After graduation, we naturally go our separate ways and develop in different directions, so naturally there is no need to get involved.
Class reunion is nothing more than a social relationship in the name of party.
Students themselves get together for specific reasons during a period of life. They are together because they study and study, and their relationship will naturally dissolve after graduation.
Only a few people who have formed deep friendship in the process of getting along with each other in the name of classmates will meet again, but not all the classmates are already friends.
What's the difference between a classmate who is not a friend and a passerby?
Therefore, we should treat the so-called "classmates" neither too seriously nor too coldly.
Times have changed, people are still the same as before, but the social environment and new social values have changed.
In different social environments, people's ideas as classmates have quietly changed.
And a group of people with different ideas, experiences, circumstances and prospects will certainly be embarrassed and boring and waste time.
When we were students, we also met some friends because of hobbies, similar personalities and other reasons. These friends have been growing up with themselves, witnessed many important moments, and of course kept close contact.
Such friends don't need to call their friends on New Year's Day and invite them to the party. As long as you have time to meet, you can get together.
When you meet such a friend, just be sincere. In front of them, you are the truest self.
And those who didn't talk much in a classroom many years ago and didn't get along with each other for several years, how can they expect to become bosom friends after eating for a few hours?
Perhaps many times, the original intention of class reunion is good, but the final result will not be satisfactory.
Iron-clad parties, flowing classmates' feelings and cool tea are all reasonable.
We can't deny that the feelings of classmates do exist, but we must also admit that the reunion has long lost its original appearance.
I have also attended several classmates' parties, and there are always so few students who like to attend the party last.
But at the class reunion, you will find that the richer and more powerful people speak more casually, and the more embarrassed people speak more cautiously.
After leaving the society, many students get together, which is a gathering of comparison. Some people show off the rich and powerful, some kiss up to the relationship, and some people are left out in the corner with glasses.
Naturally, it is ironic that successful people "show off" and mediocre people are embarrassed.
Many class reunions are usually divided into grades because of different social status, family situation and personal experience, so it is inevitable that wine and meat will go through the intestines. Comparatively speaking, this classmate is not the same as last year's classmate.
This will hurt your self-esteem and sometimes ruin the reunion you want to attend.
Learn to be a sober adult, learn to be alone with yourself, get used to joys and sorrows, and get used to drinking tea and enjoying the cool.
You can stay alone in your home when you are free. Spend more time with your children and family, watch them laugh and laugh.
Or make a pot of tea, pick up a book, play a favorite music, read the book quietly for a while, and then look up at the flowers blooming in front of the court, and the sky is full of clouds.
If you have more time, you may wish to make an appointment with three or five friends, go out to climb the mountain and express your confession directly; Or you can cook your favorite dishes and have a few drinks at the smokiest home or roadside shop.
Different people have different opinions on whether to be together or not. Those who want to go to Vanity Fair to show their elegance or get a glimpse of it are naturally keen on getting together.
People who don't like it can naturally find their own little world, which is also a different realm of life.
The present reunion is really similar to a joke. My suggestion is that there is really no need to attend. Especially the longer the graduation year, the weaker the relationship between classmates. The so-called class reunion is even worse!
After graduating from college, I have only attended one class reunion. But I feel terrible. I can't wait to leave the meeting early and never want to attend the so-called class reunion again.
That party left a deep impression on me. It happened at the class reunion on 20 17, which was organized by junior high school students. At that time, it happened to be around the Spring Festival, and my parents and I spent the Spring Festival in our hometown. The monitor suddenly sent a message to the usually taciturn class. All the members of Aite asked, "are you free tonight?" Meet me at Hongfa Hotel at 8: 30. "
In an instant, the class became lively. Some people didn't want to come, but they couldn't bear the indecision of the monitor. Finally, everyone agreed to attend. For me, it was my first time to attend a class reunion. I was a little excited at first, because the memory of junior high school is still relatively good.
