First, it is a saying of the older generation that men cannot be bigger than the sky and women cannot be more beautiful than immortals. In the past, old people would give their children very tacky names. At that time, life was very low and very difficult. Just to provide for the children, it is also a way of respecting the people in the previous life. Names are codes that distinguish you, me and him, but they also contain countless expectations of parents for their children.
2. In ancient times, it was very important to name the children of a noble family. The name should not only be named according to the family tree, but also have a profound meaning. We hope our child’s future is as good as the name implies. Just for the sake of it sounding good, I don’t think too much about it at all.
3. Some parents don’t know whether to reflect their own high academic level, or they don’t know that others can more easily understand complex and difficult words, so they will give their children Look up a dictionary to find unusual or difficult words. Faced with such a name, not only teachers and others have a headache, not knowing what to call it, children also suffer, and it will take a long time to write a name.
4. For example, the old man often said: "Men are not called goddesses or fairies." Many people do not understand the meaning of this sentence. After many checks, the author concluded that Two answers came up. The first is the awe of ancient people for "heaven" and "eternal life". Ancient people were very young and needed to worship heaven and gods.
Therefore, it would be disrespectful to our children if we used these two words when naming them. In other words, this is a moral meaning, the word "husband" without a head is "heaven", and "a person, a mountain" is "god", both are bad, so people will not name them . There are so many children.
Chinese culture is extensive and profound, and names, as a mark of historical and cultural inheritance, have always been paid special attention to by people of all generations. Surnames are innate and cannot be changed at will, but names are not static. As a name for everyone, they have always been very particular and knowledgeable. The name is of great significance to everyone. The ancients often said that the name is like the person, and the person is like the name. It takes a lot of knowledge to choose a famous name. As the first gift from parents, a name will always be with us throughout our lives.
In ancient times, there were many taboos when naming children. Not only did they have to be ranked according to seniority, but they also had to pay attention to the avoidance of homophones and homophones. In addition, the yin and yang and the five elements could be used to create a beautiful meaning. Resounding names, naming is also a precious artistic treasure of Chinese culture. In order to seek good fortune and avoid evil, the wise older generation used their great wisdom to summarize the common saying, which is the popular saying today: "Men do not take care of God. Women are not immortal."
This statement is also very simple to understand. When naming a child, be sure to pay attention not to include these two words. Boys should not use "天", and girls should not use "天". The word "immortal". But if you think about it carefully, the sayings that are full of feudal metaphysics are obviously out of date in today's society. After all, naming has changed with the development of generations, and there are not so many feudal details. So why do the elders say this? .
This is just our traditional feudal thinking. In the eyes of the elders, "Heaven" and "Xian" have magical meanings. The emperor in ancient times was the Supreme Being, the proud son of Heaven, and "Heaven" is supreme. It is inevitable that there are some things that are inappropriate and taboo. After all, we are all mortal bodies, and most of us will not be blessed. Not only will it not bring blessings to our children, , which will also cause unnecessary trouble. So for the sake of their children, try to avoid using these two words. There is no scientific reason for Xu Xian. In the final analysis, it is the feudal ideological tradition that is at fault.
The ancients chose names according to their seniority, usually with two characters at most. In addition to seniority, another character would not be randomly used, because the ancients would choose the name based on the birth date. It is calculated that the five elements of an individual can make up for the shortcomings. In order to suppress one's own shortcomings, one can substitute a certain attribute to restrain it, thereby making up for one's own shortcomings, so that the children will always be blessed with happiness and success throughout their lives.
Rather than saying that there are many details about the name, it is better to say that it is the expression of parents' love for their children. As parents, we never ask for anything from our children. All we have is our sincere expectations for our children and our best wishes for safety and health.
Men don’t have heaven, and women don’t have immortals.
