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A name is a person’s code name, and it is also a lifelong gift from parents to their children. Different names have different values. Some names contain parents' expectations for the future, some names are particularly memorable, and some families have different generations that need to be considered.
The ancients said: "The first three months of birth are given a name, and the twenty-first crown is given a character."
It can be seen that the name is an important event in a person's life.
I think it doesn’t matter who names the child. The most important thing is that the parents reach an agreement and carefully consider the name of the child. They cannot name the child casually, otherwise it will affect the child’s life. After all, the name It accompanies the child throughout his life. If two people have different opinions on naming their child and cannot reach an agreement, they can seek the opinions of family members and let relatives and friends help choose the name they like best.
For example, the elderly in my family believe in Feng Shui horoscopes, so after our child was born, he went to a Feng Shui master to tell his fortune, saying that the child lacked water and soil. Although my husband and I didn't agree with this, we were afraid of offending the old man's good intentions, so we named our children with water and earth in their names.
For example, the quadruplets were recently born during the special period of the coronavirus pneumonia epidemic. Because the "four little princesses" were born at a special period, and because they were prematurely born, medical staff were taking care of them, so their parents took care of them. The names are "Xianchan, Yiyi, Xinxin, and Xinxin", which are homophonic to "rebirth against the epidemic". When they posted the nicknames of their four daughters online, they asked netizens for their names. Netizens brainstormed and finally the couple confirmed the names of the "four princesses", namely "Zuyi, Guoer, Jiashan, and Yousi", which means "Come on, motherland".
Moreover, when we get to know a person in life, we first start with his or her name. So it is best to be careful when naming your child. When naming our children, we'd better avoid some minefields to avoid having a bad influence on the child.
1. It is best to choose a good name that is pronounced continuously without ambiguity or bad connotation, otherwise the child will be laughed at by his classmates when he goes to school.
I have a female classmate in elementary school who was randomly named "Cai Wa" by her parents. She is close to her at home, but she is often laughed at by her classmates at school. She often gets into arguments with her classmates over her name, and is often irritated by her name. I had to ask my parents to change my name, which was said to be very troublesome.
2. It is best not to use uncommon words. It is difficult for children to write and for teachers to read.
3. It is best not to use gender-neutral names. For example, the popular name Zhaodi in the past few years will put a psychological burden on girls and make them feel that they are not loved.
So, how do we name our children?
If we want to give our children some poetic names, we can refer to the Book of Songs, Chu Ci, Tang poetry and Song Ci, which are all very beautiful sentences.
For example, "Qi Feng·Zhu": "Qiong Hua Hu Er"; "Yuan Yu": "Hua Wan Yan's Huaying".
Lin Huiyin's name comes from "Da Si Si Huiyin, Ze Baisi Nan"; Tu Aao Ao comes from "Yo Yo Deer Ming, Eat Wild Artemisia".
In short, the name looks simple, but it also contains the expectations of the parents and the imprint of the times. Be careful when choosing a name, and don't let your child have an "inappropriate name".
Naming a child is an important thing, because the name accompanies the child throughout his life, and a good name can add value and color to the child's life. If you choose a bad name, you will be teased by others for being able to give birth to cubs but not being famous. The traditional names of Han people in my country generally consist of three characters, of which the first character is the surname, the second character is the seniority, and the third character is the name. In the past, many newborns were usually given baby names first, and then officially named when they were old enough to go to school, also called scientific names. Baby names are often both earthy and mean, implying that they are easy to raise and grow. Scientific names are taken very seriously, and educated and respected elders of the family are invited to name them. Some even pay a lot of money to go to a naming museum to ask the old gentleman to carefully choose the name based on the birth date. Nowadays, people don't pay so much attention to it. Most of them are decided by parents and couples through consultation. For example, the surname can be either the father's surname or the mother's surname, or the couple's surnames can be used to form a compound surname. Another example is names, which often leave an imprint of the development of the times. I remember on the eve of reform and opening up, when policies were being implemented across the country, a family surnamed Liu gave birth to twin boys and came to the street office to register their household registration. They were of Chinese generation, and the twins were one. One is called Liu Guozheng, and the other is called Liu Guoce.
