First, the age gap between the two is too big, and there is an insurmountable gap. There is a generation gap between two people in communication, thinking and behavior.
Second, it is difficult for you to meet a high-quality single older partner, and you have to fall in love before you get married. You calculate how many levels there are here.
Third, in real life, even in friendship, there are few friends who forget each other after more than one round and have a big age gap. Let alone love.
Fourth, we should consider the conditions of both sides. Unless you are both financially independent and mature, and the older one has a young heart, neither of you is afraid of worldly vision.
If you are the younger party, the older party is not as successful as you, or not as successful as you, then forget it. The other party is likely to be eliminated by his age, so there is no way to develop further.
In fact, when men and women fall in love, age is not a problem. There is no rule that ... men and women must be older to fall in love and get married. It is not easy to get married in reality, and it is not easy for parents' generation to accept the age gap, and in this case, the process of falling in love and getting married is generally not smooth.
Regardless of parents' opposition, this is a marriage that can't be blessed by relatives and friends. This requires a strong will, and I must be prepared to pay the price ... I often feel mentally exhausted. When the contradiction intensifies, men will hesitate, so women will be disappointed with men and even resent them. I'm afraid it's easy to be masochistic under pessimism.
Even if two people get married successfully, it is difficult for marriage to last long. When the man is in his 60 s and the woman is in her 40 s, this marriage is easy to break up. A man will spend the rest of his life in anxiety because his wife is too young and his wife has a man problem. Men may need constant efforts to hide their age, make themselves look young, wear young clothes or dye their black hair, and often suffer mental pain because they don't trust their wives. The chances of such a marriage bringing pain to men are far greater than the chances of happiness.
Young women like to choose older men because young women are more likely to be with older men than with men of the same age. Older men can tolerate everything, making women feel very comfortable, and older men are more economically stable than men of the same age, and women do not feel material difficulties.
These advantages do exist now, but with the passage of time, there will be corresponding shortcomings, which must be borne in mind. Nothing for nothing. Everything happens for a reason. There is no ethical problem in the relationship between age differences, but the small happiness now may lead to great disasters in the future.
Happiness will not come automatically with the arrival of marriage. Actually happiness has nothing to do with marriage. The most effective way to get a happy marriage ... is that both of us should improve ourselves, cultivate ourselves and improve ourselves.