Before preparing to have a second child, it is best to discuss it with the eldest child and ask him what he thinks so that he can be mentally prepared. After the second child is born, let the eldest child participate more in the affairs of the second child. For example, You can let the eldest baby take the second baby's name to cultivate the relationship between them. You can also praise the eldest baby more when you ask the eldest baby to help you take care of the second baby. For example, if you ask the eldest baby to help you get a bottle for the second baby, as a parent, You can say: Dabao is awesome. He has been able to help his mother with many things. Dabao is so sensible. Amplify the love that the second baby has for the eldest baby. For example, when the second baby has something delicious, he will give it to the eldest baby. You can say: See how much the second baby likes you. I can’t bear to eat the delicious food, so I want to save it for you. These are small things, but if you mention them repeatedly or even magnify them, they will make the boss feel super satisfied and happy.
There is also the preference of parents, which is not advisable. Don’t think that the younger child should be raised by the older child just because one child is younger and the other is older. Parents may think that this is the traditional virtue of respecting the Chinese nation. It is a manifestation of the old loving the young, but in the eyes of the children, this is partiality. It is necessary to determine who is right and who is wrong based on the cause of the matter, instead of just blindly letting Dabao give way to Erbao. This not only fails to resolve the conflict, but also divides the two of them. The conflicts between them have intensified, and they cannot live in harmony.
Let the first and second children get along together often at home and outside. Although there will be friction in the process, it doesn’t matter. It is inevitable. As long as you handle the problems between them fairly and equitably, They soon reconciled and continued to play together in a friendly manner. In normal times, you should tell Dabao that Erbao is here because your parents are afraid that after we are gone, you will have relatives who can help you, instead of competing with you for the love of your parents. We are a family, and a family must live in harmony. Educate the second child to respect the older child and be kind to the older child. The older child is someone who loves you as much as your parents. At the same time, parents should also make it clear to their grandparents that they should not help the second baby when the second baby quarrels with the eldest baby just because they are young, and they should treat the two children fairly.