The so-called single family means that there are no brothers and sisters, and there are no family members within the fifth server. In this world, except for parents and children, there is no one who is related to oneself by blood, just oneself. Only in rural areas can such a family be called a single-family household. We all know that to get things done in rural areas, we need a big family to help each other. How can a single-family house like this do anything? Of course, you need the help of your neighbors. The prerequisite is that you should take the initiative to help others when they have something to do at home.
I have a friend who is in this situation. His parents have only had one son in their lives, and he was adopted. When he was looking for a partner, he told his girlfriend that my parents are not his biological parents. You can treat me badly after getting married, but you cannot treat my parents badly. My parents have nurtured me. Because of these words, the girl married him and became his wife.
This friend of mine originally had a good job, but because his adoptive father was sick and paralyzed in bed, and he had no other brothers and sisters, he quit his job and started working on his own. We opened a small shop at home, which made it much more convenient to serve my father. Unexpectedly, the next year, the adoptive mother would also be paralyzed in bed. There were two patients in one bed, and the food, drink, and diarrhea all depended on him, the adopted son.
My friend has a very good relationship with his neighbors. No matter who has big or small problems, he always rushes to help others. If there was a wedding or wedding at someone else's house, he would go to their house early to help with the work. The small shop he opened provided a lot of convenience to the neighbors. For example, if a neighbor drinks wine for weddings or weddings at his house, he will charge the wholesale price for it, which brings convenience and benefits to the neighbors. The neighbors are also very grateful to him. He said that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and one should not only focus on money.
In this way, when his adoptive father and adoptive mother passed away, although he was a single family with almost no family members, many people came to his house to help. Neighbors said that he was usually so enthusiastic about helping others, and when it was his turn to have trouble at home, everyone should naturally go all out to help him.
People living in rural areas know that this kind of thing is mutual. Whether it is between relatives, families or neighbors, if you help others, others will help you. Regardless of whether you live alone or not, you should be polite when coming and going. In fact, this is true for everything.
My family is a single family, without a family.
My parents moved here from other places.
Since the agricultural co-operation, when my family encounters weddings or weddings, I will tell the production team and everyone will help like a family.
After the reform and opening up, there are no production teams, but there are village committees. When you encounter weddings or funerals, tell the village committee, and the village committee will notify all the villagers to help or congratulate you. . This is the superiority of our country’s socialism in rural areas!
It seems that you have never lived in a rural area. Rural people are very united and simple. In their village, they are like a family. You help me and I help you. We don’t charge any money and don’t discuss anything in return. We shoulder everything together and eat meat together.
In rural areas, New Year pigs will be killed in the middle of the twelfth lunar month. This is the best day of the year. I have been busy all year, saving food and money, and may not have eaten fresh meat for a year. In order to celebrate New Year's Eve, I will kill a pig.
Usually, everyone is busy with farm work and doesn’t care about food. When they kill the New Year pig, they will invite people from the village, and almost every family will go. Please, if you kill a New Year pig, you may eat dozens of kilograms of meat that day. It was very lively, as if it was a banquet.
Rural people have no routine in doing things. The customs and etiquette in their hometowns where they have lived for generations are all traditional. They know what to do and what not to do when they encounter anything. Everyone seems to have a score in their heart. .
It's the same with everything. As long as you encounter it, you will put down what you are doing and help others deal with urgent matters.
Because in rural areas, it cannot be a day, at least three days, and some may be longer. They will put down what they are doing and help with mundane tasks. There was no need to invite him at all, but he came after hearing the news.
After years of living, they will subconsciously default to a general manager, and then when something happens, this general manager will also be present. He will be responsible for arranging everyone in the village and arranging Got it right. Regardless of whether they are old or young, they will all listen to the arrangements and arrangements of the general manager and do everything in an orderly manner.
The countryside has the simplicity of the countryside, and the city has the rules of the city. As long as people live for a long time, they will naturally have feelings. If something happens around you, someone will always lend a hand to help. Put it.
Question: In rural areas, how do single-family households do simple things?
In rural areas, there are many adults in the clan doing mundane things, and the atmosphere is grand and lively. A big funeral does not count outsiders, and a few hundred people in the clan can support the facade. If the deceased elderly person was of a very high generation, the whole street would be filled with white people wearing white belts to pay homage. This is a very honorable thing to do when there are many adults in a large household. In fact, when there are many filial sons in a large household, it is easy to do things easily. There are filial sons to maintain the funeral shed and in every scene, so the filial sons can be free to socialize. The main aspects are mourning and ceremony.
However, as it is a small independent household in the village, there are not so many people. There are many people who help. Even in the funeral shed or various scenes, there are not many filial sons. It was deserted, and there were only one or two filial sons inside and outside. When visitors came to mourn, kowtow to the filial piety, offer filial piety clothes, thank the table in the dining room, say goodbye and kowtow filial piety, etc., they were all the filial sons of the busy master, and the chief manager. If something happens, you should always look for a filial son. As soon as the white matter was over, the filial son collapsed from exhaustion.
In rural areas, if a single household wants to do mundane things in a lively manner without getting tired, they should try their best to break the great filial piety. To break the great filial piety is to put all Relatives near and far, as well as those close to them, are given white trousers, white hats, and white shoes, so that filial sons will appear more numerous. Relatives of the younger generation can go to the shed as filial sons, cry with them, and kowtow to filial piety. In this way, the filial sons can be free. Born to socialize with others.
In order to make the day event lively, we should invite more theater troupes or concerts or old Taoist temples to do the dojo, running across the bridge, lion dancing on stilts, Western Tonggu and foreign horns were also invited, and this simple matter was handled in a dignified manner. First of all, you have to have money and be willing to spend money.
