During the epidemic, I was watching "Blue Planet" with my mother at home. She said that all small animals know that they are going to fall in love, why don't you know?
Planning| It was like mental diarrhea. I thought it was over, but it came again as soon as I stood up. "Some people started to urge others to get married after they got married, which made me think that marriage is some kind of MLM organization that must develop offline." ."
Last week, we launched a collection to find out what "horrible" methods were used by young people who were urged to get married. In the feedback received, a love and marriage (including sexual psychology) researcher named @小宇 said that he met a father from a rural area whose son was still unmarried at the age of 35. He once said to his son: "If you don't If I get married, I will be uglier than being a thief in the village!”
For many parents, the fact that their children are not married makes their lives eclipsed and makes them unable to hold their heads high. They want to see their children's weddings, and they are jealous that their friends and colleagues have grandsons in their arms, so they become more and more confused: Why can other people's children get married and have children step by step, but my child is still a bachelor? And those children who face their parents’ pervasive pressure to get married cannot understand: Why do I have a successful career and a glorious life, but I am still a loser in the eyes of my parents?
The matter of urging marriage seems to have always been a worry for both parents and children. Just a few days ago, a piece of news about a 26-year-old Guizhou woman who committed suicide by jumping into a river after being forced into marriage was trending. Behind the news are countless young people who were forced to get married by their parents and had no other choice. Their parents’ complaints and accusations were like a curse. oppressing their lives.
Contemporary young people are so afraid of "urged marriage" that they dare not answer the phone, dare not return home if they have a home, rent a lover to deceive their parents, and even fear that "the world is not worth it."
Marriage should be a happy thing, but excessive pressure to get married often arouses rebellion. Family members are meant to be relied upon, and the words that come from the closest people are the most hurtful.
There are still 55 days until the Spring Festival. I hope that in the new year, there will be less pressure to get married in the world.
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Spring Night"
Insinuating, crazy hints
Crit level: ★★★
@久太 The wolf man was pushed for five years at the age of 27
My mother: "Look at that cloud in the sky, does it look like your girlfriend?"
@houyuhaonan26
p>As soon as I get home, my parents will broadcast the blind date conference on time.
@reikunn A 26-year-old girl was pushed for a year
That day was my mother’s birthday. When she was opening the cake, my grandfather passed by and said that it would be nice to have one more person in the family next year... ...I said it would be fine if there was only one person missing...
@李paipainu was 27 years old and was urged to take care of her for three years
My sister gave my mother the child to take care of, and my mother said she wanted to take mine. ; I bought a box of jujubes for my family, but my mother said I couldn’t finish it and kept it for my wedding guests; I bought tissue paper for my family, but my dad said I couldn’t finish it and kept it for my wedding guests...
@久人狠看女人 was urged to do so for three years at the age of 26
My dad once asked me very seriously: "Daughter, do you like men, right?"
@ A 28-year-old Yixiao girl was forced to go to the hospital for five years
My grandfather knocked his head once and was sent to the hospital. While I was waiting outside, I was told: "If you don't find someone to live with, what will you do if you encounter this kind of situation in the future?"
@大宇男32 years old was urged for two years
When I went to a classmate's house, he had a bunch of books to throw away. He asked me if I wanted them. I said give them to me. It would be a pity to throw them away. There are two books that I didn't pay attention to, namely "Parenting Guide for New Parents born in the 1980s" and "A Must-Read for Perfect Expectant Dads". After I took it home, my mother always said that people should study more and live until they are old. I didn't understand what it meant at first, but then I found those two books on my desk.
@伟尼 Female, 31 years old
The temperature has dropped recently. I told my mother that I wanted to add a blanket when I sleep in the cold. She said, "It won't be cold if we sleep together.
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@大雯女25岁被 urged for a year
One time my dad bought ice cream when he came home. I picked it up and was about to eat it when my mother grabbed it and said, “This is My husband bought it for me. If you want to eat it, ask your boyfriend to buy it for you. Oh no, you don't have a boyfriend. ”
@December 3 female who has been urged to marry for countless years
In the past, urging for marriage was just verbal greetings. This year, my mother sent me a pair of size 41 slippers...
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Adult High School"
Heretical theories and cynicism
Crit level: ★★★☆
@老高女18 Being urged to do so for a year
“Other little girls already have their husbands tutoring them in their homework. You should also find one. Tutoring is so expensive now. ”
@天天女26岁被 urged for a year
When my aunt was in pain, my mother said that it would be better to have a child.
