Whether Li Lianglei's complaint is true or not, his complaint shows me the initial inequality of their marriage relationship.
Created the inevitable result. So how do you find the other half who has loved and known each other for a long time in the journey of life? Put forward some superficial views on your own life experience and ask for advice.
First of all, in marriage, both men and women must be in an equal position.
Since two people can be together, it must be well thought out, and they intend to join hands to grow old. Then the beginning of a good relationship must be that this person can make you truly be yourself, and you can show your true self, your joys and sorrows, your pride and your inferiority in front of it, instead of blindly obeying each other and catering to each other's preferences. In Li Jinglei's narrative, I can see that this kind of marriage is strong in men and weak in women from the beginning. The man's family is full of precautions against the woman in the whole marriage process, and even often suspects humiliating the cold and violent woman and forcing her to sign an unequal prenuptial agreement. I don't know why this woman wants to marry this man. This is really puzzling. Obviously there were problems before marriage. Can it last long after marriage?
This reminds me of a girl in the same village. At that time, before marrying her first husband, she found that the other person had a violent tendency towards herself, but she still chose to endure it on the grounds that she didn't want to embarrass her parents because the invitations had been sent out. However, the consequence of this kind of marriage is that the marriage is still derailed and violent, and finally embarked on the road of divorce, and even paid compensation to the other party to prevent the rogue ex-husband from harassing his family. What do these two things give us? Personally, I think it is a good reference for us to educate girls. Every girl is the treasure of her parents. We all hope that our daughter will be independent when she grows up and will not be invaded by love rat.
Then we must first give our children a bottom line education. Whether in daily communication with people or in marriage, we must have our own bottom line. The bottom line of marriage is the inviolability of personality. Both sides must maintain equality of personality at the beginning of communication, and cannot belittle each other on the grounds of love. Otherwise, your love will only make you cheap and fatten others. Finally, I fell into the quagmire of life and couldn't extricate myself.
Secondly, we should remain relatively independent in marriage and reflect our own values in marriage.
Li Lianglei was married for eight years and had three children. Just because the other person likes children, has he ever thought about his health and career? A graduate student who graduated from a prestigious school should have a bright future, but he was imprisoned in a family that was not accepted by him and lived a widowed marriage life. Just because my husband says he still loves himself, he can forgive everything and continue this life. I just want to know what she thinks, and what is her life value in this marriage? Is it the family's fertility machine? This makes us understand that in marriage, women must have self-awareness, be independent in personality and economy, and never give up the pursuit of life when they get married. Your confident and energetic appearance is the best regulator and preservative in marriage.
Finally, I want to warn all unmarried female friends that if your boyfriend has all kinds of bad behaviors before marriage, no matter how much you love him, you must get out in time and never spend your life on impulse. It also warns all married women that they must have a bottom line in marriage, have their own independent personality, and must not tolerate the behavior of the man touching the bottom line. Otherwise, they will not only wronged themselves, but also ruin the whole family and even affect the growth of their children. We should believe in love, but the premise of love must be mutual, loyal and warm to each other, not unilateral sacrifice and sacrifice, and eventually we will be disheartened, torn and embarrassed!