Once you enter the workplace, you become a member of the company team. In the course of daily work, some work may be done by yourself, and some work must be done by you and your colleagues. In the process of completing a job with others, it is inevitable to stumble. As the saying goes, "teeth touch the tongue", these are normal things. When you have conflicts and frictions with your colleagues, you must remember not to take others' mistakes and mistakes to heart. Sometimes even if your colleague makes a "low-level" mistake, if it is unintentional, you should be more considerate and tolerant.
In your daily life with your colleagues, don't feel that others are deliberately giving you a hard time because of a little friction. If you think so, you will bury the fire of resentment in your heart, and it will burst out one day over time. In that case, colleagues will be torn apart. If you don't answer me and I won't answer you, how can you cooperate to complete the task assigned by the company? In fact, when you have friction with your colleagues, you should consider it from the other side's standpoint, so that you will feel that other people's mistakes are completely reasonable. As the saying goes, "no one is perfect without gold", no one is perfect, some mistakes will happen naturally, and many mistakes often happen inadvertently. You know, forgiveness can better reflect a person's noble quality than complaining.
Richard is a diligent person. As the chief designer of the company, his meticulous attitude towards his work also made his colleagues admire him. But sometimes his harshness makes people afraid to approach him, which is similar to harshness and makes colleagues flinch.
One day, he was immersed in planning a design, which was very important. The manager wanted him to talk about his ideas, but his phone just couldn't get through, so he had no choice but to ask his secretary Linda to call him.
Linda has heard about Richard's work promise for a long time, and today she has the honor to witness it with her own eyes. Linda came to Richard's office door and knocked on it three times. No one answered, so Linda asked, "Excuse me, is anyone there?"
Still no answer, what can I do? The manager is still very anxious. Why don't you go in and have a look? If Richard is really not here, look elsewhere. Linda turned the doorknob and opened the office door. She saw Richard frowning and bending over the design case, very focused.
"So who are you? The manager is looking for you, why can't I get through? " Linda said a lot in one breath.
Richard looked up at the sound, took the pencil hand away from the box and knocked over the coffee next to it, which spilled on the design. "Who let you in?" Why did you come in without knocking? That's great, my heart and blood are in vain. "Richard flew into a rage.
Linda doesn't feel that she has done anything wrong, but Richard's fault. However, at that time, Linda didn't lose her temper like Richard did. She just told the whole story, and then Richard went to the manager.
When Richard came out of the manager's office, he went up to Linda and said, "I was so angry just now." Don't take it to heart! " "
In your career, you are bound to encounter mistakes made by your colleagues, and these mistakes are generally clear to your colleagues, who may have scolded themselves countless times in their hearts. If you don't blame him at this time, you can say something to reassure him and encourage him. He will think that you are an open-minded person and know how to think from the perspective of others. You can forgive your colleagues' mistakes, and your colleagues will appreciate you. Your colleagues will try their best to help you in your future work. Think about it, is this treatment hundreds of times more than scolding, reprimanding, complaining and holding grudges?
The ancients said: "All rivers run into the sea, with great tolerance;" The wall stands thousands of miles, and there is no desire. " Christopher peterson, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, said: "Forgiveness and happiness are closely linked. Forgiveness is the hardest of all virtues. A person who knows how to forgive must have a vast world; A person who knows how to forgive must be full of energy; A person who knows how to forgive must have a beautiful life. Forgiveness is a style, tolerance is a grace, and forgiveness is a grace. "
There is a model of "forgiveness" in the Bible: Yue Se was loved by his father, which caused his brothers' dissatisfaction and jealousy. The brothers tried their best to sell him to Egypt as a slave.
In the Egyptian slave owner's home, his performance would have made him highly praised, but he was framed by the slave owner's wife for no reason. As a result, he was sentenced to prison. In prison, he showed his ability to interpret dreams, which reached the ears of Pharaoh, who was troubled by his continuous nightmares every night. When he heard that there was such a person who could interpret dreams, he immediately recruited Yue Se to his side. Later, Yue Se was promoted to Egyptian Prime Minister for helping Pharaoh interpret dreams. With his dream interpretation, Egypt escaped the threat of famine for seven years.
Because of years of famine, his brothers in the countryside also came to Egypt to buy food. They happened to meet Yue Se. Yue Se also wanted to kill them, but he thought, if they didn't sell him to Egypt, how could he be as brilliant as he is today? Although their original intention was to harm him, God showed him another way out, which enabled him to be promoted and saved the people from famine.
Thought of here, his wound was finally treated. He opened his heart completely and received his brothers very calmly. Because of his kindness and forgiveness, his brothers felt very ashamed. Finally, he and his brothers cried and made up.
