Giving a baby a name can be regarded as an important matter for the whole family, so how should young parents choose the name given to their baby by their elders? From the moment you find out you're pregnant, your parents, parents-in-law, or other elders may be thinking about naming your baby. You may feel that it is your right to name your baby, not your elders’, because after all, it is your child. If this is the case, it is recommended that you tactfully but clearly explain to your elders as early as possible that you want to name the baby by yourself. They may be a little unhappy at first, but usually respect your suggestions. Don't be embarrassed to say that after they rack their brains to make suggestions, you finally don't want to use the name given to the baby by the elders. That will cause greater discomfort. If the elders want to name the baby according to the family tree, and you agree to this arrangement, then you can still retain part of your right to name the baby, which is the last character of the name (if the baby's name is three words).
If you don’t want your baby to be named based on the family tree, but you don’t want to contradict the elders for it, maybe you can compromise and choose a word with the same sound as the family tree instead. No matter what your final decision is, try to negotiate with your elders to resolve it. After all, you are all working for the same baby. Of course, if you like the name given to your baby by your elders, then you will naturally accept it.
Why can’t we have the same name as our elders?
Everyone knows that the development of surnames is important for regulating human reproduction and the development of social ethics. Later, with the increase in population and the development of culture, it was difficult to distinguish the same clan and region with the same surname and the same group, and production and life were prone to confusion. Although adding surnames to first names can further regulate population mobility, the organization of social production, etc., if the same name is weak among clans, chaos in social management and ethics will already occur. At the same time, with the development of heredity and education, human beings' reverence for heaven and earth, and the improvement of economic rights, human beings need to constantly absorb the experience of previous lives, regulate the production and life of future generations, respect rights, and have ancestors' wisdom reflected in social behavior, they must learn to inherit It, this kind of spiritual development must be expressed in material forms, such as advocating political power, saints, and even weapons and names that represent rights. In family management and cultural inheritance, people must not have the same name or character as their ancestors. This is naturally inherited in naming. The names of ancestors and elders cannot be called directly. We dare not call our elders by their first names, and we cannot even tell others their names. If we mess up etiquette and challenge ethics and authority, it will be difficult to live up to our standards. This is also the normative requirement of human beings for their own development. Regardless of whether they speak or write, the Han people avoid mentioning the names of their ancestors and elders. Sima Qian wrote "Historical Records" because his father's name was "Tan", so he changed "Zhao Tan" to "Zhao Tong" and "Li Tan" to "Li Tong"; during the Six Dynasties, some people avoided the family taboo "Tong" In the Qing Dynasty, Liu Wensou, because his father's name was "Yue", refused to listen to "Le" throughout his life. It can be seen that the family taboos in the past dynasties were strict. Until now, it is still taboo for children to call their elders by their first names, let alone their nicknames. Words that have the same name or have the same sound as their elders are also taboo. What is especially taboo is that the name of the younger generation must not be the same as the name of the elders, or have homophones or homophones. Otherwise, it is considered disrespectful to one's elders and an act of "deceiving one's ancestors". When the younger generation calls the elders, they should generally use the generational title instead of the first name, such as grandpa, grandma, grandpa, grandma, dad, mom, etc. This type of title can clearly indicate the seniority relationship and also contains the meaning of respect. This is not only true between the eldest and younger generations within the family, but also between the eldest and younger generations in the master-disciple relationship. As the saying goes, "A son does not speak his father's name, and a disciple does not speak his master's name." Not only are younger generations tabooed in calling their elders by their names, even among peers, there are also taboos when addressing them. In interpersonal communication, it is often out of respect for the other party that it is not appropriate to call him or her by his or her first name. Generally speaking, we refer to each other as brother, brother, sister, sister, sir, madam, comrade, master, etc. When you have to ask the other person's name, you should politely say "Excuse me for your name", "What is your name" and so on. For example, in Shaanxi, Shanxi, Beijing, and Shandong areas, after marriage, others no longer call a person by his first name, but call him "so-and-so's father" and "so-and-so's mother" according to the names of his children. In most places among the Han people, wives call their husbands "outside", "shopkeeper" and "head of the household"; husbands call their wives "inside", "cooking" and "inside the boss". Now there are also "such-and-such man", "such-and-such woman", "such-and-such old man", and "such-and-such wife".
Although it is troublesome to say this and also points out another person's name, because it is not his own name, it can be regarded as not calling him by his first name, so there is no taboo.
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