1. Be low-key. In ancient times, heaven was the honorific title of the emperor (Son of Heaven) in the human world. In people’s imagination (Heaven, Lord Heaven), in general, It is said that heaven is the highest state. If a boy is born with the character Tian, ??1, he is too arrogant and self-righteous. You are considered good only when others say you are good. People are lifted up by people, and boats are lifted up by water. 2. There is no hope. As soon as a boy is born with a baby, the symbol has reached its peak. There is no room for growth, no future for development, and no hope.
Second, not being arrogant and immortal were the highest goals pursued by species in ancient times. For example, in the myths and legends of "Journey to the West", women always believe that fairies are the most beautiful women. "Xian" also represents a bit of coquettishness, and people in ancient times were feudal. If a girl wears the word "Xian", it has an indecent meaning.
Third, although the science of ancient people was not developed, their thinking was still very high. Men did not have gods, and women did not have immortals. That is, men should not bully gods, and women should not bully immortals. To be recognized as a superior person, people should have restraints. If a person is lawless and arrogant, disaster is not far away.
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"Men do not bring heaven, women do not bring immortals", which is the custom of naming.
This means: if you give birth to a boy, it is best not to have the word "天" in your name; if you give birth to a girl, it is best not to have the word "仙" in your name.
In the past, there was a habit called "a low reputation makes a living".
In ancient times, due to poor medical conditions, the infant mortality rate was extremely high.
Therefore, the ancients adhered to the mentality that it would not be easy to raise their children to death by giving them nicknames, and they always gave them unpleasant nicknames, such as "Goudan'er", "Goudan'er" and "Goudan'er". "Sheng", "Tiezhu", "Huzi", "Fat Ya", etc., just hope that they can be in good health.
It seems that the more precious it is, the easier it is to break. The more ordinary you are, the more you can withstand God's will.
Based on this kind of mentality, some people will say that "men don't have heaven, and women don't have immortals."
Be it immortals or heaven, they are all mysterious. It seems that the wind will blow away and the child will be taken away by God. Having a name like this makes people feel uneasy.
However, this is all feudal superstition and makes no sense. Especially in this era of advanced medicine, the mortality rate of infants and young children has been greatly reduced. You can call them whatever you want.
Of course, some people may bring up the examples of Li Tianyi and Zhai Tianlin -
But please use your brains:
If Li Tianyi changed his name to Li Diyi, would he not commit a crime? If Zhai Tianlin changes his name to Zhai Dilin, will there be no plagiarism?
Don't be stupid.
This sentence talks about the taboo of naming.
To put it simply, a boy’s name does not contain the word “天”, and a girl’s name does not contain the word “仙”.
In fact, the words "Heaven" and "Xian" are not comprehensive. It can be summed up in one sentence: the name cannot be too big.
We must respect gods, ancestors, and teachers...
Looking at ancient times, the emperor's name was avoided.
After Zhao Kuangyin became emperor, his younger brother Zhao Kuangyi no longer dared to call him Zhao Guangyi, so he changed his name to Zhao Guangyi.
There is an old saying that only the state officials are allowed to set fires and the people are not allowed to light lamps. The origin of this sentence is that the local official’s name is Tian Deng, and he stipulates that the sound of "Deng" cannot be pronounced. , it’s not okay to say “light”, whoever says it will get beaten.
It is very difficult to write notices during this holiday. The one posted is: "On such and such a day in Honshu, fires will be set for three days."
When naming your child, you should avoid the words and even the sounds of the elders.
Lin Daiyu’s mother’s name is Jia Min. When Daiyu was studying, she would change the pronunciation of the word “min” when she encountered it.
She did not dare to call her elders by their first names. This was called respect.
This principle is called showing weakness in Tai Chi. Showing weakness is not weakness, but thickness.
In "Tai Chi Illustrations", Tai Chi is done facing north. This is not a must-observe rule. The founder reminds us to respect the boxing.
The ancients believed that the North Star is the ruler of heaven and earth. When we face north, we let our hearts return to our true self.
Taoists believe that urinating facing north is disrespectful, and even spitting and blowing your nose are inappropriate.
All tangible things are not important. You have to look inside. This is the meaning of Neijiaquan and Neijia.
