A name is not just a symbol, it is really more important than anything else. When a person walks through the world, all he leaves behind is his name. There are even many people who can’t even leave their names.
Although a name is only a few words, it carries all the information about a person. Don't give random names, let alone random surnames. Parents have the right to name their children, but they must be careful not to cause trouble or cause negative effects to their children.
The eight major surnames in ancient times: Ji, Jiang, Si, Ying, Gui, Gui, Yao, and Si, all have the character for female next to them. Because it is a matriarchal society, women’s rights are supreme. The birth of a child is best confirmed based on the maternal line. You can determine who gave birth to a baby without doing a genetic test. In fact, it is the most rigorous and scientific way for a son to take his mother's surname.
But later on, male supremacy reigned supreme. The son takes his father's surname, and the branch line is based on the father's line. Although the bloodline cannot be guaranteed to be 100% pure, the thousands of years of tradition cannot be shaken. Chinese people have a strong concept of clan blood relations. If a child does not bear the family name and is included in the family tree, it will be difficult for the child to be recognized by the clan.
In contemporary times, young parents with new ideas challenge the traditional right of surname. Some have both parents' surnames, and some take their mother's surname. There is nothing wrong with this, but in the face of reality, anyone who fails to conform to the customs will cause trouble for the children.
Nowadays, there are more only children, men and women are equal, and children are the same. Both parents want their surnames to last forever. Thinking about a hundred years later, there will be no descendants with my own surname in this world, it is really difficult to accept psychologically and emotionally. This has nothing to do with status and wealth. What people ultimately want is just a feeling. Here are a few real examples for your reference.
First, avoid using rare surnames
There is a girl named Ya. There are currently less than a thousand people with this surname. This surname caused the girl a lot of trouble. Previous mobile phones could not type this word, and many people did not recognize it.
Ya yá: a rare surname. It is collected in "Xutongzhi Clan Brief"; it is also collected in "A Survey of Surnames", which notes: "Both Xixia and Tubo have the Ya family; Shu has the Ya family. One cloud: After Tubo, (Ya) went to the mountains "Cunya." In the Ming Dynasty, Yacheng was appointed as the magistrate of Dazu in Qiongzhou.
But the girl said that in their local area they pronounced "come". Therefore, many people either don’t know it or pronounce it wrongly. The girl was very troubled when she thought about this. I have been told many times: You people with common surnames cannot understand the deep loneliness of rare surnames. Her father is a civil servant and they have only two daughters. Her grandfather hopes to marry a child with her surname. But the girl disagreed. She understands the loneliness of being a loner and doesn't want her child to be hurt anymore. If the surname was changed to "Lai", maybe she could still accept it.
Later I hired a man named Xie. I gave birth to a son and a daughter, both bearing the mother's surname, which indeed caused a lot of trouble for the children. The couple tried their best to disagree with the family and changed the child's father's surname.
Second, what is the surname of the stepfather’s child?
A certain woman lost her husband in her early years and had only one son. The woman’s natal family is relatively close to the city, while the man’s is in the countryside. If a woman owns real estate in her natal family, it does not constitute an intrusion. After the man got into a car accident, the woman made money to take care of the child. Although he has no worries about food and clothing, he still has a lingering heartache. Whenever the child asked her for her father, she could only lie and say: "Your father is away from home." The child cried and begged: "Dad, please come back more often? Other children in my family have their fathers with them. I miss my father, I want to Dad. "No amount of money or deep maternal love can replace the father's love that a child deserves." The woman's heart was cut like a knife, and she was speechless. I can only shed tears secretly. Finding a good father for your child is more important than anything else. But it’s really difficult to not dig into the basket and get the food.
When the child was ten years old, the woman found one. Still living in the woman's house. The child finally had a father, and he cheered happily: "My father is back. I have a father too!" The child's surname was Zhang, and it never changed from his father's surname. But when I filled out the information, I felt awkward. A family of three, with three surnames. When a child becomes sensible, he can also understand the helplessness of his biological mother and stepfather.
My father’s family has also been paying attention to the child’s growth, but they can only retreat behind the scenes. The child is very integrated with his stepfather's family. It's no different from his own biological child. The woman later became pregnant, fearing that the child would be wronged, so she reluctantly aborted it. Mother's love is great and persevering.
When the child gets married, the stepfather’s family supports him. There is nothing else, the most important thing is the title of surname on the colorful door. If we don't bear the father's surname, who will a large group of clansmen do the work for? Human beings are always smart and always have solutions.
Before the child's name, the stepfather's surname was temporarily added. You don’t have to worry about household registration, but you still need to pay attention to the sense of ritual. People are fighting over each other, all they are fighting for is status.
Third, the country changes hands
The man has two daughters, the second daughter is married outside, and the eldest daughter is married to the village. Just to take care of things conveniently, not to barge in the door upside down. The man bought a car and took over a square meter of the building. He was very busy and prosperous for a while. But when the family property was settled, the man died in an accident.
According to rural customs, it is necessary for a nephew to have an heir and give him the final rest. In the future, the family property will also be inherited by his nephew. But the daughter firmly disagreed. The eldest daughter threw basins, carried flags, and held the funeral, which was considered as a time of mourning and honor.
Her eldest brother was so angry that he gritted his teeth and stamped his feet. The title is very important and involves lineage continuation and property inheritance. Watching the country change hands and hand it over to others. Don’t say no one cares, everyone does. A woman cannot bring a new member to the family, and she has not made any contribution to the family. Instead, she has changed the surname of a great country. Some people are happy and some are angry, and the world is so diverse that it is difficult to tell what is right and what is wrong.
There are many practical examples. It can also be said that according to tradition, the name belongs to the individual, but the surname belongs to the family. The surname is the ownership of identity and also symbolizes the ownership of family property. When young parents give their children a surname, they must be cautious and conscientious and not be capricious and arbitrary. The biggest consideration should be what is best for your children. What do you think, friends?
Men must not offend women. Otherwise, you have toiled hard all your life and raised a child for an outsider and still kept it in the dark. [cover face][cover face]