In fact, at all stages of children's growth, all kinds of rebellious problems annoy parents, and most of these problems are caused by parents' mistakes in family education.
In order to improve the communication effect between parents and children, parents are advised to strengthen the following three aspects in family education:
(1) Parents learn to appreciate education and improve communication with their children.
When using appreciation education to communicate with children, we should follow the six principles of "appreciation education" put forward by Mr. Zhou Hong:
1. Principle 1: Respect children-learn to listen and ask questions.
2. Principle 2: Trust children-learn to worship and learn to be proud.
3. Principle 3: Understand children-learn to be grateful and learn to accompany.
4. Principle 4: Encourage children-learn to explore and learn to share.
5. Principle 5: tolerate children-learn to reflect and learn to wait.
6. Principle 6: Remind children-learn to criticize and learn to share.
Perhaps children have many unsatisfactory places, such as playing mobile phones, bragging, procrastinating, weak sense of time, lack of perseverance, dislike of labor, selfishness, weak sense of responsibility, and disrespect for teachers and the elderly.
All the shortcomings of children reflect the inherent shortcomings of our parents; So we should be able to see the advantages and highlights of children and inspire them.
Of course, the ultimate basis for effective communication with children is the sincere love that our parents pay for their children.
(2) Help children find a learning method that suits them.
1.？ Stimulate children's inner learning motivation.
Respect children's dreams and choices. Parents should guide their children, set their own goals in life and help them find the value and meaning of her life. Guide children to become self-confident, self-reliant, self-loving and comfortable people, and stimulate their inner motivation to learn.
2. Help children find suitable and effective learning methods.
Three principles of learning methods:
(1) Schools should learn every lesson carefully according to the teacher's teaching content. If you can keep up with the rhythm, there is no need to take extracurricular training courses.
(2) Seriously finish the homework assigned by the teacher, pay attention to reviewing before writing homework, sharpen your knife, and do homework after reviewing, which will help improve learning efficiency.
(3) Make a summary of phased learning. Children need to be taught to sum up their studies, such as: after learning a chapter, sum up their studies with mind maps; Or use the catalogue and chapters of teaching materials to summarize and recall the mastery of learning knowledge points, and learn it again skillfully and again unskilled; Most importantly, children must learn to review and summarize knowledge points regularly.
3. Guide children to learn to make study plans.
First of all, teach children to set a few small goals that are easy to achieve. After getting in touch with them, they can feel that they can do it, give them confidence and help their children develop their potential.
The second is to guide children to set long-term goals. For example, senior one children can be guided to set long-term six-year goals, medium-and long-term three-year goals, short-term 1 goals or 1 semester goals. Then break down the goals into monthly and weekly. After the plan is made, we should always urge the children to check, summarize the implementation of the plan in time, and constantly adjust it.
The third is to guide children to form the habit of going to bed early and getting up early, and form good study habits of self-discipline, thus promoting the realization of the phased goals of the study plan.
4. According to the actual situation, choose a suitable extracurricular tutoring class or find a tutor for your child.
Everything is child-centered, and on the basis that children accept and are willing to accept more learning tasks, they enroll in extracurricular remedial classes; Moreover, the extracurricular tutoring classes must be suitable for the children's learning situation, and don't blindly follow the trend.
(3) Lead by example, parents should grow up with their children.
Children in the rebellious period have strong learning and imitation ability, and parents' good words and deeds will have a subtle influence on children. In family education, parents are always role models for children to learn. Therefore, parents also need to keep learning and improve their family education level.
Parents must remember that good parents teach their children well.
If there are contradictions between parents, we must avoid children properly. In addition, in the process of children's learning and growth, our parents should learn to control their words and deeds and make appropriate sacrifices, such as controlling online time, controlling TV watching time, reasonably arranging housework, reading more and learning more, and guiding children to fall in love with reading and learning.