I still remember going to the canteen at the school gate every morning, buying a pack of instant noodles and spicy strips, and entering the classroom in a drizzly rain. Many people came to beg me for something to eat. I remember these years vividly. So I was looking forward to this reunion that day, and it was really a tearful thing to recall the lush years of my classmates.
I specially dressed up that day, wearing a suit and tie. Arrive at the class reunion on time at night. But there was a traffic jam that day, and I went late. Basically, everyone arrived. I opened the door of the private room and saw that the whole person was stunned. There was a large group of men and women, four tables lined up together, chatting happily.
I quickly found an empty seat and sat down. There was no food supply then, but I paid special attention to what they were talking about. Male students are nothing more than talking about work treatment, talking about what car they bought, earning millions of dollars a year, and now they are the boss of a company. Female students are talking about how expensive their bags are, what color lipstick is, and how rich their husbands are. ...
Seeing them bragging freely there, I really don't think I can get in a word. I smoke silently in my own place. After all, I am just an ordinary programmer, earning more than 10 thousand a month, which can't compare with those who invested hundreds of millions in those years.
Unexpectedly, after dinner, the other two students didn't know whether they were drunk or wanted to show off their wealth and be cool. I can't believe I'm fighting to pay the bill. They are blushing and want to fight. Fortunately, in the end, the monitor pulled them away and prevented the fight between classmates.
I really feel speechless. What's the point of having a meal between classmates? They also said that they would go to KTV to sing that day. I quickly said that I had something to go back to at home, made an excuse to prevaricate, and took a taxi and hurried home. Since then, I have never attended a class reunion.
Nowadays, the society is too utilitarian, people value money most, and their feelings for classmates are easily diluted by time. After graduation, the students gradually alienated, and their friendship was not as bleak as when they were classmates, and it was difficult to find the pure simplicity before. Moreover, the essence of the party should also be a party, instead of becoming a scene for students to show off and talk about capital, and becoming a joke for touting and trampling.
If we are at a class reunion, then we only consider one person's eating and drinking, what happened between classmates, and whether any math problem is complicated. But now everyone has different responsibilities. What we need to face is that there are old people to support and children to support, and the life of a family depends on us.
Students have different goals and ideas, so it is difficult to reach the same height. In the past, class reunions were all about talking about a group of people and everyone, but now they are all about themselves. We get together for dinner, ostensibly to activate the friendship between classmates, but actually to get to know others and see if their lives are rich and superior. Do you have a chance to compare and show off?
At the same time, if one of my former classmates is rich and powerful, everyone will follow suit to please and curry favor with him. Everyone thinks that if you have a good relationship with that rich classmate, you can get the help of noble classmates and improve your life. This is the status quo of class reunion!
There are too few common topics, and the distance between them has been lengthened. The reunion is really boring. This is a complete joke. This is also the reason why most people don't want to attend class reunion.
There is a scene that everyone may have experienced. When the students graduated, everyone was in tears, asking questions and taking pictures. The QQ group and WeChat group established at that time were all passionate, but with the passage of time, you will find that the situation has changed a lot. Gradually, no one in the group spoke and became silent.
But as long as someone suddenly speaks in this group, it is basically not good. Either someone wants to make a big fight and "cut a knife", or invite students to attend the school banquet. In fact, I am not opposed to accompanying money, which is not worth mentioning. However, some students are really "running three treasures in vain" just to get a few hundred dollars in gift money.
"Man struggles upwards and water flows downwards." Different people I met after graduation live in different circles. Our values will change! Just like when you graduate from a graduate school, will you marry a female classmate who graduated from a primary school? I believe many men will refuse. When you have a bad day, don't join in the fun, and don't attend the so-called class reunion. Sometimes it is easier to make yourself a joke.
Real life always hits people hard, especially after we graduate. When we go to the class reunion again, we will find that those pure campus memories have long been diluted by time. Not that any relationship can stand the test of time. Couples who have slept for decades will still divorce because of personality differences, not to mention classmates who have only been together for a few years.
