Twin children are not suitable to be raised separately. Children are easily influenced by the old people's concept of parenting, living environment, family status, doting degree and three views, which leads to different educational concepts between children and their parents, grandparents and grandparents, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of twin brothers, and also leads to the family's strangeness and eccentricity to children, which affects their physical and mental health.
Judging from the twins I know, although the families are different, the results are similar.
First, the elderly on both sides, * * * with care.
A colleague who retired the same year, her daughter-in-law gave birth to twins. Because, she still has one year to retire, and her in-laws are in the field. The in-laws and the old couple came to take care of their daughter's house, and she was responsible for buying vegetables. When the child is one year old, grandparents go home. She retired to take care of two babies, and her husband came back to help take care of them in his spare time. On weekends, his son and daughter-in-law come to take care of him, because his son works in other places and goes home once a week.
Second, Ma Bao and her mother-in-law take care of the baby, and her family comes to help from time to time.
If Ma Bao can't do it, this is the best way, which has nothing to do with her husband's family and her family.
Third, Ma Bao takes care of the baby full-time and employs a nanny to take care of the baby together.
4. There are two ways for the elderly on both sides to take care of Bauer and Ma Bao and go back to work:
1. If you live with your mother-in-law, her mother-in-law is willing to take care of you and ask a nanny to take care of you. If your parents can't take care of it,
2, own a house, hire a nanny, and the elderly on both sides will negotiate for a month or a week. Children are not separated, and old people are happy. Young couples take care of their children after work. The whole family is harmonious and happy.
My colleague has a twin daughter, who was brought up by himself. Husband is an absolute model, riding a bike to send Bauer to kindergarten. Now both the second daughters are studying in key universities in the south.
Sixth, my tax friend, who is also a twin, simply opened a kindergarten to take care of the children.
If the two treasures are separated, because the environment is different, children are easy to feel inferior and the two treasures are unfamiliar. The following example is different from yours, but it is worth learning:
My uncle's daughter, who gave birth to twins, got married prematurely and later separated. Nvbao belongs to my mother. Of course, it was raised by my eldest sister-in-law, taking her surname. Nanbao belongs to his father and grandmother, and his home is in the country.
Later, two pairs, that is, male treasures, also came to Mu's house. He is very cautious. I have always been afraid that my grandmother would kick him out. I am very diligent. It's not that adults are partial, it's that he's sleepy.
Now, couples get back together for their children. Big and double students were admitted to special post teachers, and two pairs became non-commissioned officers as soldiers, which felt good.
Ma Bao should communicate with her husband first, then let him communicate with his aunt and parents. Let's sit together and have a meal, and maybe we can solve it. Understanding is the most important thing. I wish Bauer healthy growth and join hands in the future. ...
Yes, one can give grandma your last name. It's good.
When brothers are separated and indifferent from childhood, they are more likely to have differences. Especially the one who left her mother. Maybe she will hate you. what do you think? Children don't take it when they are young, and they can't manage it when they are old! Education should start at an early age.
There is no cause and effect, and we don't know the root cause. I just want to emphasize that my mother-in-law said that she would separate the two children. Is it because she thinks too much? If your mother-in-law works too hard alone, let your grandmother help you, so as not to make your mother-in-law thankless and make you angry. If grandma is inconvenient, please hire a nanny.
Your own children have the final say, and it is normal for two children to fight.
Twins, my mother-in-law says it's not good to bring them together. Let grandma take one?
First, there is something wrong with the mother-in-law's concept of parenting.
What kind of children don't fight? Many families with two children have never heard that two children will be separated because of fighting?
This situation in your family is really a bit strange.
They are all biological children, and it is not good for children to take them separately.
Forget wonderful mother-in-law, can you not be led astray?
Children's education can't be decided by their mother-in-law, but by your husband and wife. This is the principle and bottom line!
Second, why does the mother-in-law have a strong will to send the child away?
If anyone dares to send my child away without my consent, I'll hit her hard!
