Postpartum depression is scary. After I gave birth to my eldest son, I suffered from postpartum depression, but the point of depression was not suicide, but divorce. My mentality at the time was like that of an older leftover woman who finds a man to have a child. Once the child is born, the man is worthless. Why do I keep him around to be an eyesore? I don’t want him to stay there any longer. .
I am an only child. When we fell in love, I made the decision first. My surname should be added to the name of the child. When it came time to name it, my husband didn’t agree. I said I had my say first? He said he didn't remember what I said and that they didn't have this custom. The quickest way to make a woman stop loving a man is to make her look down on him.
In my opinion, my husband’s behavior is unreasonable and treacherous. I'm not angry, I'm disappointed and look down on him. At that time, I really wanted to divorce directly and give the child my last name. Although my husband finally added my last name, I felt cold. Men like to challenge women's bottom line, make her cry, and then comfort her, enjoying the joy of being in control. Forget it in normal times, are you still playing tricks on me when it comes to serious matters?
My mother-in-law gave birth to a baby in confinement. It was going well at first, but her family came to cause trouble. Her sister-in-law came to the hospital to see me in black stockings and a miniskirt. The next day, my father-in-law took the baby from my sister-in-law’s house. The twin nephews came and destroyed our house. Because my mother-in-law has passed away, my sister-in-law has been acting as a guest in various ways, just because she came to take care of me.
My personality is that I will keep sinking in my thoughts. If someone interrupts me and talks to me, it will be much better. Postpartum depression, I think, is mainly due to the lack of care for the mother after giving birth. There are a lot of people yelling around, but there are a few people who really care about you. Even though my parents keep saying that they love me the most, I still feel that after giving birth to a child, my family status plummets.
When we gave birth to our second child, we had experience and did not tell his family the specific due date in advance. He only told his family after he gave birth. It was just my husband and me at that time, and it was a warm and calm place. When I entered the delivery room, my husband had tidied up the ward, made the bed, prepared water, and everything was ready. He is a careful person, and he can do a good job when no one makes trouble.
After I came out, I was settled, and under the guidance of the nurse, I made sure that the child was fine. Then we stayed together and chatted gently. What I need is his care. When others come, he has to take care of others. When I give birth to a child, I most want my husband and my parents to be with me.
Compared with the hospital bed next to it, five family members came at the peak. As a result, no one washed the bloody clothes, so they soaked in the toilet basin and took up space. My husband keeps my house clean at night and my mother during the day. When you have a baby, it's not about being around people, it's about being around people who really care about you. Otherwise, the noisier outside, the lonelier inside.