In addition to their real names, many parents like to give their children nicknames. First, they think calling them nicknames will make their children cute, and second, they think calling them nicknames is affectionate enough.
But nowadays, some parents are very "imaginative", and even when it comes to giving their children nicknames, they don't sound so serious. However, you need to be careful when naming your child, otherwise it will "ruin" the child's self-esteem.
Just because of a nickname, children become more and more introverted. My cousin is a primary school teacher. Among the students of a certain class, there is a student who has a profound impact on her. This student’s His nickname is "Qiqi".
Although the name does not sound so strange, this student is a boy. When his parents call out "Qiqi", others will always imagine "Qiqi". Feminine name.
Qiqi didn’t like this name very much at first, but fortunately, his parents only called him that when they were at home. But one time, classmates went to Qiqi's house to play. Qiqi's mother was used to calling her children by their nicknames.
So in front of the child's classmates, he couldn't help but call out the name "Qiqi". When the classmate found out, he found it interesting and told the rest of the class about it. classmate.
When other students in the class found out, they all jokingly called him "Qiqi" and commented that the name looked very much like a little girl's name.
Often being laughed at by naughty children, Qiqi's character has become more and more inferior, and she also dislikes playing with most of the classmates in the class.
Children’s personalities can easily change
This is also the reason why this student has low self-esteem and is reticent. Children have a very fragile heart and do not want to be adults. They have their own firm stance. , a confident adult will not easily become inferior.
A child who is originally strong can easily become inferior. This is due to the child's personality, which is easily changed by the surrounding environment.
Just like Qiqi’s nickname, because he was often laughed at by his classmates, Qiqi gradually began to hate getting along with his classmates because of this.
When giving your children nicknames, you should avoid these "minefields"
1. Don't give your children ungraceful nicknames
Although nicknames are not registration In the household registration book, the child will not be called by the teacher, but when the child is called by his parents with an unpleasant nickname, he feels awkward and resistant inside.
I remember that one of my childhood playmates had a child whose nickname was relatively trendy, "Ou Le Le", and this nickname was ridiculed by our playmates since childhood.
Every time his nickname was mentioned, he would get very angry. In the end, he even thought of "I changed my nickname" as an excuse to stop our ridicule.
Therefore, to prevent children from being laughed at in the future, when parents give their children nicknames, it is best not to give them less elegant nicknames.
If you can’t think of a name that’s too elegant, there’s nothing wrong with commonly used nicknames like Xiaoche, Nao Nao, Wenwen, and Xiaoxiao, and they’re always better than weird nicknames. a lot of.
2. Do not call your child’s nickname in front of his classmates
Children’s nicknames are very private to children, and they are especially taboo to let their classmates know, because if they are known by their classmates, they will inevitably You won't be laughed at by your classmates.
At the same time, students will inevitably not tell other students out of curiosity. When more students know the child’s nickname, they will deliberately laugh at the child out of curiosity and naughtiness.
Therefore, the source of all this must stop with the mother. Mothers should not mention their children's nicknames in front of other children, because the children also have their own self-esteem.
They hope that their nicknames will not be known to their classmates in order to protect their privacy.
3. Don’t give your children nicknames because of their embarrassing things
Many parents are very naughty. When their children do something wrong, they may not be able to learn things. , even when they do something embarrassing, parents always like to give their children nicknames.
For example, stupid, naughty, crybaby, etc. Although in the eyes of adults, these are all teasing, children's hearts are fragile and they cannot distinguish between joking and crying. serious.
When parents call her nicknames such as naughty, crybaby, and lazy lazy child, the younger child will think that her parents dislike her and hate her, so the child will become depressed. , and even easy to feel inferior.
However, not to mention, if other students hear the nicknames parents give their children, this will inadvertently give other children a reason to laugh at their own children, so right? It will be even more detrimental to the child's psychological growth.
Giving your child a nickname is cute, but parents should not make it sound too strange. After all, the name is the child’s appearance, and the same is true for the nickname.
At the same time, nicknames are also a relatively private thing for children. Do not mention your child's nickname in front of others, especially your child's classmates.
This may unintentionally increase the chance for the child to be nicknamed by others.