Tai Chi is neither yin nor yang, and does not go to extremes.
Being too elegant will cause problems, and some people try hard to avoid being vulgar:
There was once a satirical ballad that said: The one who sells rice is called Ziliang, the one who sells meat is called Zhongfu, the one who sells rice is called Junbao, and the one who grinds flour is called Defu.
Another example, avoid evil words:
Some people have the word "亚" in their names. This simplifies Nothing can be seen from the characters. Let’s look at the hieroglyphs, which are tombs. The main character is in the middle and the companions are around. It is not that important, so it is called Ya.
There is also the word "true". Turn this word upside down and look at it. It is a "head", with the head facing down.
Tai Chi means neutralization. Here is an example of a good name:
Han Yu, Yu means exceeding, look at Han Yu What word? ——Retreat.
After advancing and retreating, he shouted.
It’s already famous, so why come up with a name? Is it unnecessary?
No, the name is chosen to honor the name.
You cannot shout the names of your elders randomly. My name is reversed and can only be called by my elders.
At this time, the word comes into play. The word is called by others.
In ancient Chinese society, a person's name was very important, because the ancients believed that the name could affect the five elements and destiny in the future, so it was a top priority and should not be taken lightly. Of course, children from rural families are more casually named. There seems to be quite a lot of names like "Daniu" and "Ergou". There is nothing we can do about it. Ordinary people have no money and no education, so they choose names to make a living.
Many people may not be able to sit still when talking about this. I just gave some examples. Cases like "Zhu Yuanzhang" were thrown around. Zhu Yuanzhang's real name was "Zhu Yuanzhang". "Double Eight", just the word "Double Eight", I think it is not simple, and even if there are, it is only a few cases, accounting for less than 5%. Chinese nomenclature is derived from the five elements of the horoscope. First of all, we have to look at the five elements of the horoscope. The five elements of the horoscope are commonly known as "yen". Let's see what is missing from the five elements of the horoscope. "Top grade" means that a person's fate or name should be in balance among the five elements, and his life will be relatively stable.
In addition to considering the five elements, the name is divided into five patterns, namely, the sky pattern, the personality, the ground pattern, the external pattern and the general pattern. Tiange is our surname, which itself has no good or bad qualities, but it can represent the relationship with our elders and is also very important for our future work in society. The ground pattern represents the luck of youth and can also reveal the love between children. Personality represents the main luck and success, which is the focus of name learning. The outer frame is the middle-aged fortune, which represents social activities, interpersonal relationships, etc. The last one is the general pattern, which is called luck in old age. Whether the descendants can be blessed and enjoy their old age peacefully.
The popular saying "men do not bring heaven, and women do not bring immortality" means that the name should not be too big, otherwise you will not be able to control your destiny, but will It affects the balance of your five elements and causes unexpected disasters. First, the ancients offered sacrifices to heaven and had a sense of reverence for heaven and gods, so it is best not to include words such as "heaven", "immortal" and "god" in your name; secondly, the ancient emperor was called the Son of Heaven. Having "天" in your name is disrespectful to the emperor and you will be imprisoned. Finally, China's Confucian culture emphasizes humility and courtesy. If you have such a high-profile and domineering name, it will inevitably attract gossip from others and say that you are not modest. , do not understand etiquette, this is a cultural taboo.
Of course, for modern people, the meaning of names may not be that important anymore. For example, "men do not bring heaven, and women do not bring immortals" is not so rigorous. We don’t have to restrain ourselves too much, but we shouldn’t be too childish. In fact, the name contains your parents’ expectations for you. The name should be simple but not vulgar, friendly and smooth!
The tablets enshrined in the main halls of rural areas are written with "Tiandi Zongshi"
Five words, the first is to Revere Heaven, respect Heaven, and make offerings to Heaven.
Worship Heaven, which is the greatest. "Heaven" is used to describe the big things, as if the things are as big as the sky, even if you are as bold as the sky, you can't do anything...
