someone is named "Quan Shuguang". Every word is a good word, but when combined together, it is easy for people to think of "lost everything". For another example, "Cai Youchong" can easily be thought of as "a worm in a vegetable".
Studies have found that the human brain is actually inert. It is best at connecting unfamiliar things with familiar things. It is only natural for people to make the above associations. You It is impossible to prevent others from having bad associations, and it is impossible to explain to everyone what the words in your name are and what they mean.
Furthermore, it is best for the characters in the name to be ones that most people can read and write, so that people cannot recognize them. If they cannot be written well, they will not look literate, but will Create unnecessary trouble. Even if you have to choose some uncommon words, try to choose ones whose pronunciation is not easy to guess, such as "扉", "芊" and "芠". The pronunciation of these words without the radicals is the same as with the radicals.
When it comes to pronunciation, try to choose words with an accent so that you can shout them out loud. I've seen people rush to find their children but couldn't make a sound. For example, words like "五" cannot be pronounced louder, so they should be avoided as much as possible. Confucius said that if the name is not correct, the words will not be correct, which probably has this meaning.
In addition to these, some people also require that the five elements should complement each other and not be in conflict with each other. You should also consider not sharing the same word with other family members, especially elders. This is something you still need to pay attention to in China.
After a lot of hard work, you finally came up with a good name, and you eagerly want to tell the other person your idea. But wait a minute, before you tell the other person your thoughts, you need to understand one more thing: naming is a matter for the child’s parents and has basically nothing to do with anyone else. People are willing to ask for your opinion, maybe because you are an elder or a relative, they respect you, and they want to have another reference. Never feel that this is your privilege and that others must adopt whatever you have worked hard to come up with.
I see a lot of people from the older generation. The names they give their children are obviously outdated, and they still insist on their own ideas. This is very embarrassing. One more thing to say here: Even if you are the child's biological grandfather, you are still only related to him as a relative. You can only make suggestions on their family's affairs, but have no right to interfere. This is the bottom line. We are responsible for conveying kindness, and don’t think too much about how others will view it.
Well, after saying so much, I haven’t even started to think about it yet! Do you have any good ideas? Feel free to teach me.
Thanks for reading! Wish you a happy life!