@的 on the road to blind date The 27-year-old lonely knight-errant girl has been on the road of being urged in recent years and has never stopped
“Widowed people still know how to find a companion. Why don’t you want to fall in love at such a young age? ”
@小 Lion女32 years old was urged for seven years
During the epidemic, she and her mother were watching "Blue Planet" at home. She said that all small animals know that they are going to fall in love. Why? Don’t you know?
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "The Age of Orange"
@Frame Girl was urged for three years at the age of 26
"I am getting old and my health is not good How can I help you take care of your children and hire a nanny? The nanny will take care of the baby. ”
@小马女just started urging at the age of 26
My dad said he even thought of the lines for my wedding ceremony, but now I don’t even have a boyfriend. I My mother knitted five baby sweaters, and I repeatedly confirmed with her who they were knitted for, and she said they were for her granddaughter/son...
@雪丁女being urged for two years
My dad often sends me Douyin videos of a little boy and a little girl holding hands in kindergarten, and then asks me on WeChat if I understand...
@baobao婷女 was pushed for eight years at the age of 32
“The person you are completely satisfied with will definitely be dissatisfied with you, and you will definitely look down on the person you are completely satisfied with. It is best to find the kind of hesitation to get along with. ”
“Looking for a partner is like going to the toilet. The first one is out of paper, the second one is full of shit, the third one is out of paper but still shit. ”
The most ridiculous thing is that parents join various blind date groups to help find a partner, go to the park to copy various contact information and then make phone calls one by one.
@张 Zhang Zhang Zhang Zhang Qi女 I was 27 years old and was urged for five years
While chatting with my mother, I mentioned that one of our colleagues may have been pushed into a fake marriage by her family because she had never seen her husband since they got married, and she had not seen him either. I lived with my husband and didn’t go home during the Chinese New Year. After telling my mother, she said: I’m better off if I’m married in a fake marriage. Me:...
@小米女30年被成了三级
One day my father told me that he couldn’t sleep and had insomnia. I said what are you thinking about, and he said, I miss my son-in-law. Another time, he suddenly said. “Hey, I really want to change my avatar to that of your baby. ”
(I’m still single...)
@肉丝子25岁
My period came 8 days early this month. I told my mother At that time, she said: "The number of eggs a person can excrete in a lifetime is limited. In order to prevent you from ovulating early, you should get married and have children early." ”
Me:? I’m only 25!
▲ When a girl brings a boy home, the mother-in-law starts to urge marriage and birth. / Screenshot of "Entrepreneurship Era"
Straightforward, "personal attack"
Crit level: ★★★★
@ Fox女29岁
"Except for being fleshy and resistant to freezing, you are useless. ”
@小哈女31岁
As long as my parents come back from the wedding, I will definitely be scolded and scolded for various reasons. My clothes will be confiscated once they are dry. You have a hair, you have to teach me anyway. There was a blind date before that I really didn’t like, but my parents liked him and wanted to kick me out of the house because I didn’t date him.
@靑山女 was urged to get married for a year at the age of 23
My grandma is an older generation of intellectuals. I thought she would be more open-minded, but in the end she was the only one urging me to get married every day. Sitting in front of the TV and watching If You Are the One, I was told that I should get married early at a young age, otherwise I would not be able to get married. "Look at those boys and girls on If You Are the One, none of them is better than you. They can't get married, but you can still get married." Are you going out?"
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "The Evolution of Love"
@张伟伟女33 years old
"You single donkey"
@Charlie, a 27-year-old man who was forced to go to college for a year
“If I had known you were like this, you might as well not have gone to college.” (I just graduated from graduate school)
@江月阳男 I started urging after graduation at the age of 28
I went home for two days during the National Day. My dad asked me what to do with the dog when I came back. I said that it was already an old dog of four or five years old and could stay at home by itself for a day or two. God. My dad said that it takes four or five years to raise a dog, but if you give birth to a child, he will already be in kindergarten.
@婷婷女女 was urged for two years at the age of 29
“If you don’t get married, your father’s share of the money that he has followed for decades in the work unit will be wasted. By the way, There is no room for you in the new house, how about building a floor in the study?”
@廻一女29 was urged for two years
My mother posted a quick joke The video was given to me, and the gist of it is: It’s not that you don’t want to get married, it’s because no one wants you.
@ Seven Sisters, female, 33 years old, been urged for five years
My dad said that I made him feel embarrassed and embarrassed to go out.