It is best to name your child with few strokes and a smooth name. Do not use uncommon words or words with unlucky pronunciation. Also try not to choose a name that is easy to duplicate.
The questioner asked this question. There are two possibilities:
One is that the name has not been started yet, but it is just at home. Some people think that they can only name their children, and there may be conflicts because of this issue;
The second is that different people have already chosen different names, so confirm the problem There is endless debate about whether the name is good or bad, so let’s just focus on the identity of the person who named it.
If you have already chosen a name, you will probably write the name down and ask which one. According to the current way of asking, the first case is more likely.
If it is the first situation, the key is to solve the problem, and solving the problem does not necessarily involve arguing about who should name the child.
The problem is not described in detail. It is impossible to determine the root cause of the problem. It is difficult to give specific suggestions. Please provide some ideas for reference.
Step one: express your attitude
If anyone in the family insists on naming their child, express it first No matter who chooses the name, the key is that it must be approved by the majority of family members (it is best to get more family members to support this idea in advance).
Step 2: Give in
Then not only does it not exclude but also supports this person who insists on naming the child by himself. Name the member.
In the first place, anyone can take it. There is no need to argue endlessly about who should take it before the name is chosen;
Secondly, after expressing your attitude, give in and leave room for everyone to solve the problem and show your attitude towards solving the problem;
Thirdly, do not rule out this person who insists on taking the initiative. If the famous member can choose a name that everyone agrees with, there is no need to argue about who should choose it before.
Step 3: Acknowledge the other person
Wait until the name is chosen, and don’t rush to say it even if you feel bad. No, you have to say it first. Even if the name is really useless, you have to bother and ask why you chose such a name.
This can eliminate the sense of antagonism to the greatest extent and make people feel that you and him are on the same side without any contradiction;
< p> The second is to guide the other party to tell more information to prepare for the next communication.
Step 4: Specific comparison
The next step is to confirm what kind of name you think is better, and Compare the names chosen by the other party and confirm why it is better. The more specific the comparison, the better.
Once you can overcome your obsession, you may find that during the comparison process, your own name may not necessarily be better than the other person’s; < /p>
Secondly, even if you want to deny the name chosen by the other party, it must be convincing and convincing.
Step 5: Thorough preparation
Once you have enough reasons to explain that the other party’s name is inappropriate, you still need to think about it. How will the other party react when these reasons are given and how to deal with them.
The first way to deal with it must be to leave steps for the other party. If you don’t leave any steps, no matter how reasonable you say, the other party is likely to go back to the unsolvable issue of who should be named. On the issue;
Secondly, it can also make you more confident and communicate with ease instead of speaking with emotions, so as to achieve more ideal results.
Step 6: Alternative plan
If unification cannot be reached in the end, there must be an alternative plan, such as suggesting that the other party consider itself I changed the name based on my opinion, but the name was still chosen by the other party.
In general, who can name is also a kind of family conflict, which can only be resolved on the basis of mutual understanding and concession.
Finally, I would like to share the names of our twin babies. I chose them, and they were unanimously approved after choosing them.
Baby names: Mingzhong, Minghe
Generally speaking, there are no uncommon words and it is quite easy to pronounce. Our family The surname is rare, and it is impossible to have the same name together, which means that you think it is okay.
"Ming" comes from "The Great Learning": "The way of a great university is to understand Mingming's virtues, to be close to the people, and to stop at perfection. After knowing the stopping, there will be concentration; after concentration, there will be concentration. Be able to be still; be calm and then be at peace; be at ease and then be thoughtful; be thoughtful and then be able to gain.” When it is not developed, it is called middle; when it is developed, it is called harmony; when it is in the middle, it is the foundation of the world; when it is harmonious, it is the way of the world. When it is in harmony, the heaven is established and all things are nurtured. ”
It not only includes my expectations for the baby, but also my expectations for my family, because our family usually behaves a bit extreme.
