Before students enter school, they may not know their own names well. When they enter the campus, classmates and teachers will frequently call their names. A good-sounding name will make students full of confidence. A name that is too strange or ambiguous will make students full of confidence. Names can cause students to have an inferiority complex.
Since ancient times, our country has had the tradition of sons taking their father’s surname. However, with the development of society, people’s ideas have changed, and with the continuous improvement of women’s status, many families also have sons taking their father’s surname. In the case of mother's surname, if the mother's surname is too rare, or the father's surname is embarrassing, generally consideration will be given to letting the child take the mother's surname.
There is a man in Jiangxi with a special surname, "Cao". In real life, this surname is relatively rare. This man said that when he was in school, he was often called various names by his classmates because of his surname. Nickname, although the classmates did not mean any harm, but seeing classmates making fun of his name made him feel a little uncomfortable.
I thought that as they grow older, senior students would be less likely to discuss their surnames. Unexpectedly, after entering college, many students would still make fun of their surnames.
It may seem to other students that this is a normal joke among classmates, but for this male classmate, because he has been nicknamed by his classmates because of his last name since he was a child, now he sees it again The classmates around him were still like this, and they even started naming their future children, which not only made him feel disappointed. At that time, I had secretly made up my mind that my children would never have their own surname in the future, and they would definitely take their mother’s surname.
This man with the surname "Cao" did not want his son to take his mother's surname. During the whole study process, he was often nicknamed by his classmates. For the sake of his son's physical and mental health, he decided to let his son take his mother's surname. .
Unexpectedly, grandma disagreed. In order to give her grandson a satisfactory name, grandma mobilized a lot of brain cells, just to give her grandson a nice and loud name, and more importantly, not to be ignored. His classmates laughed at him, so his grandma came up with a clever trick and named him "Cao Shuai", which meant that he would become more handsome in the future, and his parents also approved of this.
I thought that the "Cao Shuai" classmate could grow up happily like other classmates. Unexpectedly, after going to school, he was still nicknamed by his classmates. Many classmates did not know the correct pronunciation of his name. Instead, they called it "sloppy", which made the family feel very distressed. They were too hasty in naming their child. They didn't think of this homophone at first.
In fact, judging from the name "Cao Shuai" alone, it is pretty good and has a good meaning. It will bring motivation to students in the future learning process. However, the problem of homophones is ignored. As a result, after going to school, he was often called "sloppy" by students.
When naming students, parents must avoid uncommon and traditional Chinese characters. If the teacher does not even recognize them, it may reduce the number of questions asked in class. Over time, students will feel that the teacher is I don't like myself, even when my classmates are playing after class, they will not call the students' names because the other person's name is too difficult to pronounce.
Secondly, avoid ambiguity when choosing names. Many students have common surnames. There is no problem with the names alone. However, when names are combined, ambiguity will arise. For example, this "Huang Shang" and "Huang Shang" There is nothing wrong with classmate "Tang Bohu"'s last name, but when pronounced together with his first name, there will be ambiguity. In order to avoid embarrassment, the teacher will deliberately reduce the number of questions in class.
In addition, parents should not be too cumbersome when naming their students. For lower grade primary school students, they must write their names first for every exam. If there are too many strokes, it will be a big challenge for them. Maybe other students have already answered two questions, but I am still struggling with my name, and I am already lagging behind at the starting line.
Giving a child a thousand pieces of gold is not as good as teaching a child an art, and teaching a child an art is not as good as giving a child a good name. The impact of names on students cannot be ignored. Even if they enter college, too unique names will still cause trouble to students.
For example, this classmate "Qu La La" has not dared to skip class for four years in college. The teacher may not know her as a person, but she remembers her name in her heart. Every time her name is called, she can't escape the teacher's " Dharma Eye".
Whether a name sounds good or not not only affects the student's mood, but also reflects the educational level of the parents. Whether the student takes his father's surname or his mother's surname, parents must think carefully and carefully when choosing a name. Don't do it arbitrarily.