The adopted father and son were in conflict with each other, and the adopted son ran away from home
After Liu Yaojun’s son Liu Xing drowned, his wife Wang Liyun could not have any more children, so they went to the orphanage to adopt a boy. , and named the boy "Liu Xing", yes, the same name as his deceased son. The relationship between Liu Yaojun and his adopted son was a turbulent one. The adopted son was in adolescence and paid no heed to his parents' teachings, nor did he appreciate the teachers' persuasive guidance.
We can learn from the dialogue in the movie that Liu Xing has transferred schools more than once because he could not get along normally and harmoniously with his classmates. Because they moved to their current residence from another place and were not familiar with the place, Liu Xing did not have any good friends to play with, which indirectly developed his withdrawn and surly character. Disdainful of the teachings of parents and teachers, he only indulges in his own game world every day to escape the boredom of real life.
Maybe in our view, the cause and effect of everything is due to the disobedience of the adopted son Liu Xing, but we don’t know that Liu Xing also suffered the same or even double the pain as his parents. He knew that he was adopted, so he never regarded himself as Liu Yaojun's real son. Liu Yaojun's discipline method was to hit or scold him, which left a bad impression on Liu Xing: "I am not my biological child, so I have been beaten all the time." It can be said that the development of Liu Xing's character is also inseparable from Liu Yaojun's bad education methods.
Because his son died in infancy, Liu Yaojun had no choice but to adopt a child just to keep the Liu family alive. So fundamentally speaking, Liu Yaojun still only believed that the dead person was his son, and no matter how good Liu Xing was later, he was not his biological son, nor was he the dead Xing Xing. No matter how kind they are to their adopted son, they cannot lessen their debt to their dead son. He named his adopted son Liu Xing to commemorate his deceased son
Liu Yaojun also named his adopted son Liu Xing, which is actually very meaningful. For most families who have suffered accidents, they hope that the accident never happened, so they imagine from the bottom of their hearts that their deceased relatives have not left them. Especially for families that have lost their only child, a large proportion of families will give their subsequent children the same name. This is a unique way for Chinese families to express their grief. They hope that the life of their deceased relative can be continued in another person.
It’s just that this approach is too unfair to the adopted son. The adopted son was originally a child in an orphanage. He has suffered countless hardships in the world. He has been without the company of his parents since he was a child and has suffered countless hardships. Most orphans, if they have lived in an orphanage since childhood, will be somewhat psychologically unsociable. This is due to their living environment. If they are lucky enough to enter a loving family and slowly influence them, they will become just like normal children.
But unfortunately, Liu Yaojun adopted him. Liu Yaojun was a rough man, and he suffered some accidents, so he basically lost the ability to educate his offspring. They did not have the patience to educate a non-biological child from scratch. This also caused Liu Xing to feel that he was not taken seriously at home, and even deeply believed that his adoptive parents disliked him. How to build a family relationship in an adoptive family
Adopted children are very sensitive and fragile, but Liu Yaojun and his wife do not know how to influence them with love. They only treat them as their own children and use force to solve problems. However, this kind of education method has great disadvantages in adoptive families, which will lead to a large generation gap between the two generations, making it impossible for them to become father and son in the true sense.
If we encounter similar problems in reality, please be sure to get over your inner pain before adopting a child. Otherwise, it will be a harm to both yourself and your children.