Some time ago, my cousin gave birth to a second child, and she quarreled with her husband and in-laws in the hospital about the naming of the child. It turned out that my cousin discussed with her husband that Dabao, the first-born child, took her son's surname with her father's, and if Erbao was a daughter, she would take her mother's surname. As a result, Erbao was born a girl, but her in-laws did not want her child to take her surname. They also cursed their son: "There is no backbone. It has been a rule for thousands of years for children to take their father's surname. If they take their mother's surname, do you want dignity?" My cousin was so angry that she almost fainted.
Actually, my cousin doesn't need to be too angry. Who knows about the hidden "crisis" behind the seemingly loving and respectful family name of the son and the daughter?
Different surnames will alienate children, or make them laugh.
Not to mention the surnames of sons and fathers, but of daughters and mothers, what troubles will there be if two children have different surnames? First of all, different surnames will make children feel that they are either "separated" from this family, or "I am a father" or "I am a mother". In this way, if there is any stumbling in life, the two children will easily form hostility, which will lead to estrangement.
In addition, when two children have different surnames, they are easily mistaken for brothers and sisters when they go out, and they will be mistaken for the children after the second marriage. Or, even if others know that they are close, they will laugh at whether their parents are divorced. Really, this kind of thing does happen. One of my classmates is in love with her husband Xiu En, and the two children have their surnames. As a result, they changed back before the children went to primary school. Children's classmates always laugh at them because they are too troublesome and have to explain a lot to people around them when they go out.
Men follow men and women, which in itself reveals that men are superior to women or prefer men to women.
When it comes to "sons take their parents' surnames, and daughters take their mothers' surnames", there are problems in the way men follow men and women and follow women's surnames. Why don't sons take their mother's surname and daughters their father's surname? In the final analysis, is it not that men are superior to women, or that men are superior to women? Therefore, behind the love, in fact, it is still the right and dignity of men to protect their children's surnames for thousands of years, but it is a kind of "false generosity" to give their daughters' surnames to their wives now. If it is true, they will give their sons to their wives' surnames.
as far as I know, most of those who really want their sons to take their wives' names actually have two sons, and the wives are only children, so the men can't help it. Therefore, this way of naming children's surnames itself reveals that men are superior to women or prefer men to women, and it is only a matter of time before the family conflict "crisis" is induced.
It's easy for parents of the man and the woman to have conflicts
In addition, even if a man really loves and respects his wife, he is willing to let his daughter and even his son take her surname. But if the man's parents don't agree, it will be a big family conflict. Moreover, there are many only children now. If the wife is an only child, do her parents also value the question of whose surname the child is? If you value it, then because of the question of whose surname the child is, it is easy for both parents to have conflicts.
In fact, many people understand this problem, so some reasonable old people avoid contradictions in advance. As mentioned at the beginning, my cousin's in-laws object to the children taking her surname. She turned to her parents for help, but surprisingly, the two old people did not approve of her changing her daughter's surname. They think it's bad for the two children, and whether they have a family name or not is not their surname. Anyway, half the blood of their woman's family flows in the descendants.