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When parents give birth to a child, who should name the child, the father or the mother? This question is very interesting. When we name a child, it doesn’t matter whether the father or the mother or someone else names the child. No matter who chooses a name for a child, he must pay attention to what the meaning is, and cannot randomly name it, or just pick it up casually. First of all, you cannot have an uncommon word, nor is it too popular. It can make it difficult for people to understand the meaning, or it may feel tacky. Therefore, when naming a child, it is important to have the meaning of upward, yearning, improvement, reverie, elegance, and progress. It can also be based on commemoration, tracing the past, geography, environment, and time. From ancient times to the present, China has been giving names based on surnames plus Chinese characters. Most of them are three-character names, and there are also compound names, such as Sima, Zhuge, Shangguan, etc. However, there must be a few, and three-character names still account for the majority. In this way, China's fourteenth With a population of 100 million, there are too many chances of having the same name. The people of Gui advocate four-character names, which at least reduces the rate of duplicate names.
Over the years, the children in my family, including the children of my neighbors, have all been given names by me. The naming method passed down from the ancients emphasized the importance of starting with the nickname (little name) first, followed by the surname and the meaning of the word. I have changed all this from my point of view. There is no need to give the nickname again, just call the big name. Just add your surname when you are in elementary school.
Anyone can choose the name, there is no right or wrong.
You can choose several names for each person, and then discuss whose name sounds better and has a better meaning.
When a friend was pregnant, her husband and she would think of names for the baby from time to time. We would write down all the good ones. When the baby was born, there would already be more than a dozen names waiting to be chosen. , and then after everyone’s various discussions and discussions, we finally decided on a name.
If the couple is not very good at choosing names, they can also ask elders or relatives and friends to help.
When my classmate’s baby was born, he sent messages to several of our close friends and asked us to help name the baby.
Some families who are more superstitious about horoscopes and timings will also take these factors into consideration when naming their children.
Others will go to specific people or special places to name their children.
After the baby was born, the family and relatives thought of many names but were not satisfied. Later, they went to a famous temple and spent hundreds of dollars to name the baby. .
Although the child’s name is a code name, it is also the family’s best wishes.
When naming your child, pay attention to the following:
1. When pronouncing the name as a whole, it is best not to have ambiguity to avoid the child being laughed at by other children.
For example, the word "Zi Teng" is not bad when used as a name, but if the baby's surname is "Du", it has the same pronunciation as "stomachache".
2. Do not use names with too many strokes or too uncommon characters. It is not easy for children who have just learned to write to write, which will affect the child’s mood in learning; in addition, many uncommon characters are difficult to use on the computer. It is difficult to type, and there will be a lot of unnecessary trouble when you need to print and add names.
For example, some babies are called "曌", "龘", etc. Although the meaning is good, it is difficult to write by hand. Many people don't recognize it yet. If they don't recognize it, they will yell randomly. .
3. Don’t be too talkative.
Some parents like to be unique and give their children special names, but if the name is too difficult to pronounce, they are more likely to be nicknamed.
4. Don’t choose a name that is too direct.
Some parents give their children too much expectations and too much pressure, which is directly reflected in their names. Once the children fail to meet the meanings of these names, they often become There will be more ridicule and more pressure.
For example, some children are called "Tsinghua" or "Champion". If they do poorly in exams, other students will laugh at them.
5. Don’t follow the trend too much or be too inconsistent with the characteristics of the times.
For example, there are a lot of "Xuan", "Zi", "Xuan" and the like, and there are too many with the same name in kindergarten.
Some names have certain characteristics of the times, such as "Jianguo" and "Chunhua". These were good names in previous eras, but if placed today, It's not appropriate.
In short, both parents, one parent, the elders and peers of both parties, whoever names the child can name the child. They all hope that the baby will grow up healthily and happily, and they all place their best wishes on everyone. As long as the name sounds nice, has no ambiguity, and is catchy to read, then it is a good name that you like.
The above is my answer, I hope it helps.
Hello, I am Qiqi’s mother. First of all, I am very happy to answer this question for you. I hope my answer will be helpful to you
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Since ancient times, due to the influence of traditional culture, naming a child has been a big deal. Because the name is not only a label for a child, but also, through the name, we can also see the parents' expectations for the child. The most important thing is that we have all heard the saying, "A person is as his name says." That is to say , the name in the hearts of many people represents the kind of person he will become in the future.
So, back to the problem itself, parents gave birth to life because of their love, so who should name the child?
Strictly speaking, no matter who names the child, it is okay, because they are all the child’s direct relatives after all, but since it is mentioned, if you insist on To choose one, you might as well take a look at these 3 options.
