after a man and a woman are in love and mature, they reach the legal age for marriage. If both parties agree to get married, they can go through the medical and health departments designated by the government, and if they are qualified, they can go through the marriage registration formalities at the civil affairs department of the government, get the marriage certificate, and then hold the wedding. Holding a wedding, commonly known as "holding a happy event", is the most grand and exquisite wedding ceremony. Although the government has repeatedly advocated frugality, it often does a lot of things.
common sense of wedding etiquette-determining the wedding date
The traditional etiquette is for the man to find someone to "see the date", choose "an auspicious day", determine the wedding date, and then inform the woman directly or by an introducer. Once the wedding date is set, it is generally not easily changed. The change is considered bad for the man's parents. Nowadays, the wedding date is often determined by both parties. Wedding dates are generally chosen on holidays, such as May 1 ST, July 1 ST, August 1 ST, November 1 ST and New Year's Day, which are festive and memorable, and have time because of holidays; There are more days when the Gregorian calendar and the lunar calendar meet in pairs, which is intended to be in pairs; There are also homonyms for good luck, such as "June 6th" (June 6th), "August 8th" (development), "September 9th" (everlasting), "May 17th" (I want a wife), "May 27th" (I love my wife), "September 17th" (I want a wife) and ". Due to the influence of feudal superstition, some people also find someone to choose a special day.
common sense of wedding etiquette-make preparations before marriage
after the wedding date is determined, you should buy furniture, household appliances, decorate the new house, buy wedding clothes, choose and order wedding dresses, and take wedding commemorative photos. The two parties shall appoint the best man and bridesmaid, notify relatives and friends, and the host (usually the man) shall book the hotel and vehicle, hire the host and guest, and carry out the video recording, photography, salute, band, wedding venue and other matters.
Before the wedding celebration, the following preparations must generally be made:
Four bride price gifts: one piece from the mother's meat; 4 green onions; 2 kg of vermicelli; 2 packs of cotton and sugar. The four bride price is a gift that the groom must bring to the woman's house when he picks up the bride. It takes a knife to leave the mother's flesh and two ribs to show that although the daughter left her mother and got married, she was still connected with her mother's flesh and blood and did not leave her mother. Green onions should take roots, which means that life is abundant and children are smart and reliable. Pink and sugar indicate that marriage is sweet and long-term. Among the four bride price gifts, there are also four kinds of carp (2-4 pieces), rice flour (2 pieces), wine (2 bottles), sugar (2 packets), cigarettes (2 pieces) and tea (2 generations), which are not counted as four bride price gifts because they must be taken away from the mother's meat and green onions.
red blanket (1 piece): used by the bride when changing makeup and sitting in happiness.
red belts (2): the bride and groom wear each other when the bride changes makeup.
red shoes (1 pair): the bride likes to wear them in the car.
wedding flowers: one for the groom, the bride, the best man, the bridesmaid, the witness, the host and the guest flower, four for the wedding ceremony (parents of both parties) and several for the guests.
flowers (3 bunches): the groom presented 1 bunch of flowers to the bride and 2 bunches of flowers to the bride and groom at the ceremony.
hi-wax (4): for the bride to change her makeup and on her wedding night.
whips (not less than 8 hooks): put one hook at the wedding car, one at the woman's house, and two hooks at the new house, the hotel and the ceremony.
salute (18-21): it will be sounded when the bride and groom get off the bus or get married. (Generally, wealthy families have this arrangement.)
Happy words: large-two for the new door and two for the hotel door; Medium-1 car and 1 car for greeting and welcoming; Trumpets and artistic words-several, posted indoors in the new house.
wedding couplets (2 pictures): for new houses and ceremony venues.
flowers (6th generation) and colored stripes (6 barrels): used by the bride and groom when they arrive at their new houses, get off at hotels and get married.
headdress (several): the bride wears makeup.
mother-in-law flower (1 flower): the bride wears it for her mother-in-law.
hairpin (several): used when mother-in-law wears flowers.
flower basket (1): used at the ceremony venue. (It can be replaced by a flower basket on a hi-fi car)
Red paper (1 sheets): used to cover the manhole cover and pad the fruit tray.
fruit candy, cakes, melon seeds and cigarettes: used for reception in new houses, on the rostrum of the ceremony venue and on the gift account table.
double happiness cigarettes and matches (some): used by the bride and groom when toasting.
