How to refuse your parents-in-law to name your child? If you don’t want to use the name they gave their child, you can just put the name they gave it aside. If you feel that the name they gave does not suit your own ideas, you can ignore it. If they say theirs, you should just go ahead and name your child as you wish. It's hard to refuse on the surface, but you can accept it first. In fact, when using it, just choose the name you want.