@小草 Female, 30 years old, has been urged for five years
This year of turning 30 is too painful. Everyone from my mother to my boss started urging me to get married, so I was cycled 24 hours a day. Now it seems that as long as I am a man and alive, I am fine. When having a meal, "If you have a boyfriend, you won't be able to finish the meal." If the door is broken, "If you have a boyfriend, you won't be able to lock it." When traveling, "If you have a boyfriend, you won't be able to finish the meal." , you won’t have to squeeze in an extra bed with us”; and come home after working overtime in the early morning, “Didn’t you go out on a date? Why did you come home at night?”
@QQ 28-year-old female has been urged for two years.
"You are a hot potato, you will be burned to death in this house."
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Happiness is within reach"
Divination, Confusing behavior
Crit level: ★★★★☆
@阿城女30岁
I put all kinds of weird things under my pillow Peach wood, small fragrant beads and other things that can quickly attract peach blossoms.
@丝嬬 Female, 28 years old
My parents took me to a temple in the wilderness to practice spiritual practice. I can’t drive and can’t even run away.
@Y Female 3 has been pushed for n years
My mother is going to send two buckets of rootless water to my sister and me, and let us put the crystal ball she bought last time in it By soaking in the water, we can leverage each other's strength to achieve marriage.
As for why you want to send it, maybe the rootless water from your hometown is more effective?
@奇奇佳女29 years old and was urged for three years
During the Chinese New Year, my mother suddenly brought a small jar for me to hold. It contained meat oil, which is homophonic: moving marriage. (meat).
@W.T. Female, 24 years old, started to be urged in my second year of college
My mother specially asked a master to calculate my marriage fate for me. It turned out that the master was an ally and told my mother that this child got married late. Instant results! Originally, my mother was the one who pushed me the hardest, but now she follows my dad and says, "It's good, but I don't have anyone to fix it quickly." Thank you, Master! Thanks!
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Bride Wars"
@YY A 29-year-old woman was urged for four years
She is about to enter her third year of life, and her friends around her are getting married. of marriages, some even have a second child. My parents pressed me harder and harder, and they had several big fights about it. My mother even helped me tell my fortune and asked me whether I would get married in this life.
The fortune teller's affirmative answer reassured my mother. He also told my mother that the right match would begin in the second half of 2020. My mother had been planning closely since June, for fear of missing my right man...
< p>@热 frog女28 years old and was urged for three yearsMy dad posted a photo of going to Tianshan Temple. Everyone asked in the group why he went there. My dad replied: "Go to the first place." "Zhuxiang, let this girl find a partner quickly." When my mother was packing my socks, she picked up one and told me, "Look, this sock is single, so pitiful!"
@陈豆女 was urged for five years at the age of 30
There was a door in the house that was good, it was the door from the corridor to the living room, but the fortune teller said that my parents just blocked the door and entered the living room. You can only go through the kitchen first.
@小人女28 years old was urged for two years
One day when I was at work, my mother called me suddenly, because usually my mother would not call me during working hours, I thought If there was anything important, I quickly picked up the phone. After picking it up, my mother started asking: Did you have a male classmate who you had a relationship with when you were 24 years old? I was stunned, what? My mother kept asking, just tell me if you have, and have you talked about it? I said no. My mother didn’t believe it and insisted on forcing me to admit it. I asked her why you suddenly asked this, and she said that she went to tell my fortune. The fortune teller said that there was a good partner at that time, but I was too stupid to cherish it and missed it. I was so surprised that my jaw almost dropped. I said that I didn’t know as much about my own experience as a fortune teller. Then he said, let me buy two red balloons and a four-piece red bed set to attract peach blossoms. I was really excited at the time and said, "You didn't ask the fortune teller when I could get married. My mother said it would be by the end of this year."
Now that it’s the end of the year, I can tell my mother that fortune telling is not accurate!
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Who Said I Can't Get Married"
Worrying too much and messing up the rules
Crit level: ★★★★★< /p>
@Ni道杰女31 years old and was urged for five years
The four children in my grandma’s family are all girls. The three sisters are all married and have children. Except for me, my grandma Always anxious. The last time I went back to my grandma's house, she mysteriously and nonchalantly wanted to introduce me to a boyfriend, saying it was a perfect fit, "It only costs 50 yuan a month, and it's perfect for someone like you who spends so much money!" I asked again, and it was me. My cousin from home.
I won’t talk about anything else, but the most important thing is, grandma, my relationship with my cousin hasn’t even reached the fifth server yet.
@隽女30岁被 urged for five years
Arrange at least one blind date a week. I have met a blind date who brought his girlfriend to the blind date...