The sky belongs to Yang, the earth belongs to Yin, the sky is Qian, the earth is Yin, boys
Although it also represents masculinity and Qian, it cannot be said that
is heaven. The emperor can only be called the Son of Heaven.
The lord, head and king of a country are still just emperors
Son of a man, how dare you name yourself! That's a big mistake.
So "men don't take care of heaven".
"Women are not immortals." When many people see the word "immortal", they may
think of foxes. Fox Fairy. Therefore, girls’ names generally do not contain the word “fairy”. Isn't Xiaofengxian just a prostitute?
When we were studying, a boy named He Fulong was struck to death by lightning on a dry day in a light rainy day. Three people walked side by side, and he was struck alone. The key is He's not the tallest one yet. Later, the family invited someone to come and see the child. They said that the child's name was too big to be suppressed, and God took it away.
"Men do not bring heaven, women do not bring fairy" means that when a man chooses his name, he should not bring the word "天", and when a woman chooses her name, she should not bring the word "天". Don't use the word "immortal". This is the embodiment of the yin and yang concept in traditional Chinese culture when choosing names. According to current standards, it should fall into the category of superstition and has no scientific basis. Therefore, there is nothing taboo about being abandoned by modern people.
Now let’s talk about why the Chinese have this taboo, “Men don’t bring heaven, and women don’t bring immortals.” This has to do with the concept of yin and yang. The concept of yin and yang is the most important concept in Chinese culture. Tai Chi generates two rituals, which are yin and yang. Yin and Yang have different names, but they are actually two sides of the same thing. Everything has yin and yang. Yin is the invisible side, Yang is the visible side, Yang is hot, and Yin is cold.
Therefore, the Chinese divide people into yin and yang. Men are called masculine and women are called feminine. In everything, yin and yang must be balanced. When yin and yang are balanced, things will grow and develop. If yin and yang are not balanced, things will perish and die. Man himself is the Tai Chi of the harmony of yin and yang. Therefore, when choosing a name, you must consider the balance of yin and yang. If a man is strong, he must balance it with femininity. A woman's femininity must be balanced by her masculinity. Among natural objects, the sky is pure Yang. It is the representative of Qian Gua. Men are already masculine, and they are named after the heaven of pure yang, which means that the yang rises and falls, which is not conducive to the development of life. Therefore, men do not lead heaven.
Fairy is a feminine, flexible thing. Gods and ghosts do not live in the earth. Therefore, Xian represents the feminine gender. Women are yin in nature, and if they are named feminine, it will lead to an imbalance of yin and yang. Therefore, women cannot be named after immortals. The fundamental purpose behind it is one, the balance of yin and yang. That is to say, in every aspect of life, the balance of yin and yang must be considered. The meaning of men leading heaven and women leading immortals is like wanting to test the stove in the summer and fanning the fan in the winter. Not good for life.
This provision seems to be very reasonable according to the Yin and Yang theory. But in reality, it doesn't affect anything. So, people don’t care much now.
This taboo on naming is the same as the balance of the five elements in cultural origin. There is a girl in Lu Xun's novel "Hometown". Lu Xun said that he was named Guitu because the five elements lacked earth. The concept of the Five Elements is developed on the basis of Yin and Yang. What it means is that if there is a missing item in a person’s birth date, it should be filled in in the name. That's why she got the name of Guitu. We can illustrate this problem with an example. Of course, there is no scientific basis for this. Just a literary concept.
For example, I was born at 0:15 today, December 10, 2019. The eight characters used to record the year according to the heavenly stems and earthly branches are: Jihai year, Bingzi month, Xinsi day, and Wuzi hour. The year stem belongs to earth, the moon stem belongs to fire, the day stem belongs to metal, and the hour stem belongs to earth. In this horoscope, there is a lack of water and wood, and there is a lot of earth. Therefore, when naming, you will intentionally use words with wood next to it and water next to it to achieve the purpose of balancing the five elements. Because there are only four times in the horoscope, at least one of the five elements is missing.
