Everyone is out of instinct on the unconscious side, but instinct is controlled by his own moral norms and will in reality. For example, I told you from an early age that forbearance is a sign of a gentleman, and then you took it as a moral standard. If someone does not respect you, you can tolerate it. But if you do, you will still feel unhappy in essence, and this unhappiness will be revealed in your dreams without moral norms and will control.