What kind of marriage troubles are normal, rational, and worth promoting? Regarding the behavior of marriage quarrels, Duan Xinxing believes that rational marriage quarrels should be advocated. She said that the wedding host requires liveliness, which is in line with traditional customs and the psychology of young people. It can not only increase the popularity of marriage and love, but also heighten the atmosphere of the celebration. She hopes that some Easter egg programs can be set up in the form of wedding banquets: such as naming the future baby, guessing the compatibility of two people back to back, literary dramas such as Feihualing's pick-up line, asking couples to do some guessing games, body language expressions, important date games, etc. . Zhang Jing also supports and advocates rational marriage. She believes that nowadays people's economic and living environment have undergone tremendous changes, and the form of wedding banquets should be more civilized. For example, you can make a commemorative video for the bride and groom, conduct various talent shows, recall the details of the bride and groom when they first met, etc. "It should be advocated to use civilized and interesting ways to enhance the joy and liveliness of the wedding scene." Duan Xinxing, a psychology expert, professor and doctoral supervisor at the School of Public Management of China University of Mining and Technology. Photo courtesy of interviewee How to avoid vulgar wedding troubles during a wedding? "Psychology believes that social customs have extremely strong inertia, and changes in individual behavior will be greatly affected, and social situations will affect individual choices." Duan Xinxing gave the following suggestions on how to avoid vulgar marriage troubles. The first is to communicate well. The first is to communicate with the officiant and when arranging the wedding process, try to avoid some vulgar and harmful wedding noises in the process. Second, the parents of the bride and groom should clearly inform their relatives and friends, especially relatives who like weddings to be careful. Third, newcomers should communicate with their friend group in advance to avoid inappropriate behavior. Fourth, if the couple comes from different places and has different customs, they should fully communicate before arranging the ceremony to understand each other's bottom line and unacceptable parts, so as not to cause embarrassment at the wedding. Secondly, start from yourself, hold a unique and interesting wedding, pay more attention to the couple during the wedding process, keep it as short as possible, and do not leave enough space for wedding drama. In recent years, Zhang Jing has noticed that the Ministry of Civil Affairs has been advocating to crack down on vulgar marriages. She suggested that to avoid the occurrence of vulgar weddings, local civil affairs bureaus, women's federations, street communities, etc. must jointly launch an action to stop vulgar weddings, stop high-priced betrothal gifts, stop accepting high-priced wedding gifts, and prohibit extravagance, waste, and extravagant weddings. wait. Secondly, the method of exposure can be used to expose cases of unruly marriages and carry out criticism and education or public security management penalties. For those who infringe on personal rights and property rights, detention can be adopted. Thirdly, social media should also help young people establish positive wedding etiquette that is in line with the positive energy of society, and strengthen publicity, reporting and guidance. In addition, we can also advocate the form of collective wedding to effectively avoid extravagance and waste and avoid vulgar marriage troubles.