These naming taboos were in line with the cultural development at that time. Now, we know that there is no scientific reason for these taboos, and we don’t need to pay too much attention to them. Just understand it as a culture.
The ancients believed that high in the vast sky, thousands of miles away from the clouds and mists, there was a gate called the "Southern Gate". After passing that gate, you would reach the place where the gods live, called the sky. Therefore, the ancients passed down an unwritten rule for naming children, which is called "men do not refer to gods, and women do not refer to immortals". Because reverence creates fear and one cannot "make mistakes".
▲ How dare you name yourself "Tian" or "Xian" like us?
"Heaven" and "Xian" are the first words of the Three Realms. Presumptuous use of the words will be blasphemous
In ancient my country, the ancients believed that "Heaven, Earth, and Man" constitute the entire world and universe. range. Heaven is also the place where "celestial beings" live, that is, gods and immortals (this place is described a lot in "Journey to the West"). As people in the earthly world, they not only rely on heaven for blessings, but also rely on heaven for food. Many things have to do with it. You must respect the way of heaven in order to do things smoothly.
▲ Enter the gate of heaven, the legendary "Nantian Gate"
If you name your child, just use the word "天" and "仙" casually. "" is not only unworthy, but also blasphemous. Therefore, our ancestors left behind the traditional saying when naming their children, "Men do not refer to heaven, and women do not refer to immortals."
▲The Heaven in "Journey to the West"
The auras of "Heaven" and "Immortal" are too great for ordinary people to bear
In naming The ancients were very particular about it. They believed that naming a child with the characters "Heaven" and "Xian" would have too much aura, which would easily destroy the blessings in life and make it difficult to raise children, especially those from ordinary people's families. My child, any use of these two words in a name is unbearable for ordinary people and should be used with caution. On the contrary, the ancients gave their children names, especially nicknames. Ordinary people prefer nicknames, such as "Maomao", "Dog", "Egg", etc.
▲The ancients said that in order to raise your children well, you should not afford a "big" aura name.
"Heaven" and "Xian" are special words, and using them casually is arrogant
In ancient my country, the words "Heaven" and "Xian" were used in people's names. It's not that there are absolutely none, such as Yuan Tiangang (a metaphysician, astronomer, and Taoist priest in the late Sui and early Tang Dynasties.), but they are very rare and ordinary people will not use them.
Let’s talk about the word "天" first. In ancient times, it had a representative application, that is, the ancient emperor called "the Son of Heaven". Naturally, the word "天" is basically a taboo word for common people to name.
▲Zhu Yuanzhang: I am the true dragon "Emperor" of the Ming Dynasty, unique.
Let’s talk about the word "Xian". Although this word was not specifically used by ancient emperors, using the word "Xian" as a name would not violate the emperor's taboo, but If abused at will, it can be despised by the world, because in ancient China, the word "xian" can refer to an immortal person, or it can refer to a Taoist female practitioner, such as "fairy aunt"; it can also be extended to mean someone who is talented in a certain area and is superior to ordinary people. , such as the "Poetry Immortal" Li Bai; it can also refer to a certain woman who is particularly beautiful, and then people praise her as a "fairy". Therefore, as a child of ordinary people, how many people are willing to name their children with the word "immortal"!
▲ Li Bai: The most famous poet in Taibai throughout history.
Conclusion:
In the eyes of today’s people, “天” and “仙” are both powerful and auspicious words, and people today use them whenever they want, and no one Care too much about something. However, in ancient times, whether in terms of people's respect for heaven, earth and gods, or in terms of people's secular rules, "heaven" and "immortal" are not something you can use casually. Either he caused an official scandal because of his mistakes, or he caused people's criticism because of his arrogance.
▲ What’s a good name? Let me think about it as a teacher: humble, reserved and ambitious.
In short, there is no problem with these two words themselves, but they are too sacred. In the concept of the ancients, there is holiness, even if it means awe, naturally, the ancients generally do not take it They name their children.