Asagioli once said, "Without forgiveness, life will be dominated by endless hatred and revenge." When you are still sad and unhappy about an unpleasant thing, when you are trying to give some "color" to those who offend you, when you are trying to "deal with a man as he deals with you", when you are planning to get revenge for a gentleman for ten years, when you want to get back at those who framed you, slandered you and hurt you, you might as well. In the days without worries and spiritual fetters, in the space without pain and resentment, your life will be full of sunshine and your career will flourish.
Understand tolerance, learn to forgive, abandon all evil, unhealthy and harmful desires, embrace all the beautiful life, and calmly walk out of the cage of the soul.
If you can neither forgive others' mistakes nor know how to forgive others, you will carry a big stone on yourself, and you will become lonely, autistic, narrow-minded and trapped in it. And if you learn tolerance, you can make room for yourself to accept others, and others will be willing to accept you.
It is especially important to forgive others' mistakes in the workplace. If you can't forgive others' mistakes, it is tantamount to tearing down the bridge on your own way forward, and you won't have a good cooperative relationship with your colleagues. In this case, your company's team can't have good cohesion, so how do you do the work assigned by the company?
On the road of life, you should always get rid of jealousy, jealousy and suspicion. More importantly, you have a broad mind, which can cover everything and provide rich and huge backup resources for your success. "A big belly can accommodate things that are difficult to accommodate in the world; Laugh often when you open your mouth, and laugh at the ridiculous people in the world ",which just shows the character and fate of a generous person." Only a generous man can achieve great things, because he is broad-minded, magnanimous and knowledgeable.
As a rare enlightened monarch in the history of China, Emperor Taizong was a model of magnanimity among emperors.
After the Xuanwumen incident, some generals in Qin Gong advocated killing Li and Li Yuanji's henchmen and confiscating their houses. Many people are still looking around for the members and soldiers of the Gongfu regiment, scrambling to take credit for killing them, which makes the Gongfu regiment feel uneasy. The magnanimous Li Shimin wisely adopted the appeasement strategy. On the one hand, he forbade the Qin government to arrest and kill indiscriminately, on the other hand, he made it public in the name of Gaozu. For some members of Gongfu Group who dare not come forward, he issued imperial edicts several times to relieve their concerns with sincerity. Finally, Li Shimin's generosity made his enemies loyal to him.
On another occasion, on the night of Mid-Autumn Festival, Emperor Taizong gave a big banquet, full of poems. He improvised a palace poem and ordered the ministers to offer peace. Yu Shinan was the first to be noticed. Yu Shinan said publicly: "Your majesty's masterpiece is really remarkable, creative and energetic, but the content of the poem is not elegant, so I really dare not offer peace." As the saying goes, "The good in the world is worse in the world". I am worried that this poem will spread to the palace and the world will compete to imitate it. The flashy phoenix will be swept away and the consequences will be unimaginable. Therefore, I dare not obey. "smug emperor Taizong, Yu Shinan poured a pot of cold water in front of everyone. The embarrassment and anger at that time can be imagined, but he can reflect on himself in time. He knows that Yu Shinan's words are very reasonable, the world is at peace, and he should be prepared for danger in times of peace. So instead of being angry, Emperor Taizong rewarded Yu Shinan.
It is precisely because Emperor Taizong can tolerate the loyalty and kindness of his subordinates, be open-minded and listen to good deeds that he can achieve "chastity rule".
There is always such an eternal fact in the world: people are not sages, to err is human. Then, you should keep a tolerant heart, you have affinity, and your career has infinite power.
We are in the workplace, and it is inevitable that we will be inextricably linked with others. In such a network, people are not free and unconstrained. If you want to achieve great things, you must be in harmony with your colleagues around you. To do this, then you shouldn't get angry when your colleagues do something wrong. Once you can forgive him in time, your work will be more orderly, and one day he may become your right-hand man in your career.
There was a boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him to hammer a nail in the backyard fence whenever he lost his temper.
On the first day, the boy nailed 77 nails. Slowly, the number of nails hammered down every day decreased, and he found it easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails.
Day by day passed, and finally the boy told his father that he had finally pulled out all the nails.
My father took him by the hand and came to the backyard, saying, You have done well, my good boy. But look at those holes in the fence. These fences will never be repaired. What you say when you are angry will leave a scar like these nails. If you stab someone with a knife, no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wound will last forever, and the pain of words is as unbearable as the real pain.
If you want to achieve something in the workplace, you must have a tolerant heart towards your colleagues, always remember their benefits, forgive their mistakes, and not deliberately criticize their shortcomings. Only in this way can you gain peace of mind and feel happy at work. How can there be any problems that will trouble you?
People often hurt each other forever because of some persistent insistence. If we can all start from ourselves, treat others with tolerance and always forgive others' mistakes, I believe we will receive many unexpected surprises one day. I believe that if we open a window for others, we can let ourselves see a more complete sky.