First of all, as a "single parent", I can tell you responsibly that, as your friend said, most single parents are different from ordinary people. The argument that such a child has psychological problems is quite common, not only among your relatives and friends, but also in the mainstream media from time to time. You think your boyfriend will never see it? However, when a person grows up, he will be eager for success, which will aggravate social prejudice when he grows up.
Moreover, there is a very serious single parent problem, which is often ignored by ordinary people. In LZ, you grew up in a happy family atmosphere, and it is common to stumble occasionally, but your boyfriend actually lacks this experience! He grew up alone with his mother, so he didn't understand the "norms" of a normal family of three at all. He lacks in dealing with the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. He lacks the long-term role model of ordinary parents, and even if he does, it is a vague and painful failure memory of his childhood. This can explain why he agreed to his mother's unreasonable honeymoon request. If you really get married in the future, I believe the problem will become more and more serious.
It is true that even if a single parent is born, there are examples of children being healthy and happy as adults, so the key depends on the specific situation, what a single parent is like, and how she educates her children. Obviously, your future mother-in-law's problems are much more serious than your boyfriend's. It is her problems and educational methods that cause your boyfriend's psychological problems. From what she said, it can be analyzed that in her eyes, her son is a taboo for her to bear the burden of humiliation, so she can be confident and never let go. "I divorced for my son, and all my youth was dedicated to him. I will rely on him in the future. He can't be ungrateful, and no one is qualified to rob him with me. " This may be her true inner monologue. What's more, the relationship and feelings between her and your boyfriend are much stronger and more complicated than those between mother and son. It's not just the deviation between her and your boyfriend's subjective understanding. If she doesn't remarry (according to her remarks, I guess), that son is really her only support. Even if you agree not to live with your parents after marriage, I guess it is only a matter of time before she tries her best to move into your house, and living with married children has always been a contradictory crater, especially with her actual situation and personality.
Of course, the most important thing to analyze is your boyfriend. Insecurity is your woman's usual comment. In fact, no matter whether you hate your biological father or you are willful, including the example of watching movies, it shows that he is a very sensitive and inferior person, which is indeed a unique psychological feature of single parents.
As for the attitude towards the biological father, it is understandable. You know, this is the influence exerted by his mother when he was a child, and "childhood has an indelible influence on a person's life" is the viewpoint that your trusted psychologist has always insisted on. Take your own personal experience as an example. When your friends repeatedly tell you that single parents have psychological problems, you may not care, but once you meet the actual situation, don't you immediately think of their words and be seriously shaken? I was raised by a single mother. After my divorce, my mother always portrayed my father, my grandmother and all my relatives over there as heinous monsters in front of me when I was six years old. Later, she changed her mind, and I had my own ideas. However, these deaf ears and my father's unrequited love when I was a child can not be washed away by some living expenses. Even if my father is interested in wooing me now, I have no partial hatred for him, but I will be like most people.
So this can only prove one thing, that is, your future mother-in-law has a deep influence and control over your boyfriend. This kind of deep-rooted love for decades can't be pulled out. If you get married in the future, I'm sure your boyfriend will listen to your mother-in-law without any suspense. Your boyfriend doesn't even blink when he says, "I'll take care of your grandson's divorce."
In addition, your boyfriend is selfish and doesn't consider other people's feelings, which can be clearly seen through the movie incident and honeymoon incident. If you get married, you will definitely see more clearly after marriage, but it will be a little late to see it again. In addition to his personality, this selfishness towards his wife is also a powerful verification of the positive experience of the single-parent poor family I mentioned earlier.
To sum up, you will fall into the fire pit. Don't be surprised that your future mother-in-law will go on a honeymoon with you. In essence, the problems brought by a single-parent family make her and her son more like a couple who have lived together for many years, but you have become an out-and-out third party because you are young and beautiful.
So, where to go, you have to think about it yourself. One thing to emphasize is that you should not have the illusion of changing boyfriends. A person's thought can be improved through study and experience, but a person's nature cannot be changed, because he is an adult. Take yourself as an example. I won't talk to you here, but even if I am with my friends, I won't talk so much nonsense if it is not necessary. I know, compared with my years at school, I am just a teenager.
Finally, I have to say that if you are determined to break up with your boyfriend in the bridal chamber, please pay attention to the ways and means, and don't underestimate the BT psychology of single parents' surly extreme inferiority and excessive self-esteem. As a single parent, I really hope you can have an open talk with your boyfriend. For example, at least let him die, let him learn from his failure and don't waste your love. This is the last precious gift you can give him. I think this sincere attitude is the best solution you can choose, if he is reasonable.
In case he belongs to that kind of violent person, I will give you a trick to stimulate him, such as finding more opportunities to disagree with him on his views on his father. Maybe he will take the initiative to break up with you as soon as his brain is hot, and even if he regrets you later, the damage to him will be less, which in turn will make your safety rate higher.
At this point, psychologist Freud believes that both dream interpretation and heart disease resolution are people who want to untie the bell and tie it, mainly relying on themselves rather than experts. In fact, no matter how detailed your boyfriend is, we can only see the indirect information you sent, and then judge for ourselves. You are always the one who really knows him best and is most qualified to judge him. I wish you happiness.
This is how I, as a single parent, think and answer your question, and I have said a lot of tedious words that despise the traditional concept of "I would rather tear down ten temples than one" in China, just because my experience makes me not want to watch another broken single-parent family and another innocent child cut off from happiness all my life! So, you can leave the main points and other things to those experts, but although my heartfelt words are too trivial, please be patient and read them from beginning to end.