Some people are destined to stay with us only for a while, and then they will disappear at some point. And even if what we want is the party, many times what others want is interests. After decades of TV, students can still get together and talk and laugh. It is not quite the same as the real scene, and even if there is one, it is a few cases. In most cases, reality will give you a blow. After all, our life is not an ideal utopia.
In my opinion, for class reunion, although the original intention may be good. The purpose is to relive, contact the joys and sorrows of the students, and recall that glorious and unforgettable time. But for various reasons, many classmates' parties have been messed up. People try to flatter and talk big. It makes people feel really hopeful and disappointed.
Moreover, for class reunion, the best people who mix successfully basically don't have much time to attend the party. People's circles are different from yours, and your pattern is too far away. Why do others spend precious time with you? People who attend parties are usually those who are vain and eager to show off and flatter. Those people are not very capable, but they always like to put on a face and show how powerful they are.
Of course, it doesn't mean to completely deny not attending class reunion. This is only aimed at the present situation of most class reunions. We can hold small-scale parties with close classmates.
There are so many classmates, not everyone will be integrated into our social circle. Some students don't have much contact when they are reading. How many topics can we have? Relationships are similar to passers-by on the street. In this case, how can we build a deep and intimate friendship?
It's really a joke. I've only been to two class reunions, and I haven't said a word.
The first time was just after the 20 10 New Year. Before I came out from my hometown, my junior high school classmates arranged a party. Seriously, I don't want to go at all. Because I only studied with them for one and a half semesters, I transferred to another school. I can't stand my classmates in the village (also because of relatives, he called me brother), so I crustily skin of head.
They went to the mine restaurant first, and I was late for something temporary. I pushed the door in, but I was trapped. In a big private room with three tables, men and women sit at three tables. I don't remember many things. The time we went to school together is too short. It has been eight years, and the age from 12 to 13 is about 20, which is really a vague memory.
My brother introduced me, and I turned my head and wanted to leave. I am very traditional in my bones and dressed appropriately. Look at their strange hairstyles, dyed hair, fluffy ionic perms, and they stand out. You don't even cover your clothes. Everything that can be exposed is exposed. I feel like I'm in the wrong place, not a restaurant.
After the introduction, I just sat there smoking and listening to them. I didn't get a chance to talk at all. Because I am the only chef, they all talk about electronics factories, clubs and the like, and I am at a loss.
In desperation, I sent a message to my father asking him to call me five minutes later, saying that he had something urgent to find me. I went to the supermarket to buy a good cat cigarette and asked the waiter to take it into the private room for my brother. I left by motorcycle.
The second time was on 20 15, and it was another high school reunion. This time, let me go to a childhood party (his father and my father are best friends and grew up together). 16 people, only I have the lowest education. Only he and the classmate in the mining area have the strongest relationship with me, and only contact. At the dinner table, I often raise a glass with them.
The rest, I really don't know what to say or ask. Different degrees, vocational high school, technical secondary school, junior college, university, being a small boss and a veteran, but I have a junior high school education. The topic of conversation is not cars and houses, but tickets and women, and then games. In short, we just turn a blind eye to each other.
My monthly salary of 2065438+2005 is 7000 yuan, which is more than enough.
Except those two, everything else is frivolous eyes and arrogant attitude. I have to bite the bullet until it's over. They went to KTV to sing, so I went directly to the hotel to get a room to sleep, and there was no money.
Since then, I haven't attended a class reunion. Over the years, I have only had contacts with four classmates. A food factory that took over from my father, food packaging was supplied by my father's carton factory. One runs a restaurant, one plays with used cars, and the other is my small company. Our relationship is very harmonious. Chatting is chatting, and it never involves topics such as cars, rooms and tickets.
Don't talk about class reunion now, that is, colleagues have dinner, go home and drink with fellow villagers, all of which are comparisons and flattery. I can't stand the pain in my brain.