Why can my uncle represent my uncle's family

This bosom friend, in the traditional society of our country, people often solve family problems through family rules and regulations other than national laws, and it is an unwritten family law for my uncle to intervene in nephew's family affairs. Especially in times and regions where legal concepts are weak, apart from patriarchal clan system, contradictions in individual families are often solved by uncles. Sometimes, when two families have conflicts, they also rely on their uncles to mediate. Especially when a housewife is treated unfairly by her husband or children, the uncle's family, represented by her uncle, will come to the door to comment and argue, and sometimes resort to force to get justice for her family. There is a folk saying that "my uncle is the master of my mother", which is the reason. During the whole transaction, a housewife complained to her family that her uncle was duty-bound to come forward, otherwise she would be laughed at, and the family who had done something wrong was more afraid of her uncle's mediation, or restrained, or changed from evil to good. This shows the important position of uncle (uncle) in nephew's family. The separation to find an uncle mentioned in this section is also the best footnote of this custom. After their children get married, most families choose the way that parents and children start a new stove and live separately, which is called "separation" by the people. Separation is mainly the division of property, that is, the * * * property of family members. When splitting up, the old customs should be offered to ancestors, and the property is generally divided equally among brothers, including sisters in some places. There are two cases of separation: if the parents are in charge while they are alive, and they also get a share of the property, several brothers will still support the elderly together after they get the property, and the brothers will share their parents' share of the inheritance after their parents die. If both parents are dead, the clan leader will preside over and handle the inheritance according to the parents' will or practice. However, in many places, brothers' uncles were invited to preside over the separation. For example, in Hangzhou in the past, the custom was that my uncle was the most important, and the separation was presided over by my uncle. I chose an auspicious day, wrote a "separation letter" and held a "separation wine". When separating, we should also set aside a "court property" to ensure the living expenses of the parents of the separated brothers except meals. Especially when my father died and my mother was still alive, my uncle came forward to preside over the separation, in order to win the pension property and better support treatment for his sister or sister. In the affairs of the nephew's family, especially when it comes to the immediate interests of housewives, my uncle (uncle) often takes the lead and presides over the situation. Even after the death of the housewife, my uncle's role is still unabated. For example, there is a custom in the area around Jieshan, Dongping County, Shandong Province: if a nephew is unfilial, when his mother dies, his uncle will take his son and others with him at the funeral, and blame the unfilial nephew for various reasons, so that his face will be swept away as a punishment. Until someone mediates and the nephew kowtows to admit his mistake, he can stop and allow him to be buried. In fact, in the folk, uncle not only plays an important role in mediating nephew's family affairs, but also plays a very respected role, which can be reflected in many customs circulating around the country. For example, in the old days, when children had a full moon, they were invited to give their relatives a name and the custom of strangulation. My uncle couldn't be present, so a mortar should be placed as a symbol. The Double Ninth Festival on September symbolizes the longevity and well-being of the elderly. In the old days, there was a custom that nephews sent "Denggao" (cakes made of glutinous rice flour) to pay tribute to their uncles. In some places, when marrying a woman, the bride should worship her ancestors, parents, uncles and uncles after leaving the boudoir. The aunts and uncles accompany the bride to the groom's house, and the wedding banquet is presided over by the bride's uncle. The food and drinks must be placed in front of him first to show their dignity. In the old days when Su Beiren married a woman, it was customary for her uncle to "pinch the lock", that is, when the bride left her family, the dowry box should be hung with an open lock, and after the groom had all the "joints" opened, her uncle pinched the lock. Only in this way can the bride become a "legal" groom's family. In the relationship between uncles and nephews, there is a close relationship between uncles and nephews, that is, the so-called friendship between uncles and nephews. This seems to be seen from the following common proverbs, such as "nephews are like uncles", "uncles are close to uncles, and bones are connected with tendons", "pork is not as fragrant as pork, but it is not as close to uncles" and "raising children with uncles". In addition, there is also a phenomenon that people like to compare uncles, which contains the intimate relationship between nephews and uncles and the meaning that uncles are honored, such as "wearing two hats to die my uncle", "Don't wear willows in Qingming Festival, there will be no uncle in future generations" and "Shaving my head to die my uncle in the first month" and so on.