How dare your mother-in-law send her children away?
Where is your husband? Does the mother-in-law have the final say in everything at home?
Be strong, you are the mother of the child, not the mother-in-law! ! ! !
Many mothers-in-law have a hard time taking care of a child, let alone twins, or it may be that their mothers-in-law are too tired to take care of the child.
The Lord also said that he would help his mother-in-law with the children, and his mother would also help. There is a contradiction between her mother and her mother-in-law.
This is understandable, the life of three women. It is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have conflicts. This needs your husband and wife to reconcile and enlighten.
In short, separating children is the most undesirable practice. Don't think that it doesn't matter if the child is still young. In fact, children know everything.
Never part! My family is also twins, no matter how hard we try, we must let them grow up together.
Our children were separated for three or four days and spent the rest of the time together, except that my brother was ill and was afraid of infecting his brother.
In the few days when my brother was in hospital, as long as I sent a video, my brother would kiss him with his mobile phone. Although he was very uncomfortable, he danced with joy when he saw his younger brother. I was moved to tears.
My brother woke up a few days ago and went to the living room to play. Suddenly got up and walked towards me, looked around and looked at me with questioning eyes. Let me ask you, are you looking for your brother? Brother nodded. I took him to the bedroom and he saw his brother sleeping. He turned around and smiled.
There are too many such stories! This is the emotion and joy that twins bring us. Now that they have come together, don't break them up.
Maybe when they grow up, they will not be together. Now let them play together more!
When I took Bauer, I saw a pair of twins taking it like this, which might help Ma Bao.
Bao Ma gave birth to twin daughters, who were brought up by her mother-in-law, grandmother, Bao Ma and nanny before the baby was less than one year old. After one year old, the nanny was fired, and Ma Bao, grandma and mother-in-law took care of the two babies together. Mother-in-law brings one for herself, and grandma and Ma Bao bring one. Every day, they take their babies out to play together.
We all know how difficult it is to take care of children. It is difficult to take care of one child, let alone two. The mother-in-law suggested that the two children would quarrel, fight together and want to separate. This idea is not good. There is affection between brothers, let alone twins. Although we usually quarrel and fight together, when it comes to separation, we will not be reconciled. My two boys are three and a half years old and fight over toys every day, but when the boss is at school, Bauer always goes to Dabao.
Mother-in-law is so strongly separated from her children, does she think it is not good to live with her grandmother? Many two in-laws will feel uncomfortable living together. But for the sake of children, be patient with each other and you can send them to kindergarten after you are three years old.
Separating two children is really bad for their growth. Those taken away by grandma will lack love because their parents are not around. I was a child who was forced to be sent to my grandmother's house since I was a child. Although my grandmother loves me very much, I am still a loveless child without my parents' love. I have been very sensitive since I was a child.
Ma Bao can tell her mother-in-law that no matter which child is sent to grandma, it will cause harm. When the children grow up, they will ask you why I went to grandma's house and whether you all don't love me.
Two old people bring up two older children together, and the children have companions to play with and grow up together. Isn't it good for two old people to have a companion to talk and chat with?
I believe everyone should know the influence of the environment on people, especially when one's values have not yet been determined. The influence of the environment is not simple, and once this person's values are mature, it is difficult to change.
A child's personality may have innate factors, but the importance of the acquired growth environment to the development of a child's personality and habits can never be ignored. Isn't there a metaphor that a child is born with a whiteboard, and what his life will be like depends on what his parents draw on the whiteboard?
There is a suggestion that grandma takes it during the day from Monday to Friday, one sleeps with grandma at night, and the other rotates breast milk and milk powder the next day. "rain and dew are stained"!
Go back to grandma's house on weekends, take it with grandma and give grandma a holiday. My father, grandfather, grandfather and great-grandmother at home are not idle, and they are all involved.
Actually, I think your mother-in-law is too tired. You can send the children to your grandmother and let her rest for a while. It is difficult to raise two children of the same age.