1. Who has a higher level of education?
As mentioned just now, naming is a big thing and may affect a child’s life, so If you want to give your child a noble and outstanding name, you must require the person who chooses the name to have a certain level of cultural literacy. You can't just give your child a name like "Er Gou" or "Hu Zi".
So, whoever has a higher level of education can name the child. As for whether it is the father or the mother, let’s PK it.
2. Who chooses a nice name?
In fact, after the child is born, as long as the child’s immediate family members want to give the child a nice name , then we can brainstorm and see who has a better name for the child, and we will choose whose name is chosen. In this way, we are responsible for the child.
3. Who has more status in the family
Some families have different divisions of personal labor, which leads to different family statuses. For example, in some families , those who have the most say are the parents of the older generation, so instead of the couple naming their children, it is better to give this decision-making power to the parents of the older generation and let them contribute to their grandchildren. OK.
Finally, I would like to tell everyone that no matter who names the child, this is not the most important thing. The most important thing is to choose a suitable name for the child and avoid homophones and uncommon words. Just show up.
Of course, I also remind every family not to break up in unhappiness just because of naming their children.
"Surname" is a symbol of blood relationship. A person's name is often followed throughout his life. Each name also contains the good expectations of relatives for the future of the newborn baby. Therefore, naming is the beginning of life. A very important event. Let's take a look at how everyone chooses their names.
In ancient my country, who gave names varied.
In the early days of primitive society, mothers usually named their children. It is recorded in "Historical Records" that Hou Ji, the ancestor of the Zhou Dynasty, was named Qi, after his mother Jiang Yuan.
Around the time of Qu Yuan, there were records of fathers naming their children. "Li Sao" says:
"Huanglan Kuiyu came to Xixi for the first time, and Zhaoxiyu praised his name. His name is Zhengzexi, and his courtesy name is Lingjun."
It means: My father carefully guessed my birth date, so he gave me a corresponding reputation. My father named me "Zhengze" and my given name "Lingjun".
There are also many records of other ancestors naming newborns. "The Biography of Li Baiyao in the Old Book of Tang Dynasty": "Li Baiyao, whose courtesy name is Zhonggui, was born in Anping, Dingzhou, and was the official official of Anping County in the Sui Dynasty. He had many diseases as a child, so his grandmother, Zhao, named him Baiyao." It can be seen that naming grandchildren by ancestors should be an older naming custom in the entire human history.
In addition, ancient emperors were also good at naming non-royal people, and there are also records of asking uncles, friends of fathers, benefactors, etc. to name them.
It can be seen that since ancient times, there is not only one answer to who should be named.
No matter who names it, the meaning, expectations and wishes contained in the name are the most important.
For example, Lin Huiyin's name comes from "Da Si Si Hui Yin, Ze Bai Si Nan", Hui means beauty, Yin means reputation, Huiyin means good reputation and virtue.
Tu Youyou comes from "Youyou, the deer roars, and the grass in the wild is eaten". Hey you, the sound of deer chirping, deer foraging for wormwood, probably even the person who named it did not expect that Teacher Tu Youyou just did not sing, and became a blockbuster.
Naming according to the seniority in the genealogy has also continued in China for thousands of years. People of the same clan but different generations must be named according to the seniority in the genealogy.
For example, the Confucius family has always followed the tradition of naming according to the family tree’s seniority. People of the same clan and generation have the same character that represents their seniority, and in addition there is another character that represents themselves. The characters are combined into a name. For example, Kong Shangren of the Qing Dynasty was the author of the drama "The Peach Blossom Fan". From his seniority, it can be known that he was the 64th generation grandson of the Kong family.
Some names are given by people who have some connections with the family or other relatives, or are given during special periods, and will have special connotations. , is of great significance.
After the birth of a newborn, it will bring hope and joy to the whole family. Relatives such as parents, grandparents, grandparents, etc. are all happy and excited, and often participate in it. In the big name project, many families will also ask naming consulting companies to provide advice for their children. They are no longer limited to old traditions. These are all manifestations of love for their babies.
In fact, as long as parents communicate well with other family members, it is better to negotiate with each other and work together to choose the loudest and most beautiful name. The name with the best meaning is more important, what do you think?
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