Le Ballon Rouge (2 cars): 1 car with 2 trailers.
photo albums (at least 4): for the whole wedding process.
axe (1): used by the groom when changing makeup with the bride and sitting in happiness. (The axe is best made of mahogany, and red paper can also be cut)
1-2 sets of gift books, pens and gift account pockets.
Red envelopes for the man's family: the bride changes her mouth, presses the kang, presses the car, changes her shoes, hangs the door curtain and wall clock, lights the bride's cigarette and rewards her dowry, and is used by new children, car lovers, chefs, photographers, videographers, groomsmen, bridesmaids, children offering flowers, hosts and guests. Prepare a few mobile red envelopes.
Red envelopes for the bride's family: the groom changes his mouth and lights a cigarette, presses the bride's waist, rewards the wedding car, presents the bride, rewards the chef when adding dishes, and gives the bride gifts to both sisters-in-law and brother in law, and prepares another packet of coins for the lucky draw.
the woman's house prepares fruit candy cakes and melon seeds; 1 bowl of noodles and 2 poached eggs (for the bride and groom); 1 hang a whip, and like to return to the car; 1 cornucopia and 1 red scarf; A number of red handkerchiefs (thrown by car in case of happiness, given as gifts); 1 door curtain, 1 wall clock and 1 weight (for hanging door curtain and wall clock).
keepsakes exchanged by the bride and groom.
Family communication between the two parties
Before the wedding, the man's family and the host should pay a courtesy visit to the woman's house to communicate and solicit opinions.
The matters that need to be communicated and agreed by the families of both parties are:
(1) The personnel to greet the bride (led by one elder), the number of people to see her off, and the number of children.
(2) How can I get a reward if there are several vehicles for seeing my family off and seeing them off?
(3) Agree on the time, vehicle route, wedding ceremony and agenda. It is clear that the ceremony of changing makeup and taking photos at the woman's house and sitting in the bridal chamber and taking photos should not exceed one hour; The ceremony lasts for 2-25 minutes.
(4) reward communication: the bride and groom change their money, pay for the kang, the bride changes shoes, the new bride pays for the car, hangs the door curtain and hangs the clock, rewards the new bride's children, dowry, gifts and dishes.
(5) Make sure that witnesses, wedding celebration speakers, children who offer flowers, and people who whip flowers.
(6) Return of wedding gifts: 2 green onions and 2 wax.
(7) Make sure that the deacon of the woman's house and the guest of the man's house are in contact with each other directly. Emphasize that the best man carries gifts for the groom and opens and closes the door for the bride and groom to get on and off; Bridesmaids assist the bride in making up and changing clothes; The groomsman and bridesmaid lay the red carpet for the bride, light candles, make preparations for exchanging tokens, drinking a toast and toasting, and take care of the appearance of the bride and groom at any time.
(8) issues related to communication, taboo or attention between the two parties and other related matters.
the entrance ceremony of wedding etiquette-step-touch walking mode
The traditional wedding entrance ceremony is very solemn, especially for church weddings, which pays attention to the ——Step-touch walking mode, that is, the so-called "step-touch-right, step-touch-left" method, that is, after the right foot takes a step, the left foot merges with the right foot, pauses for two seconds, and then the left foot moves forward again. When walking, pay attention to the fact that the stride should be smaller than usual, the stride and speed of the bride and groom should be consistent, and the gait should be gentle and steady. When walking, the bride carries the groom's left arm in her right hand, and be careful not to pull the groom's clothes or tightly encircle the groom's arm. In addition, it is good for the groom to bend his arm naturally. Don't hold the bride's wrist tightly, and it is more appropriate to keep the distance between them at about 15cm.
Newcomers' standing posture in wedding etiquette-straight back, chest and abdomen
A straight standing posture will make people look energetic, while an elegant standing posture will make people look noble. The correct posture of the couple at the wedding is to put their feet together, keep their backs straight, hold their chests out and abdomen in, have a sense of upward stretching on their backs, smile and look straight ahead. Pay attention to not keeping your arms close to your body, and relax your shoulders, so as to ease your tense posture and avoid appearing very stiff. If you want to avoid feeling uncomfortable from standing for a long time, you can separate your toes a little. In addition, when the couple is standing, the groom should be on the right side of the bride. This is an ancient custom. It is said that the bride is on her left, so it is convenient for the groom to draw his sword with his right hand and confront the enemy when necessary, which can better protect the bride.
