In legal report, a couple sold their daughter. Sixteen years later, their son received a bone marrow transplant and her daughter refused. He said, "If you don't agree, you will be ruined!"
This is a true story, which happened in a remote village in northern Jiangsu. After Chen Ling and her husband gave birth to a daughter, the whole family was disappointed. In the countryside, they preferred sons to daughters and could not lift their heads.
So Chen Ling decided to have a second child. In 1996, Chen Ling became pregnant again. I thought it must be a boy this time, but the result was disappointing. I didn't expect it to be a girl.
The elders in the family feel unlucky. They don't welcome this girl and think she is a jinx. Therefore, after discussion with the elders, no one wanted to raise the girl, so they decided to give away their newborn daughter and promised that they would never see each other again.
They sent their children to Changshu, Jiangsu, 3 miles away. Zhang Jianhong was a farmer and had three children with his ex-wife. Unfortunately, they all died of illness. In Zhang Jianhong's mind, he especially wants a healthy child, regardless of boys or girls, who will be treated equally.
Zhang Jianhong is a kind and just person. He decided to adopt this child and named it Nana to bring her up. However, his wife did not agree, and after knowing this, she divorced herself.
Zhang Jianhong, who was lonely and helpless, adopted this child. He never regretted this choice, and since then, father and daughter have lived together.
One year after sending her daughter away, Chen Ling became pregnant again, burning incense and worshiping Buddha. This time, she finally gave birth to a boy. The whole family was immersed in this joy, and felt that there was finally a family member to carry on the family line, and named the little boy Yangyang.
Yangyang is particularly cute since he was a child. He eats fat for nothing and is held in the palm of his hand by his family, which can be said to be the pride and continuation of the whole family. However, when Yang Yang was 14 years old, he was terminally ill. After going to the hospital for examination, it was like a bolt from the blue, and the family's world collapsed instantly.
He suffers from myelodysplastic syndrome, which is incurable, similar to leukemia. Even if the match is successful, it will eventually recur, which can only prolong his life and cannot be completely cured.
The doctor said, "This disease is a genetic disease. Only brothers and sisters with the same bone type can match successfully!"
The family will never give up, and the last hope is that even if the son lives one more day, he will strive for an early match. Chen Ling had an eldest daughter and immediately took him to the hospital to check the match. However, the results showed that the two could not match.
At this moment, Chen Ling suddenly unlocked the secret that had been hidden for 16 years. He said to the doctor, "My son is very lucky. I have a little daughter. The person who gave it to me 16 years ago may be able to match it successfully and may save his life!"
So Chen Ling found her little daughter's adoptive father and confessed to Nana: "I am your biological mother, and this is your sister next to me. Your brother needs you to donate bone marrow. Only you can match successfully. You must help him!"
Chen Ling hoped that Nana would take the initiative to save her brother. Nana's adoptive father was kind-hearted and sympathetic to Yang Yang's experience. At the same time, Nana agreed and took her to the hospital for examination. The results showed that Nana and Yang Yang could match each other completely.
However, the adoptive father said, "Now Nana wants to take the college entrance examination, so she can only wait until after the college entrance examination, otherwise it will affect her future!"
Chen Ling refused to live or die, crying with a runny nose and tears. The adoptive father relented and said, "Matching is ok now, but you must pay a deposit, otherwise Nana's life cannot be guaranteed!"
However, Chen Ling turned against anyone. She felt that Nana and her adoptive father had tricked her, and there was no money on her. Chen Ling began to go to extremes, and she spoke wildly to ruin Nana. On her local township streets and the school gate, she posted "Only recognize money but not people, completely losing the essence of being a man!"
He wantonly slandered Nana with a megaphone, calling her dehumanizing, and the six parents denied it. At that time, Nana was going to take the college entrance examination, and because of this, she became a celebrity in the school. She was determined not to donate bone marrow and did not recognize this mother.
Chen Ling had to be reasonable and tide wait for no man. He went to legal report to accuse his daughter Nana and his adoptive father of crimes, and he wanted to get justice for himself and his son.