If you worship more alliance brothers when you are young, worship him as thirty-six friends, or worship him as one hundred and eight friends, then all the brothers in the white alliance will be alliances. Daughters-in-law are all filial sons, no less numerous than the head of the household.
In rural areas, if a single household is doing simple things, if you want to do it in a prosperous, dignified and lively way, just follow the instructions above, and it will definitely work. As long as you have money, you are still willing to spend it.
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Rural areas generally have large households, prosperous families, and large populations. The vast majority of villages have the same surname and the descendants of the same ancestors. However, there are also some families in rural areas that are not prosperous, or their families are in poor condition, and the household population is getting smaller and smaller. Of course, there are also some families that have moved out of the country, and rural people commonly call them "migrant households". Of course, if the family has a large population, they will naturally have to help with weddings and weddings, making it seem more lively due to the large number of people. On the other hand, for families with a small population, or those who live alone, weddings and weddings will be relatively deserted. So, what should a single household do in rural areas? As a non-governmental observer in the field of "agriculture, rural areas and farmers", Rural Guanzhong introduced rural customs based on local rural facts:
In rural areas, families with a large family have similar blood, so of course they have to help in everyday matters; while families with a small family have similar blood ancestry. When any family encounters something trivial, they will take the initiative to invite neighbors with large families to help. Rural people live in a village and never look up when they look down. There is no urgent matter in any family, and it has become a daily habit for everyone to help each other. .
Moreover, when encountering an innocent incident, it means being separated forever. As long as the relationship is harmonious, everyone will help to take care of it; even if the relationship is average, or there are entanglements between people, they will untie their knots and go to help after encountering an innocent incident. . This tradition has been passed down in rural areas and continues to flourish.
Everywhere in our country we pay attention to courtesy, especially in rural areas. Those with a small household size, or those with a single household, will actively go to help no matter what happens to their neighbors. Even if the neighbors do not come to ask for help, they will take the initiative to ask for help. This forms the concept of "being kind to one's neighbors". ”, the good rural culture of “being a neighbor”. In the words of rural people, helping others is equivalent to helping yourself. In this way, when one's family encounters trouble or other difficulties, other people will come uninvited, so those with a small household size will not have to worry. Therefore, those with a small household population should help more and build more roads for themselves.
With the development of social economy, rural people are getting richer and richer. Most rural young and middle-aged people go out to work or engage in other non-agricultural industries. The rural population is getting smaller and smaller. Whether it is those with a large family household registration or In single-family households, the elderly are basically left at home. When it comes to weddings or weddings, whether it is a family with a large population or a small household, no matter what you need or what you ask for, you have to spend money to ask for help. In this way, it has evolved from purely voluntary help by fellow villagers in the past to paying for help. Cuisine. Therefore, in rural areas, whether you have a large family or a single household, you still have to spend money to handle various things, no matter how many people there are but how few people there are.
In short, as long as we go to rural areas to live our daily lives, the pure mutual help like in the past has become less and less, and has been transformed into material transactions or paid employment. , because rural people’s economic concepts have been deeply ingrained. Therefore, in today's rural areas, there is no need to worry about the size of the household, or the problem of living alone and having no one to help. The development of society and the changes in rural people's concepts have made some of the original rural traditions deeply imprinted in the hearts of rural people today.
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In rural areas, does a single household do simple things? There is always such a custom in rural areas. There are usually more guests for white events than red events, because you don’t need to invite those old relatives in your family for red events. What are old relatives? For example, your grandma’s natal family? Or you don’t have to invite the relatives of the seniors, but it’s different for white events. When doing white events, the first guests you have to invite are the relatives of the seniors. This way you don’t forget your roots, so you get more guests. , if there is no open space in front of the house or behind the house, and there is no place to drop off guests, it will be very difficult!
Single-family households exist in rural areas, but they are rare. As for doing things, it depends on your personality.
In rural areas, generally small families are very easy-going, and the folks in the countryside all behave well. In the past, if a fight broke out, the single family would definitely suffer, no matter how good the relationship was. This was the habit passed down in rural areas, and three punches were used to determine the distance. Another thing is, it is very obvious when it comes to red and white events. There are great advantages in rural areas if there are more people. But then again, if you are strong enough, rich and powerful, you will be alone. Even a single family can roam the countryside. There was an outsider in a neighboring village. His surname was Cheng. He changed his surname to Chen in order to rely on his surname Chen. Jingran was lucky enough to become a village official. He was a villain. I heard from the elders that during the Cultural Revolution, this family was reorganized and that was reorganized. There is no one in the village who doesn't hate him. Later, after he dismounted, the consequences could be imagined. No one in the village looked down on him. He was beaten and scolded regularly. The children also suffered a lot with him.
There is another family, whose hometown is in Henan. He came to Hebei in the 1990s and worked as a waterproofer in the village. After several years of hard work, he made money. He took the initiative to help anyone in the village who had something to do. Everyone in the village praised him. , the family’s household registration has been moved to the village. Now the village’s land expropriation subsidy is shared equally with the villagers by the whole family, and everyone from top to bottom has taken care of it. Otherwise, how could a foreigner be able to gain a foothold in the village.
Therefore, you can’t be too crazy as a person. If you have money, you can’t rely on money, and if you have people, you can’t rely on people. It doesn’t matter if there are many people, a large household, or a single family. It is easy to talk to people sincerely, and if the relationship is good, everything can be said.
In rural areas, when a single household has a wedding, the head of the family has to go to someone else’s house to invite him in person. In our village, whether there is a wedding or a happy event, he has to come to the door to ask for it because his family is a single household and there are no relatives. , he has to ask everyone in his village for help, this is how a single household does nothing.