@江江江女32 years old
The two of us had our horoscopes tested before we had ever met. Throughout the whole process, we acted as if we were destined to resolve the marriage issue this time. However, in the end, I Not with others.
▲ Picture/Screenshot of "Ode to Joy 2"
@33 A 27-year-old woman was pushed for seven years
A boy chased me, and I said clearly no I liked it, but my mother liked it very much, so she asked this boy for a walk behind my back.
@豆 27-year-old female, been urged for two years
My mother wanted to quit her job and go home to be a matchmaker.
@发虎 male, 32 years old, been urged for three years
Once I was asked to go on a blind date and asked how I felt about the girl. I said it was okay. As a result, my parents asked me to bring gifts to the girl’s house to visit her parents, but we had only known each other for less than two weeks, and I didn’t even know what the girl liked...
@Stonie A 20-year-old girl was not raped Urged to get married, urged to find a boyfriend
My mother can be called the "Neptune" in the world of mothers-in-law. She is a primary school teacher. As long as her colleagues have boys who are one or two years older than me, she will tell those aunts: "Leave your brother to our girl~" So that every time we meet during the holidays, every aunt They all said enthusiastically: "Would you like to go sit at home?"
▲ In "Ode to Joy 2", Guan Guan's mother helps Guan Guan arrange a blind date. Picture/Screenshot of "Ode to Joy 2"
@小石女23 years old
After graduating in July this year, I started to be urged to directly make appointments with people, but I didn't know in advance. Fortunately, I went out with my friends that day and didn't go home at all.
@八月长安 Female 26 was urged for three years
Just today, I spent 1,988 yuan to register as a diamond member on the military marriage platform.
@的Sunflower Girl Who Grows the Sun was forced to go to school for more than a year at the age of 27
One day my mother mysteriously and excitedly told me that they had seen people with Ph.D.s on TV who had returned from overseas. During the blind date, my dad wrote down the phone number in a book and planned to ask my mom to chat with someone first, and then let me take over when the conversation was almost complete. Later, my dad called to inquire and learned that he had to pay 10,000 yuan first, so he left the matter alone.
Force each other with death, "make heaven and earth"
Crit level: ★★★★★★★ (devastating blow)
@ Salted Fish A 30-year-old man was pushed for six years
My mother said she didn’t want to live anymore and wanted to commit suicide.
▲ In the TV series, the mother played by Kelly often gets angry with her daughter because she is not married. Picture/Screenshot of "Let's Get Married"
@武松女30 Two years after we broke up and two years after being pushed
One morning, my mother sent me a WeChat message, and she sent it first A cartoon picture of a colorful snake (I am a snake), and then sent a voice message, saying in a very weird, pleasant and devilish tone, "The little flower snake is looking for a partner, the little flower snake is looking for a partner, the little flower snake is looking for a partner, the little flower snake is looking for a partner, the little flower snake is looking for a partner, the little flower snake is looking for a partner I'm looking for someone..." I repeated it several times, but it scared me terribly. I quickly called my dad and asked what was going on. My dad replied, "Come and take a look, your mom seems to have a brain problem." However, there was no trace of anxiety in his words, but a feeling of being forced to have sex. The helplessness of homework. I immediately understood that it was my mother who had the idea to pretend to be mentally ill to force me to get married, but the couple couldn't reach an agreement, so my father had no choice but to complete the tasks assigned by my mother and cooperate with her in the performance.
@飞飞女Just 30 has been urged for five years
My father said, "I don't know if I can drink your wedding wine before I die. Anyway, I am older. I don’t know how many years I can live.” Something that makes me laugh and cry: My blind date with a man ended before November and we are determined not to continue the relationship. My family heard that it was because I didn’t go home on October 11, I went out to play, and I was indifferent and inactive. I have to refund the ticket and go home to continue the blind date with him... (ps: my dad is almost 70)
@Lee, a 24-year-old man who was forced to drink for two years
Drink Washing powder foams.
@ roaring yuanbao dawangnu was pushed for ten years at the age of 36
Count each of my male friends who are single (or single again) and carefully watch the posts in my circle of friends In every photo, every person of the opposite sex who appeared was interrogated one by one... I asked all kinds of gods to bless me to get married quickly, and I also had a hobby of collecting wedding candies from other people, and then forcing me to eat them, which was called "happy energy".
@ Zhu Zhu Female, 32 years old
My mother couldn't sleep in the middle of the night and cried when she thought that I wasn't married yet.
▲ Picture / Screenshot of "Let's Get Married"
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