However, the result was just the opposite. No one sympathized with her experience, and the comment area also made people scream.
The netizen said: It is a wise move for girls to be ashamed of having such a biological mother and refuse to match their parents. Besides, even if the younger brother is successfully matched, his body will be destroyed for life.
Some netizens also said: This is the real version of the newspaper, and it is also a kind of moral kidnapping. A mother is not as good as a father. Whoever gives a child a kiss is a relative. If it were me, I wouldn't match it.
Many people think that the wicked will get what they deserve, and Chen Ling's behavior will be condemned by heaven, but this is not the case. Finally, Chen Ling found a suitable match. Although this person is not Nana, he managed to survive.
This matter has been controversial since legal report was broadcast. As the subject asked, how terrible is it to prefer sons to daughters? The above example is the best answer.
First, it is the same for boys and girls. If someone has the idea of favoring boys over girls, it can only be said that it is a feudal and backward behavior.
Nowadays, people are very open-minded, and boys bear the same burden as girls, whether at work or at home. In backward rural areas, there will still be the idea of son preference, which is a kind of material backwardness and will only cause misfortune to girls' lives.
I am also a girl, so I dropped out of junior high school and went to work. I earned money for my family for 1 years, about 3, yuan, but my parents didn't give me a penny. Now that I'm married, they didn't give me 15 thousand bride price.
But I'm awake, and I don't want to be squeezed by them. I also want to tell girls like me not to compromise and give in blindly in the face of parents who prefer boys to girls, but to defend their own interests.
Second, in today's era when the ratio between men and women is unbalanced, we should pay more attention to girls.
Some girls are better than boys. They are independent in spirit and economy, and have made great achievements in their careers, but they are not necessarily worse than boys. Therefore, parents should be more far-sighted, cultivate their daughters with care, give her the best education, care for the girl's growth, and don't leave a shadow in her childhood.
There are tens of millions of bachelors in China today, and the reason for this is that the elders prefer sons to daughters. They all think that boys have to carry on the family line and continue the fireworks at home, while girls have to get married sooner or later. As the so-called married daughters throw out water, they are unwilling to invest a penny in them. This is a wrong idea and will only cause a family misfortune.
Third, if your child hurts himself, both boys and girls should be treated equally to avoid similar tragedies.
A woman like Chen Ling doesn't know how to love her daughter at all, and even her own flesh and blood can be sold at will. Such behavior is simply inhuman. In real life, such women are everywhere. In order to give birth to a boy, they did not hesitate to have an abortion and killed countless lives before changing to a boy. This way is not desirable.
As long as it is a child born by oneself, whether it is a boy or a girl, it should be taken care of in the palm of your hand, giving her a loving world and treating boys equally, so as to have a healthy and perfect family.
Write it at the end:
As a qualified parent, we should keep a level bowl of water when raising children, and we should not raise one and belittle the other. Only parents lead by example, as well as the correct three views and soul, can we cultivate healthy and sunny children and give them a bright future and mentality.
A woman in Nantong, Jiangsu Province, who trampled her granddaughter, who was born only four days ago, was forgiven by her family and was finally sentenced to 1 years in prison.
The People's Court reported on December 2, 216 that at about 1 pm on November 24, 215, Hong Ling, a 29-year-old woman, suddenly found that her four-day-old daughter was missing in the obstetrics and gynecology ward of Rudong County Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine in Nantong City, Jiangsu Province. After watching the surveillance video, the police determined that it was the child's grandmother Zhang Aifen who quietly took away and killed the baby girl.
It's shocking enough that a baby girl who lived for only four days was killed, and it's even more shocking that the murderer was her own grandmother! What is the reason for grandma to kill her newborn granddaughter?