Turn around in wedding etiquette-the amplitude should be gentle, and the movements should be neat
Newcomers should avoid any big moves if they want to show their noble temperament in the wedding. When you need to turn around, your body should turn with your footsteps at the same time. The turning range should be gentle, and the movements should be neat, but also avoid giving people the feeling of being in a hurry and unstable. If the skirt of the wedding dress or dress is large, you can gently grasp the skirt and skirt support with your hand opposite to the rotation direction and lift it up slightly when you turn around.
Wedding Etiquette Kissing Etiquette-Be affectionate but not forgetful
The kiss of the couple is performed after the official announcement of the couple in the ceremony. When kissing, you can express your feelings of happiness with natural and generous affection, but you should avoid being too forgetful. In a formal and solemn wedding, excessive madness will make people feel that the image of the new couple lacks dignity.
wedding etiquette wedding smile-a smile always makes people happy
smiling is the best way of beauty, and you should keep smiling at the wedding and share your happiness and joy with your relatives and friends. Smiling not only expresses your mood, but also makes you look more beautiful. The secret to avoid the stiff expression caused by a long smile is whether you can make your eyes smile. When making eye contact with the guests, show a smile at the same time, and nod to the guests when necessary. A smile of communication will make your expression more natural and will not become stiff. The bride should avoid laughing, which will deepen the lines of the lip foundation and destroy the overall makeup.
Bow and bow during the wedding etiquette trip-just lean forward 15-2 degrees
Bowing is a traditional way of greeting in China, and the depth of bowing, that is, the angle of leaning forward, is the degree of expressing gratitude to the other party. In traditional Chinese weddings, a deep bow, that is, a 9-degree bow, is required to express the highest degree of gratitude. However, the common bow etiquette now does not need to adopt the deep bow ceremony completely. Generally speaking, just lean forward 15-2 degrees and pause for 2 seconds.
The bride should pay attention to avoid putting her hand on her chest to prevent exposure. This posture is not beautiful, but also shows a lack of sincerity and respect for the guests. In fact, to prevent exposure is not to cover with your hands, but to pay attention to the fit and appropriateness of clothes. In addition, it should be reminded that when the bride and groom bow and bow, their movements should be harmonious and consistent.
Exchange rings for wedding etiquette-solemnity and carefulness
In church weddings, besides flower girl, there is usually a ringbearer who follows the couple and walks into the ceremony together. If there is no ringbearer, the groom's ring should be kept by the bridesmaid and the bride's ring by the best man. When the bride and groom exchange tokens during the ceremony, the bridesmaid gives the groom's ring to the bride, and then the bride puts the ring on his left ring finger for the groom. When wearing a ring, the groom should bend his elbow and reach his hand to a natural height. The bride holds the groom's hand with her left hand, and holds the ring with her thumb, forefinger and middle finger of her right hand, and puts it on the groom's ring finger. If you can't put it on because you are nervous, don't worry about raising his hand and putting it on your eyes carefully, so the photos will be very ugly. The same is true for the groom.
Flower ball throwing in wedding etiquette-transmitting the happiness of marriage to unmarried sisters
The ceremony of flower ball throwing in wedding symbolizes transmitting the happiness of marriage to unmarried sisters. It is said that the lucky woman who receives the flower ball will soon become a happy bride. When throwing the bouquet, the bride should smile, bend her arms naturally, and don't stretch out too straight. Just throw the bouquet to a higher and lower position with a little force, and the movement range should not be too large.
throwing socks in wedding etiquette-passing happiness on to brothers
throwing socks in wedding is a traditional western wedding custom. At the wedding, the bride usually wears two socks above the knee of her right leg. One of these two socks is kept, and the other is taken off by the groom after she throws the bouquet, and then thrown behind the unmarried man's back. This ceremony, like throwing the bouquet, means passing happiness on to the brothers.
Wedding dance of wedding etiquette-Pay attention to the dance order
In western-style weddings, a dance is usually arranged after the ceremony. With the dance music playing, the bride and groom step onto the dance floor to start the first dance. According to traditional customs, the order of dancing is as follows:
A. The groom &; Bride
B. The father of the bride &; Bride; The groom & Mother of the bride
C. Father of the groom &; Bride; The father of the bride &; Mother of the bride; The groom & Mother of the groom;
D. The father of the bride & Mother of the groom; The groom's father &; Mother of the bride;
e. Best man & Bride; The groom & Bridesmaid;
F. Then other guests began to dance on the dance floor.