The Zhao family has lived for more than 600 years. The 25th generation. Getting married is difficult. It's simple. It is very strict to inherit genealogy from generation to generation. And arranged and planned a set of twelve Zhao genealogies. The Zhao family has abided by it for generations. Even an old man with white hair should be called grandpa and uncle several generations older than him. If someone misprints the address, they will be criticized and corrected by the people immediately. The names of the descendants in the clan are also named according to the generations in the genealogy, and they cannot be chosen at will. It can be seen that people in Huaiyin Village have been living in such a relatively closed or semi-closed environment for hundreds of years, and gradually formed and precipitated a relatively independent cultural etiquette system, which has influenced generation after generation.
Population mobility is small, life is stable, and life is relatively poor and backward. Their self-sufficient natural economy inevitably requires unity, cooperation and mutual assistance with their families. The relationship between clans is also very close, which is closely related to the development and opening up of social economy. In the classic Dream of Red Mansions, we can also find traces of "qualification". For example, in the chapter of Lin Daiyu entering the house, Daiyu "pays attention step by step, always cares, says nothing, does not take a step, and is afraid of being laughed at". First, I met my grandmother. When Wang Xifeng came, she joked that she was "chicken fever". Daiyu doesn't know what to call her. She dare not make a fool of herself. When all the sisters said, "This is Lian's sister-in-law", they apologized to Lian and paid tribute to her. Obviously, in feudal society, we also attached great importance to qualifications. We don't know a person's qualification, identity and address. When going to church or eating, you should also pay attention to the order and position of the seats. For example, when you eat, you should be polite to the guests. If the guest is young, you should refuse to take the second or next seat. Otherwise, they will be despised and laughed at.
The expressions in many historical records and ancient books seem to be far away from us. However, my unforgettable experience brought me close to this generation. My parents are from Shandong. I was born in remote and beautiful Xinjiang, when I was young enough to support the frontier. /kloc-When I was 0/6 years old, my mother took me home to visit my relatives. Grandpa lived in a remote place and the car was not smooth, so he followed his mother for a long time. At noon, the old man said, come on, put it on the table! The people around you hesitated for a while, gave in to each other for a while and then sat down. Mother quietly motioned me not to sit down: here, the original woman is not on the table! You can't sit without knowing the rules. This is definitely a status symbol. If you sit, it will cause everyone's indifference. Finally, you can sit in front of the old man's sign.