However, now of course it is no longer the sedan chair that is splashed, but bicycles, motorcycles, and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her trousseau. In addition to being convenient for daily life, it also means "growing old together" or "following the same footsteps." After the bride comes home, she has to get up early the next morning to cook and make a bowl of sweet rice herself. After the husband, mother-in-law and husband's brothers and sisters get up, they will be invited to taste some. It is said that for this bowl of sweet rice, the sugar must be brought from the mother's family, and a mouthful of one's own saliva must be mixed into the rice soup when cooking. Of course, the saliva is mixed into the rice soup quietly, and the eater does not need to ask any questions. This custom means that if the husband's family eats sweet rice containing the bride's saliva, the bride and the whole family will be able to get along harmoniously and live in harmony. During the first three days of marriage, the bride and her parents-in-law should avoid seeing each other. Early on the fourth day, the bride will go to the public well where her new home is located to draw water. Before drawing water, put a handful of brown sugar and a handful of soil brought by your parents' family into the well. This is so that the bride will not be acclimatized and can live in harmony with her neighbors. A folk activity that has emerged in recent years is worshiping the God of Wealth at midnight. No matter which region it is, the climax of a wedding is the "bridal chamber". The same is true in Chaoshan. Sachets are embroidered by brides hiding in their boudoir before getting married. People judge the bride's dexterity or clumsiness, diligence or laziness based on the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts. If you want to catch a glimpse of the bride's beauty, you must say "four auspicious words" before the bride is willing to put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous troublemakers who use the technique of first suppressing and then raising or first raising and then suppressing to make the bride not know how to answer. Special marriage customs In the past, there were many special marriage customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these forms of marriage customs have been eliminated, and although some still have their names, their forms have been completely changed. Finger marriage (also known as baby marriage): Old friends or close relatives and friends, decided by the parents of both parties, designate the two families to conceive the baby after birth. If a boy and a girl are born, they will be the future husband and wife, which is called finger marriage. When a man and a woman grow up, regardless of whether they like it or not, their parents choose a date to get married, which is called "house transfer". The etiquette of Chaoshan daughter-in-law:
Teaching family rules when getting married: women When getting married, in addition to the general principles and knowledge taught by parents and elders about being a daughter-in-law, there is a ceremony in which the daughter is required to sit on a water vat before getting into the sedan chair. This custom implies that the daughter should be "generous" like the water vat. Be open-minded and don't worry about things.
Recognize the rice vat: listen to the Wenggu's introduction to the location of the rice vat, the number of people cooking rice and porridge in the family, etc.
Listen to the water vat: listen to the Wenggu's instructions. Where to fetch water, where to hang the buckets and bucket hooks, and how to maintain hygienic drinking water, etc.
Stir the rice swill tank: use a wooden stick to stir it, and let the wife see that there is no uncooked or cooked rice in it. It means not to waste.
Lighting a fire: It is customary for a bride to cook for her aunt or sister-in-law when she comes home. Even if a rich family has a maid, it will take twelve days or one day. Participate in cooking at the first or fourth month:
The bride should respect the elderly and cherish the young when she first arrives, and should eat while standing for four days and twelve days. Daughters-in-law are advised to avoid this ritual only when they are sitting down to eat or do not need to feed the elders. Also, if they are not allowed to stand on the threshold, they are not allowed to sit in the main hall. When serving tea, they should be arranged according to the guest and host.
When washing clothes: men must be washed first. Wash women's clothes after taking them, wash the clothes of the elders first, then the clothes of the younger ones, wash the dark clothes first, then the light clothes, etc.