A relative gave birth to a second child a while ago. When I went to see the child, I asked casually: What is the child’s name?
As a result, the relative said with a sad face: Forget about the name. My husband and I originally named the child "Jiang Haochen", but the mother-in-law and mother strongly opposed it and said it was the name.
If it is too big, the child will be unable to hold it down and his life span will be shortened easily. What age do you think this is, and they still believe this statement? Is it possible that they have to be a "dog egg" to make a living?
After saying that, we all couldn’t help laughing.
When it comes to naming children, people have been very particular about it since ancient times. The ancients believed that a person's name and destiny are closely related. In their eyes, some characters that represent the sun, moon, and sky are "big characters", and some characters that symbolize royal power and royal family cannot be touched by ordinary people, otherwise they will cause disaster.
In the private sector, this statement is even more common. I once heard a grandmother from her hometown say that there was a family in the village adjacent to theirs. The parents gave birth to a pair of twin sons. The older one was named "Tian Yi" and the younger one was named "Jun Zheng". When the child was more than 2 years old, At that time, he was diagnosed with serious heart problems at the same time. As a result, they both died young before the surgery could be performed.
It seems that there is an inexplicable connection between the child's name and destiny. Naming the child should not be too big, and it does not seem to be completely superstitious?
Why shouldn’t children’s names be too big?
1. Family expectations are too high, causing children to be under great pressure
Parents name their children mostly to reflect their ardent hopes or goals they have not achieved, for example: Zhang Chenglong, Li Qinghua, Wang Qingcheng, etc.
Parents naturally hope that their children will become talented in the future and make up for their original regrets. Although the starting point is good, as the child grows older, this hope will gradually turn into a kind of pressure and become a shackles on the child's growth path.
2. If the contrast is too great, it is easy to be ridiculed by others
No one can easily handle the ridicule of others. Just imagine, if a child with not very good grades is named "Li Qinghua", a weak and weak child, the parents give him the name "Wang Dingtian". Such a name that is too contrasting with the child's actual situation can easily trigger others discussion and ridicule.
When children live in the cynicism of others, their physical and mental health will inevitably be overshadowed, which is very detrimental to their healthy physical and mental development.
3. Easily remembered?
If a child’s name is big and special, then no matter where he goes, he will easily leave a deep impression on others.
4. Appearing not to be humble enough
Modility is a virtue. If parents name their children too big, it will give people a very immodest and proud feeling.
As far as the name "Qingcheng" is concerned, even if a girl is indeed very beautiful, once others hear that she is called such a name worthy of such a beautiful woman, they will inevitably think that this person is Isn't it a bit floating?
5. Afraid of being unable to control the child
This statement sounds a bit mysterious, and more people of the older generation believe in it.
But when we name our children, we often need to properly refer to and integrate the opinions of our families. Many young people have trouble with the elderly at home because of the issue of naming their children, so for the sake of the family Harmony, we'd better avoid some names that are taboo among the elderly.