Have you ever met this situation:
If children are n
Have you ever met this situation:
If children are not satisfied, they cry, throw things, or grab toys with children, or even hit other children.
Some parents think that children have a bad temper, but in fact, children just don't know how to handle it correctly and express their emotions.
In the face of the above situation, as parents, how should we help children deal with emotions correctly?
Let children know their emotions.
In children's minds, they don't know what emotions are, let alone how to deal with them.
Parents should take their children to understand their emotions together in the following ways:
1. Tell children what is happiness, what is injustice, what is sadness, etc. For example, say to your child, "You are happy when you eat sugar, but you are sad when you are criticized by your mother."
The child comes back from kindergarten every day and asks him, "Did you have a good time today?"
Let children know their emotions, be aware of their emotions, and let children become masters of their emotions.
2. Take children to see emotional picture books, and let them know more about emotions through vivid and interesting stories in the picture books.
When reading picture books, interact with children more, for example, ask children more: "Why are pigs crying?" Is it sad? What should I do if I am sad? "
Through stories, children will realize that it is normal to have emotions and it is ok to handle them correctly.
Let children name their emotions, such as "Happy Elf", "Angry Little Monster" and "Sad Little Prince".
When the child is angry, tell him, "Look, the angry little monster is coming to see you again?"
Emotion is abstract. By giving it a name, children can have a sense of picture and tell them that emotion is his good friend, so that children can get along with it more easily.
In fact, it is not so difficult for children to understand emotions. Parents should enter the world of their children. Through the child's perspective, it is the basis of correctly handling emotions to visualize the emotions that children encounter in their daily lives and help them establish emotional awareness.
Pay attention to children's emotions
There is no right or wrong emotion. Children's emotions are real, reasonable and meaningful.
When children show emotions, it must be that their needs are not met.
For example, if you don't sleep at night and jump about in bed, your parents will be fierce and your children will cry.
The reason may be that parents don't play with them during the day, children want their parents to accompany them, and they don't want to sleep at night.
Another situation is that what children say is often ignored. For example, he wants to play games and draw pictures with adults, but he often gets no response from adults.
Only when crying, parents will pay attention to it, and children will find crying useful. When they are dissatisfied, they will repeat their old tricks.
As parents, we should pay attention to children's needs and accept their emotions.
For example, children don't want their parents to go to work and cry sadly.
Parents can tell their children like this: "Baby, mom and dad know you are sad, but going to work is mom and dad's job, just like going to kindergarten, and mom and dad can play with you on weekends."
Let children feel understood and respected, and their emotions will be partially channeled.
Among Maslow's needs, respecting needs is the second demand in the pyramid.
Respecting children's needs can make children full of confidence in themselves and enthusiasm for society, and it is easier for children to play their own values.
Help children express their emotions correctly
In addition to letting children understand and respect emotions, parents should also help children express their emotions correctly.
Tell your child that when you are unhappy, you can not only express it with actions and crying, but also speak it out to help your child establish the relationship between language and emotion.
For example, if a child's toy is robbed, he will say, "My toy was robbed, I am very sad, and I want to cry." Children's emotions will be weakened by 80%, and language is the outlet of emotions.
The method of "speaking out" can help children relieve emotional stress.
Usually parents can practice expressing emotions with their children, such as playing role-playing games with their children.
At the same time, parents can also say more emotional expressions to enrich their children's vocabulary.
When children encounter emotional problems and can express themselves, their emotional management level will also improve.
Emotional stability is the key factor for children's healthy growth. Parents should give more guidance. A child with stable emotions will also have a sense of control over his life.
I hope every parent can be a good emotional guide for their children, help them deal with interpersonal relationships, find the value of life and live a more exciting life.