Ten years ago, Sheng Hailin, who was nearly 6 years old, used her husband's sperm to conceive in vitro, and implanted three embryos, one of which escaped, and two embryos were successfully conceived.
During the whole pregnancy, she experienced more risks than healthy pregnant women of school age, including high blood pressure, uric acid value as high as 17, hypoproteinemia, ascites and other problems. At the same time, she endured various discomforts such as bone pain, dyspnea and body edema. Fortunately, on May 25th, 21, she successfully gave birth to a pair of twin daughters, becoming the oldest maternal in China at that time.
Sheng Hailin is very weak after delivery. Because the twin daughters were premature, they were sent to the incubator of neonatal department for intensive care. The first day cost as much as 3, yuan, and then at least 6, yuan per day. The eldest daughter stayed in the incubator for more than 3 days. Once a well-off family, when leaving the hospital, there were only a few thousand dollars left in the family account.
at the age of 6, you should be a grandmother, and your children and grandchildren should be around your knees, but you can imagine the difficulties in giving birth to twins under the pressure of health, economy and public opinion.
However, Sheng Hailin did this not on a whim, nor to challenge the limit of childbearing, but because of the helplessness of an old man who lost his only daughter.
Before that, Sheng Hailin had a happy family and an only daughter Tingting. Tingting was born in 198 and got married in 28. However, in 29, her newly-married daughter went back to her hometown for the Spring Festival with her son-in-law, and gas poisoning occurred. They died unfortunately.
Sheng Hailin couldn't accept the sad news of the loss of her beloved daughter, and she was so sad that she even had the idea of death. Unable to bear the pain of the white-haired man sending the black-haired man, she decided to give herself another chance to give birth. She also knew that being an IVF at her age was very risky, but she did it anyway.
Sheng Hailin's twin daughters are Wu Shangzhi and Wu Shanghui respectively, which means "supreme wisdom". It can be seen that the couple had high hopes for their two little lives when they named their names.
Mr. and Mrs. Sheng Hailin have never had any financial worries, and their retirement salary is quite high. However, due to the high cost of IVF and hospitalization after giving birth to twin daughters, the remaining money in family account can be ignored.
In order to meet the expenses of her two daughters, to bring her high-quality education in the future, and not to make her feel inferior, Sheng Hailin has been running around and giving lectures in major cities since her child was 1 days old. When she was five years old, she stayed with her child for less than a year, which is her regret.
In 215, Sheng Hailin's husband was hemiplegic, and her burden became heavier. One should not only take care of two young daughters and her hemiplegic husband, but also earn enough money for their future life and education, which can be said to be worse.
Sheng Hailin once said that she was worried that when she was old, her children had not yet grown up.
At the age when she was a grandmother, she couldn't keep up with her energy, and her health began to show minor problems. Whether it was companionship or making money, she was exhausted. She was worried about what she would do if she lost it one day.
The dilemma of raising children is nothing more than making money and companionship, while having children over the age of eight is to combine these two dilemmas and enlarge them several times.
Couples who have children in their super-old age are usually full of expectations for their children. When they raise their children, they are more willing to invest, whether it is energy or money. They all hope to bring their children a better life and education.
A child born at 6 years old is 7 years old this year, and the child is only 1 years old; When children are 2 years old, they will be 8 years old, and when children are 3 years old, they will be 9 years old.
As they get older, their energy will get worse and worse, and it will be more and more difficult to accompany and coach their children, and it will be more and more difficult to take care of their children's lives. Until one day, they may need their children to take time out of intense study and take care of their elderly parents in turn.
Another possibility is that children may lose their parents before they grow up. Who will take care of them and provide them with quality education? Sheng Hailin is also worried about this, so she works hard to make money everywhere, hoping to earn enough money for her two daughters.
Making money too hard will undoubtedly affect your health, especially for those who should retire and enjoy their old age. If you get sick, medical expenses will be a big expense. What's more, being too tired and hard can easily shorten your life.
if you spend too much time making money, your company time will be reduced. If you want to spend more time with your children in a limited life, you are afraid of not earning enough money for your children.
making money or accompanying? It is a dilemma for many parents. It's even more difficult for couples who have children over the age, because there is another big problem: life is limited.