I dreamed of my first boyfriend for ten years. I haven't seen him for ten years, but I always dream about it. Does this mean that I want to see him?

I once saw a movie, and there was such a plot: it seemed that the hostess asked her what was the most important thing in marriage, but she just smiled and didn't answer. I didn't think much at that time, but I remembered this interesting question and brought it back. I also tried to ask some people and got many answers. But I can sum up all kinds of jokes. There are only words like "mutual trust, tolerance and respect". Really? Come to think of it, it seems not accurate. I always feel that there are more important things than these, but I can't say it for a while, and then I gradually forget it. Then after a few years, I experienced something and accidentally thought of this problem. Only then did I realize that my first feeling was right, and there were indeed more important things than these. "Mutual trust, tolerance and respect"-yes, this is indeed a very important thing in marriage. Without this, marriage will only be an empty shell. But I think these factors are not the most important in marriage, because there are many empty-shell marriages in real life.

Although such a marriage is unattractive, it continues. So these factors can only be the conditions in marriage, and they are still limited conditions. They can only measure whether the marriage is happy, but can't decide whether the marriage is maintained or continued. Therefore, these are not the bottom line and principles. It is also said that the most important thing in marriage is sex. There is no denying that sex has a great relationship with the harmony of marriage, because only harmonious sex can shorten and narrow the emotional distance between two people to the greatest extent, so that both sides can communicate and communicate to the greatest extent. In order to fully understand each other's physical and psychological aspects. Sexual disharmony or asexual marriage is very dangerous. In the long run, people who are dissatisfied or depressed are likely to cheat because of some accidental temptation, and even take the initiative to come to the door, thus triggering conflicts and opposition. The result is naturally the dissolution of marriage. Therefore, harmonious sex is an indispensable key factor in a harmonious marriage. On the contrary, it is bound to destroy the harmony of marriage and become a dangerous fuse leading to derailment. But is performance the bottom line and principle of marriage? I don't think it is necessary, because even sexual disharmony or asexual love will not lead to the dissolution of marriage soon. It will be a long process from negotiation to psychological struggle, to disloyalty, and then to conflict resolution.