Let's summarize the ways to overcome procrastination, hoping to help this friend.
1, comparative method-let yourself accept it psychologically.
When I think deeply about why procrastination happens, I realize that procrastination is actually a kind of self-deception. We are naturally lazy, which I have to admit. If I had a comfortable and warm bed, I wouldn't want to get up and go outdoors in cold weather. Since ancient times, we humans have evolved a function of self-protection, that is, to stay away from harm and tend to be beneficial. This will enable us to survive better in harsh environment, which is an inherent mechanism of our brain. Then the essence of procrastination is also related to this. We prefer to do simple and happy things rather than work that makes us miserable.
Then, I took advantage of this feature and invented the contrast method, which is actually deceiving my own brain, because our brains are not comparable and are easily deceived. For example, someone may take a taxi to store B and buy a pen from store A, 30 yuan, and spend 15 yuan.
This method is to choose another task B from your task list that is easier than the task A you don't want to do at this time, and then tell yourself that A and B must complete one at this time, and you can choose by yourself. Then, as a brain, you must think that B is easier, so do it. In fact, there may be tasks C, D and E that are easier to do than B, so we successfully deceived ourselves, so that we no longer feel afraid psychologically and can act immediately. Then, we can find a more difficult task S than A, so that we have reason to do A. This is a self-deception method, but it is very effective.
2. Cut off the interference source-make yourself more focused.
There are many interference sources in our life, such as mobile phones, computers and the Internet. When we want to concentrate on one thing, especially when we are doing something that we really want to put off until tomorrow, a short message from another person may distract us from doing other things, and even it is difficult to return to the original state. What we have to do is to simplify all the interference sources around us and cut off everything we think may interrupt our attention. When I am writing an article myself, I will disconnect the internet, turn my mobile phone to mute, find a quiet environment and start writing until I finish. This state of concentration is very important. I may have done something that took two hours to dawdle, but I may have finished it in less than an hour. Then I can use the time saved to relax completely. In this way, the task is completed and you can have a good rest.
3. No multitasking-it becomes simple and efficient.
Although our brain is a multi-tasking operating system, we can take a bath while singing and cook while listening to music. But sometimes, single-threaded work can keep our attention high and let us finish the task faster, thus reducing the number of procrastination and cultivating the good habit of finishing it immediately.
4. Don't pursue perfection-give yourself a low starting point.
Sometimes, because of our pursuit of perfection, we feel anxious about all kinds of possible problems before we start doing something. The final result is that I dare not start and delay the task. In fact, we can set a very low starting point for ourselves. For example, if I want to do 200 push-ups in one breath, I can only do 10 on the first day and increase it to 15 on the second day. This starting point is very low, and I am more willing to believe that I can finish it innocently, so I dare to set out instead of just staying in the fantasy stage. Most of the tasks we put off are because we think it is too difficult and painful. When we lower the starting point, we will do it immediately.
5. Believe in your own strength-never lose heart.
The person I hate most is telling others all day: "You can't, you can't, your idea is stupid." This kind of person doesn't know how many people with dreams have been obliterated, making the colorful world of others gloomy and helpless. If you believe in yourself, you should ignore those weak people. They say you can't do it because they haven't done it themselves.
In fact, there is such a person in each of us. When we face difficulties, a voice will tell us, "You can't do it, you can't do it, it's difficult and painful." If it were a real person, we might tell him angrily, "I can do it!" " "However, if I were myself? How much courage do we have to overcome our inner cowardice? It is with the voices of these weak people that we have shaken our firm belief and the idea of how much we can change the world has been delayed so far. I think there is only one solution-start now, and once you start, you will be fearless.
6. It's ridiculous to wait for others-the only person who is really reliable is himself.
Sometimes there is only one real way to complete a task, and that is to do it yourself. We must never have the idea of entrusting others, because it is very unreliable. Even if this person is as accurate as a clock, the battery will stop when it runs out. Sometimes we expect others to do something, so it is better to do it ourselves. Although it is painful, we can control our own work progress instead of trying to urge others.
7. Create a list of procrastination tasks-even if we procrastinate, we should be handsome.
Well, if we really can't overcome procrastination, why don't we use this bad habit to serve us? Bohua set himself a list of procrastination tasks. In this list, I have listed many things that I don't usually have time to do-such as studying gardening and reading an interesting book. Everything in these lists is meaningful and not offensive. Whenever I really don't want to continue doing something, I will open the procrastination list and pick one thing to do. This can not only satisfy your desire to procrastinate, but also do things that you usually don't have time to do.