When a baby is born, naming becomes a big deal for the family. Usually, the baby has several alternative names because it has to be discussed with relatives at home, out of fear of the baby. The name conflicts with the name of an elder. Not to mention, when my daughter was born, she was given a name that really clashed with that of an elder.
I remember that there was a word "wan" in my daughter's name. After she got up, she didn't tell anyone else. She only called her that at home. When the baby was one month old, the child's grandparents Relatives came over. When they heard her daughter’s name, she immediately told her mother-in-law that an elder in the family had the word “wan” in her name and it was better not to call her that. Only then did her mother-in-law suddenly realize that this was indeed the case. It's just that this elder is old and has forgotten her real name.
In a family, a child’s name cannot use the same word as that of an elder, or even have the same sound. This is an old habit, and it is also out of respect for the elders. In ancient times, it was also Such a thing did happen. How did they do it?
For example, when Sima Qian wrote "Historical Records", because his father's name contained "Tan", he directly changed Zhao Tan to "Zhao Tong" and Li Tan to "Li Tong". Liu Wensou of the Qing Dynasty refused to listen to the word "乐" throughout his life because his father's name contained the word "Yue".
The ancients also emphasized that "a son does not speak his father's name, and a disciple does not speak his master's name." That is, younger generations are taboo about calling their elders by their names, and apprentices are taboo about calling their master's name. Even among peers, when addressing each other, Also out of respect for him, he will address him as brother and sister, sir, madam, etc., and he will not call him by his first name. If he does not know the other person's name, he will also add "may I ask for your name" or "what's your surname", etc. This is also It demonstrates the traditional virtues of our Chinese nation, so it has been preserved.
So to this day, some larger families still have such taboos when naming their children. Otherwise, when they call their children, the elders agree. How embarrassing is this? It also shows disrespect for the elders, so when encountering such a problem, the child's name will usually be changed. There are so many words with the same meaning, so there is no need to use a certain word,
But recently, gambling king Stanley Ho gave the "犊" in his name to his eldest grandson. What's going on? The last word of the grandson's name is the same as that of the grandfather. Aren't you afraid of repetition?
It is reported that the 98-year-old gambling king Stanley Ho has just given birth to his eldest grandson. For this big family, the eldest grandson is of great significance, so the grandson’s name was directly chosen by his grandfather, Ho Guangshen, among whom Guang is the oldest in the family. Commonly used in the fifth generation, it is taken from "Qi, Shi, Hong, You, Guang", but the last character is usually chosen by the grandfather, so the gambling king Stanley Ho gave the last character of his name to his grandson, which shows that he is very fond of this The grandson is satisfied, but here comes the problem. The names of the grandson and grandfather are repeated. Isn’t this a taboo?
Actually, this is not a conflict.
First of all, the grandfather gave this name to his grandson on his own initiative. The old man is not afraid of repeating it, let alone the grandchildren disrespecting their elders.
In addition, the grandfather gave this word to his grandson, which also shows the importance he attaches to his grandson. He is the eldest grandson of the fifth generation of the He family, which is of great significance. The gambling king also means to let his grandson inherit the mantle. I am telling you that your grandson’s status is extraordinary and you should take more care of him.
Actually, this does not mean that grandchildren cannot have names with the same accent as their elders. Not only does it not hinder, but it also means receiving blessings from the elders. For example, if the elders like a certain piece of clothing and give it to them, Giving a junior a name means that he likes this junior very much. This also means that an elder gives a name to a junior.
But the name is just a code name. If someone in the family cares about it, try to avoid it. If the family is very open-minded and doesn't care at all, that would be better. You don't have to worry too much about the name, but , Respecting elders is our traditional virtue, and we still have to abide by it.