The incident of a parent leaving the parent group has aroused the lament of many parents. "Finally someone said what I wanted to say but didn't dare to say." In fact, while growing up at home, teachers also had to "speak".
“Now, what I fear most every day is seeing the news in the parent group.” Ms. Liu, a parent of a third-grade primary school student, said that the teacher will summarize the students’ situation in the parent group every day, and summarize the children’s situation in the morning Homework from the previous day, and summarizing the child’s performance in school in the afternoon. Students with poor grades will be "reminded" by teachers in the parent group. "Of course, the teacher will not name the children, but will write their student ID number.
In the face of complaints from parents, teachers also have something to say. "When we send some messages in the parent group Sometimes, we are also very entangled. "Teacher Zhang is a sixth-grade Chinese teacher and head teacher. She said that since the establishment of the "Class Parents Group", she has been particularly careful when choosing the messages to send. Among the parents of the class she teaches, some of the school's notices are The most common one is: "Because my child is already in sixth grade, I let him complete the homework of marking and analyzing the test papers independently. "Teacher Zhang said that even so, conflicts between parents will still arise. For example, the class wanted to use it as a photo wall to record the growth of the children. She sent a message to the parents in the group to help the children print photos. She did not expect this news It aroused the suspicion of some parents. “Although my parents’ doubts were not answered by other parents, I still felt a little uncomfortable. I feel like it was originally meant for children, but I didn’t understand it. "
In fact, not only Teacher Zhang, but also Teacher Qi, a fourth-grade mathematics teacher, expressed helplessness. "In order to improve children's calculation ability, I let students practice oral calculation every day. Testing will be conducted weekly. If the whole class's oral performance is not good, I will remind the parents in the parent group to urge their children to practice more cards. "Teacher Qi said that he did not expect that this prompt aroused dissatisfaction among some parents, saying that they were busy with work and their children had to practice their oral arithmetic at school and could not finish it at home. In Teacher Qi's view, he can seriously correct every student's question. homework and test papers, but parents still need to cooperate and supervise their children.
“Maybe the information we publish in the parent group is not very tactful. Maybe the information we publish in the parent group is a bit harsh, but please believe that our original intention is really for the better growth of our children. "Teacher Qi said sincerely.
It is not advisable to retreat when parents are angry
"I especially understand retired parents. "Mr. Liu, a parent of a junior high school student, said that it should be a simple requirement for parents to evaluate homework. What really hurts is the homework that seems to be left to the students but is actually left to the parents. After every exam, Teacher Liu will discuss it in the parent group I received this message: Students are urged to complete the analysis of the test papers of each subject. "There are seven subjects in the children's examination. After the analysis of the seven subjects, you must write one subject at a time." The number of words is considerable. Let alone analysis, how can a child finish writing it in one night? Is it possible that I won't help? "At this point, Mr. Liu sighed. But even so, Teacher Liu also felt that it would be a bit impulsive to withdraw from the parent group if there were differences with the teacher.
Ms. Zhong agreed with Mr. Liu's opinion. She said: “Many people were deeply moved by what the parent said when he posted the video and left the group angrily. But in reality, how many parents have the courage to resign? And even if the parents withdraw from the group, the children's learning will continue, something that cannot be done. " Regarding the behavior of leaving the group, Ms. Zhong expressed her thoughts. This is an emotional response and cannot solve the fundamental problem. If you have any opinions, parents can talk to the teacher privately and communicate well.
< p> During the interview, the reporter also found that although some parents are calling for "stopping parents from correcting homework," there are also parents who are willing to "intervene" in their children's learning. They do not think that the learning-related tasks assigned by the teachers in the parent group are a burden, or even. He said that "parents can control their children's learning situation", "tutoring children's homework is also a kind of parent-child interaction", "I hope teachers can often give feedback on children's learning situation in groups"There are experts on this. He said that the different reactions of parents to the "parent group" are related to the parents' educational philosophy. Among today's parents, "tiger mothers", "wolf fathers", "goat mothers" and "cat fathers" exist at the same time, sometimes in the same family. There are two completely different educational concepts. Different ideas will bring different confusions to parents, and their views on teachers’ group messages will naturally be different.
Experts suggest that in this case, if parents encounter problems or have different opinions, they can communicate with the teacher privately. This will not only lead to better communication, but will also not disturb other parents. The teacher's daily management of students requires the cooperation of parents, and it seems not recommended to leave the group angrily.
Let parents truly become the link between home and school
Parent groups are a product of technological development, making communication between parents and teachers more convenient and faster, and have almost become a standard for Chinese parents. So how can parents truly be the link between home and school? In this regard, Lu, director of the Education Department of No. 42 Middle School in Shijiazhuang City, said that children's development is inseparable from the joint efforts of schools, families, and society, and the connection between teachers and parents is particularly important. The parent group established in the class is one of the links between parents and teachers. However, in the past two years, more and more problems have arisen among parents, which has put a lot of pressure on parents and teachers.
“From a teacher’s perspective, there are many parents and students in the class, and the characteristics of the students are also different. Teachers are busy with work, have short time, and have limited energy. Faced with frequent inquiries from parents in the parent group, Many teachers lament that they are “too busy.” From a parent’s perspective, many parents are under work pressure and have to work hard to find time to tutor their children and complete tasks assigned by parent group teachers, which also makes many parents physically and mentally exhausted. ” believes that this phenomenon reflects the unclear boundaries between family and school and the poor implementation of relevant education regulations.
To this end, Lu made suggestions to parents:
The first suggestion: Teachers should perform their duties correctly, abide by the regulations of the education department, and do not assign homework through WeChat or QQ on mobile phones. Parents cannot be given the task of printing test papers and correcting homework to prevent the phenomenon of "reducing the burden on schools, increasing the burden on society, reducing the burden on teachers, and increasing the burden on parents."
Second suggestion: Teachers should standardize and guide the content posted by parents. Regarding the individual situation of students, teachers should, from the perspective of protecting students' self-esteem and privacy, communicate with parents through phone calls and private messages to make communication between teachers and parents more effective, promote home-school cooperation, and promote student development.
The third suggestion: Some contents of student education belong to the category of home-school education, such as labor education, mental health education, gratitude education, etc. Parents should actively cooperate with these assignments that require cooperation between home and school to achieve better educational results.
“True home-school education should be based on equality and good communication. Teachers and parents should do their part. No one should blur the boundaries and shirk responsibility. Children’s education must be independent of Without school education and family education, children cannot grow up healthily," Lu said. Cultivating students requires the joint efforts of parents and teachers, and is also the common goal of parents and teachers. Therefore, parents and teachers should have more communication, understanding, tolerance, and trust.
Shijiazhuang has also issued relevant documents on expatriation. On January 8, 2020, nine departments including the Shijiazhuang Municipal Education Bureau issued a notice on the "Implementation Plan of Shijiazhuang City Measures to Reduce the Burden of Primary and Secondary School Students". The plan mentioned that homework content should be set up scientifically and hierarchical homework should be advocated. The difficulty level of assignments should not exceed the requirements of course standards. Teachers should not assign mechanical, repetitive, and punitive homework to students, but should promote exploratory and practical homework. Do not assign homework to parents or ask parents to correct homework on their behalf, and insist on correcting homework left by teachers in a timely manner.