Skills of Dealing with Marriage Conflicts

Meng Yuan's emotional love counselor believes that many problems in marriage are not caused by one person. When a problem appears and neither side responds positively, the problem becomes more and more serious. 1, silence is becoming a habit. When there are contradictions and quarrels between husband and wife, some people will choose to treat them coldly, say nothing, and just do their own things silently with a cold face. Meng Yuan's emotion thinks that we should not think that this can calm two people down, and the problem will be solved when we calm down. In the relationship between husband and wife, silence will only leave the problem behind, but it can't fundamentally solve the problem. Once the problem is serious, it will affect the feelings of two people and the relationship between husband and wife. To save love and marriage, we must solve the problem in time instead of waiting for the other party to solve it. 2. I like to make excuses when I encounter problems. Some people think about how to solve the problem first, but make excuses for themselves. Such behavior will only make your lover more angry and dissatisfied with you. Find reasons for problems, not excuses or reasons for yourself. Learn to open your heart, listen to your lover's point of view, and finally put forward constructive suggestions according to the situation of things. If you find reasons to shirk every time you encounter problems, of course, the marriage problem will not be solved. It doesn't matter how you don't know how to save love and how to save marriage, but don't do something to make the problem worse. Actually, there is nothing wrong with taking responsibility. Taking a step back can help you save your love, your marriage and the conflict between you. I can't control myself. Every time two people have a conflict, the first thing that comes to mind is not how to solve the problem peacefully, but to vent my dissatisfaction first. Say what comes to mind, you can't control your emotions at all, and no matter what the consequences will be, just throw it over. I believe that everyone has emotional moments, but venting depends on the situation, so that the heart can be smooth and the problem is more serious. If you really want to solve the problem, save your feelings and save your marriage, then do what you should do, consider the situation before you act, and think about what you can do to save your love and marriage. Skills of dealing with marital conflict II. Studies have shown that the number of quarrels between husband and wife is not directly related to the divorce rate. In other words, the average number of quarrels between harmonious couples and divorced couples is similar. What really affects marriage is whether the husband and wife have the ability to deal with contradictions and differences. So when there is a conflict. How to handle contradictions correctly and learn to handle contradictions correctly can make your marriage longer and your life happier. The other side's reaction is 1, and the way to fight back will only escalate the contradiction, attack each other and lose both sides. 2. Avoid or change the subject. Maybe the other party doesn't think things are serious and doesn't want too many disputes between them. Their different ideas led to the escalation of the conflict again, and finally led to the fact that they were not on the same channel at all, and the quarrel became more intense. Dealing with such problems in a silent or cold war way will only make the other party more uncomfortable, especially the worried girls will be more angry. When all the anger is stuffy in the heart and there is nowhere to vent, the contradiction will get deeper and deeper. 4. The main thing is to admit mistakes. If the other person has such an attitude, it doesn't mean that he really realizes his mistake. He just didn't want to quarrel with you again, so he chose to take a step back. But in many cases, it is mainly to be convinced or admit mistakes, which will bury hidden dangers in each other's hearts. When these feelings accumulate to a certain extent, once they break out, they will be irreparable consequences. How to deal with these contradictions is a normal reaction after a quarrel between husband and wife, not a consequence. We know in our hearts that this is wrong. So how do we deal with contradictions correctly? In this case, when two people have conflicts, don't just look at the superficial phenomenon. Maybe the other party is angry on the surface and hurts us with some ugly words. We should see that under the strong disguise of the other party, there is actually a fragile crying child. If you can think like this, you will forgive his mistakes and even want to give her a warm hug to soothe his broken heart. So when there is conflict, think of the poor child. We must admit that there is a certain gap between people. Even between couples with very good feelings, there are many problems that cannot be solved. So learn to accept these differences, accept each other's differences, and allow each other to be their true self. Everyone can express his ideas without scruple. If it is a conflict of ideas, treat it generously as a condiment of life. Everyone wants to change each other's mind, but Bian Xiao feels that there are no two people exactly the same in this world, because differences make our world better and richer, and learn to accept each other's differences. Bian Xiao believes that everyone is different and has their own values. Different values have different ways and results in dealing with things and problems. This is also one of the reasons for the contradiction between husband and wife. So the first thing to do is to manage yourself and know yourself, and then to understand and accept others. We should look at each other's strengths with appreciation, face up to their differences, and don't turn these different conflicts into a denial of each other's personality. Don't always emphasize that you are right, learn to understand each other's ideas. At the same time, we should also pay attention to communication and seek compromise between the two sides. When it is really difficult to accept each other, many times you are too stubborn. If you want to maintain this relationship, you must get rid of your inner bad emotions. Learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, try to accept each other's differences, and help each other, respect each other, appreciate each other and grow together. Everyone has a different understanding of happiness. We should learn to guide each other to accept our differences, and also learn to accept others' differences, so as to make this marriage last longer. Bian Xiao thinks that this treatment can not only change the other side, but also make the other side feel uncomfortable, and it is a method of killing two birds with one stone. Marriage is a stage that everyone has to go through, and there are many setbacks to face. But as long as you are willing to work hard and have enough endurance, these problems can be solved. It is very necessary for every family to learn how to solve conflicts. The final settlement of the conflict did not hurt both sides, but used a fierce running-in way and communication way. After the conflict, many problems were solved, which helped both sides to understand each other.