Love should not be too full. Love yourself before you love. Love too hard will cause pressure on each other and hurt yourself.
First, Shen Zhengheng's love in TV series is Qi Heng's second wife. She is the first daughter of Shen Shi's imperial clan in southern Shanxi, and her grandfather is a cabinet elder who has served several generations of kings. She is known as the "old fox", and her descendants and students are all over the world and have a solid foundation.
I grew up with everything, and married Qi Heng, who was personable, distinguished and talented. Qi Heng and Shenyang can be said to be a match made in heaven.
However, we all know that Qi Heng has Ming Lan in his heart. No matter how good he is to Shen Shi, there is always a place that belongs to Ming Lan. Shen Shi felt that Qi Heng's heart was not in his own Shen Shi, and she was afraid.
Walking around, she observed all the women around Qi Heng. She found Ming Lan and asked Minglan for advice. Ming Lan told her:
"The gentleman aspires to the quartet, and it's time to make progress in service. Although I am a woman, I also know that everything in my class is busy now. It is a positive move for Brother Heng to worry about the country and the people. Do you think it is necessary for couples to play butterflies and thrush every day to be harmonious? Your husband and wife respect each other as guests, and your family is prosperous, which is the greatest right way. " "There will be a gap between heaven and earth, and there is nothing perfect in the world. If you want to get through it, you can live well. "
In the play, Shen opened his heart and moved on, in exchange for Qi Heng's change of heart with a generous and tolerant attitude.
Second, in the original book, Shen and Long Fengtai are both dead. If only the ending was as happy as in the TV series. Finally, Qi Heng confessed to Shen: "My uncle said that I would have a different world, and you are that world."
However, in the original work, Shen can't let go of the past between praying for peace. After giving birth to twins, she found fault with the child's name, saying that the child's name had the word "Ming", which implied the word "Ming". In fact, the "Ming" in the child's name is based on the generation of the family, so Shen took this opportunity to fight.
Later, he was very angry, scolded Qi Heng, and suggested that Qi Heng change the name of the child, also because Gu He's relationship was tense for several days.
Shen cares too much about Qi Heng, and he always feels insecure. She will associate Qi Heng and Ming Lan with the little things in her life, and she is constantly worried about it. If Shen can love himself more, focus on his life, and be less balanced and entangled, he will not be so swayed by considerations of gain and loss and so upset.
The more you worry about being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, the lower your sense of security, which leads to the fact that Shen can't live without Qi Heng for a moment. Later, Qi Heng went to Minnan on business. At that time, there was an epidemic in southern Fujian, and everyone advised Shen not to follow, but Shen didn't listen and took two young twins to southern Fujian. In the end, mother and son were killed.
Third, a lover must first learn to love himself and balance his love. She loved too much and too hard, which led to the tragic ending of herself and her children.
Looking back at Zhang, she married Shen Guogong, who loved Da Zou (dead) and spoiled Xiao Zou. Zhang is also depressed, but her parents told her that "although women are weak, being a mother is strong." If you are alone, you will die, but this is just a sad experience for both of us. " But now that I have a child, I can't bear to see him alive. Because I was disliked by my father, bullied by my brothers and sisters, and treated slowly by my servants. "
After listening to Zhang's words, she woke up and was no longer depressed. She changed her previous views. She loves life and turns her attention to herself, her children and her parents. She is no longer obsessed with Xiao Zou and Shen Guogong, but loves herself wholeheartedly.
Later, Shen Guogong discovered Zhang's kindness and changed his mind to live a good life with Zhang. In the end, they had a room full of children and grew old together.
The women in the play, such as Mrs. Sheng, Wang Ruofu and Zhang, have not lived a loving marriage, but they still live a comfortable life. This is why, because they all understand the truth that they should love themselves and live for themselves.
If Shen can look down on it, be a good wife of Qi Heng, educate the children by the housekeeper, and enjoy tea and flowers with other wives. If she can stay at home without following Qi Heng, her and her children's lives will not be lost, and she will still have the opportunity to continue to have children, live and enjoy prosperity with Qi Heng.
Fourth, love should not be too full, hurting people and hurting children. Qi Heng married princess royal's first granddaughter and gave birth to two children. Later, princess royal's first granddaughter died of illness. Qi Heng raised two children alone and lived alone.
Old Qi Heng didn't miss Shen, nor did he miss the dead twins. He misses his feelings when he was young and his innocent feelings with Ming Lan.
Shen gave her life and didn't get any love from Qi Heng, so only her parents can remember her.