It turns out that the second child of my daughter-in-law gave birth to a girl, which made my grandmother, who was eager to have grandchildren, disappointed and had no joy! After the daughter-in-law gave birth to her granddaughter, grandma was still busy and exhausted. Thinking of having to bear the heavy responsibility of raising two granddaughters in the future, she became a "child slave" with a baby, and strong remorse welled up in her heart. Zhang Aifen feels that all the troubles and contradictions are caused by this second granddaughter. So, on that exhausted night, her murder was very turbulent-
But fatigue is not the source of murder, and fatigue can also be a joyful pay, just because the granddaughter's fatigue makes grandma feel meaningless and hopeless. The patriarchal thinking that goes deep into the bone marrow even makes her feel that her granddaughter is not a grandson, but a burden!
For a long time in China, son preference is like a malignant tumor, which has spread everywhere in China and squeezed the blood vessels of every woman in China for 5, years. In the past 5, years, every newborn baby girl was not allowed to take the first breath of her life, and every girl in China was unable to enjoy the pure affection and blood love of her parents. Every wife was regarded as a fertility tool, so was her husband's family, even her mother's family ...
Under this distorted concept, a wife could not have a son, and her husband had three wives and four concubines. It is understandable that the daughter born was abandoned or even killed-after all, sooner or later, the girl will be a fertility machine for others!
In the long history of 5, years, how many tragedies have been brewed by this concept, how many dry bones and deep abyss of fate have not yet recovered women's dignity, and how many long hairs can measure the pain of women for 5, years! However, the most desperate tragedy is that no one realizes it is a tragedy at all!
Up to now, this man-eating demon is still following like a shadow, lurking in the depths of some people's souls. Once controlled by this demon, it's like a zombie that won't die for 5, years and will be resurrected to burn the world into hell unscrupulously!
In today's society, the traditional thinking of son preference has been much less toxic. Not everyone will crush their granddaughter like the grandmother in Nantong, Jiangsu Province, but it is still a common phenomenon to love children more than daughters. Especially in rural and urban areas!
The second child policy was not opened a few years ago. Cousin gave birth to a boy, and the elders often say, "Your cousin's life is good! The first child is a boy and there is no need to regenerate. " In fact, even the cousin herself thinks so. Everyone thinks that if a girl is born, she will have another one even if she violates the law and fines money.
Why is it so important to have a son in China's traditional thought?
as the saying goes, raise children to prevent old age. Under the background of ancient patriarchal society and agricultural civilization, men, as a powerful labor force, can indeed support their children to prevent old age. But in modern society, where is raising children to prevent old age. Most people are adopted children, not only to support him for the first half of his life, but also to buy a house and a car for him to marry and plan for the second half of his life. On the contrary, raising a daughter is much more intimate.
It is more important to pass on the clan than to raise children for old age. Many people in China have the custom of setting up ancestral halls. What is a ancestral hall is the same surname and ancestor. Since ancient times, surnames have always followed the father, not the mother. In China people's mind, the surnames of in-laws should be passed down, and it is impossible to pass down surnames after giving birth to girls. Therefore, whenever a large family has only a daughter, it will ask the son-in-law to adopt a son-in-law in order to carry on the family line.
At this level, having a daughter is also considered childless. In ancient times, women didn't even have a family name for a generation, so they took their husband's family name after marrying him. Married women in costume films are often Chen Yanshi and Chen Wangshi. This Chen is the husband's family name. The ancients often said that the married daughter spilled water. What's the use of having a daughter in water under the bridge? !
This idea of passing on the family is the core cancer that dominates the preference for sons over daughters. But how difficult it is to get rid of this cancer. After the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, surnames became a belief of China. We worship our ancestors, compile genealogy, emphasize the recognition of ancestors, emphasize whether to change your name or not, and emphasize not to forget your surname. But never stressed that even a daughter, she is still alive with your blood, and she is also a life with independent personality!
So, I just want to ask, in today's open society, are surnames and gender really more important than life? !
how terrible is the preference for boys over girls?
My neighbor gave birth to six daughters in her life, and the last one gave birth to a son.
The more he hates his daughters, the more they come in pairs. According to his wife, when he gave birth to the last pair of twins, he blindly thought that it must be his son, and the midwife was busy in the house. He caught chickens outside and said that his wife could eat better and he could fatten up his son.
I just caught the chicken.