Marriage customs between men and women During the late Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, the matchmaker shuttled between the families of men and women, saying that the consent of the woman's family (mainly her parents) was red (write down the date when the woman was born), and then the man's family (mainly her parents) would give the horoscope of both men and women to the fortune teller for calculation, commonly known as "matching horoscope". If the woman's eight characters don't match, they will be returned to her. As long as the woman has no objection, the matchmaker will immediately announce the good news to her. Then the man will bring a bride price and send the horoscope to the woman, and the woman will return her shoes and hats to the man to show her marriage. This is called engagement. After 1949, the feudal matchmaker will gradually disappear and the central media will be cut off. Harmoniousness, constellations and other bad habits are gradually disappearing. The reason why men and women get married is that they know each other, others introduce them, and then the introduction of related people only plays a bridge role. Whether marriage is independent or not is arranged by people (including parents) who are not allowed by both parties.
Marriage custom-bride price
When a man and a woman are engaged to get married, the man will give the rich family gifts such as pork, chicken, duck, tobacco, alcohol and tea, pearls, agates, gem ring, bracelets and necklaces. The traditional and ancient wedding customs in Hunan depend on the economic conditions of the man's family. This custom has been passed down to this day, and there are many days when men in their fifties and sixties send bride price to women: 4 ~ 8 sets of clothes for banquet meat; Sending sewing machines, bicycles, watches and radios in the 1970s was called "three turns and one ring". After 80s, we will send color TV sets, tape recorders, refrigerators, sofas and cash, ranging from several thousand yuan to tens of thousands of yuan. The bride price given by the man, in addition to catering dishes, is brought to the man as the dowry of the woman.
Marriage custom-marriage
Also known as wedding day, a few months before the wedding or earlier, the matchmaker will tell the woman that the dowry of the woman depends on the bride price given by the man and the wealth of the woman's family. The poor have only one or two beds and a little furniture. For the rich, gold-painted big beds, tables and chairs, boxes or suitcases, handmaids, cows and horses are all given to the man's house for weddings, and the man's house prepares sedan chairs, and the dowry band is guided to the woman's house by the matchmaker, and then a table of incense is placed at the gate. As soon as the sedan chair arrives in Sami, it is called "receiving the sedan chair", and then a banquet is held to entertain the late reception team. At home, the mother in the banquet hall sat next to the woman and chose Fuze's old woman to guide her to drink the wine named "Leave Mother's Wine". After three rounds, she took her daughter back to her room and invited her aunts and sisters to sing. The matchmaker asked for money and a flower box, which was called "playing the flower box". The bride will turn into a sedan chair at any time the next morning, wearing a large bronze mirror on her chest (to ward off evil spirits) and wearing a rockhopper or an oolong handkerchief or hydrangea to bid farewell to her ancestors. Then Fukuzawa's wife will carry her sedan chair brothers and male relatives to send many people to the male sedan chair on the way. If the official car takes the main road (left), the official car takes the small side (right). Marriage event is commonly known as "Little Deng Ke". If the sedan chair meets the sedan chair, the bride exchanges scissors with each other. Brides crossing the bridge should give bearers a red envelope to express their comfort and hint that they should be more careful. When the head was carried to the door of the man's hall, Fu symbolically weighed it with a scale, saying it was "heavy", which meant that after marriage, the eight-character sedan chair and her husband's son-in-law had to meet the guests who were going to see him off outside the village. Set the incense table to pick up the sedan chair, choose Fu as the ya ring, open the sedan chair, and the maid will lead the bride into the ancestral temple to worship her ancestors. Uncle Tian will meet all the guests in turn, and it will be named "Visiting the Temple". Then the maid will introduce relatives and friends into the bridal chamber that night, and the young people in the neighborhood will go to the bridal chamber to let the bride and groom hold ginger tea. The guests were separated the day before and the day after the wedding ceremony. After 1949, the wedding has no rules, but marriage is a lifelong celebration. People invite relatives and friends to celebrate Hakka gifts and congratulate the host family, and prepare banquets to reward them. In rural areas, some people still follow the old wedding customs.
Marriage custom-crying marriage
Crying is a wedding custom in Chenzhou, Yongzhou and Hengyang, Hunan Province. The married girl cries in person, and the mother and daughter cry together with the married girl and cry for you. I cried with tears all over my face and cried into a ball. The content of crying is much more complicated, such as crying for parents, crying for sisters, crying for farewell to ancestors, crying for eight characters, crying for the poor, crying for not being able to read at school, and so on. Sacrifice ancestors, etc. Wedding ceremony, wedding ceremony, wedding climax, bridesmaids and bridesmaids get married according to wedding etiquette. They cried one by one and almost cried all night to express their feelings. Only when they cry can their families prosper. The crying sentence is as deep as the mother's tears, exhorting her daughter: "Mother advised her to go out and be filial to her parents, parents and brothers, and they should be kind." The daughter urged her mother to take care of herself. A hundred years of children and grandchildren are full and prosperous. "My daughter wants to get married while crying:" A good horse rides a lover without saddle and clothes. Someone cheated my grandparents. Please have mercy and give me more clothes. "Crying method is different from the usual crying method, that is, the performance crying singing method which is neither wailing nor low. Repeating" mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm "from slow to fast will make people cry as if they were educated. In the past, the training score of partner marriage was 600. 100.
Marriage custom-making trouble in the bridal chamber
Also known as the noisy bride, on the wedding night of the bride and groom, many guests and young neighbors make fun of the bride's customs. After the wedding reception, many guests and young neighbors asked the groom to "meet the bride", so the groom accompanied everyone into the bridal chamber. When people are in the bridal chamber, they often read four words to express their congratulations, such as: "The tea tray is deep, the husband and wife are blind, and the children and grandchildren are early." At the beginning of the bridal chamber, one of the maids or guests pushed the red dates in the bed account and called them "Tian Ding". After adding Ding, the maid helped the bride and groom to stand around the guests. When the guests got off the bus, they quarreled with the bride in the main hall. When the bride offered her host wedding candy and sweet tea, the host deliberately refused to accept it, but the people sitting next to her also let the bride walk around the room. Everyone ignored her, so the bride began to quarrel. Then, she asked the bride to sing, dance or hug the bride and groom. The bride encountered some problems. The groom replied that there was a prank to wet the bed of the bride and groom or put ants in it, which made it difficult to sleep that night. In short, it is all kinds of humorous waves and jokes. In order to bless the bride and groom, men, women and children can have a big meal. Of course, the bride and groom are in trouble, but they don't "celebrate" Although the custom of doing weddings is much more civilized in the times, it still persists.
Marrying lang
Marriages between Yao, Miao, Dong and Han are common in many parts of the province. Yao women in Jianghua Yao and Chengbu Miao, the largest mountainous areas, have higher status. They don't marry outside, but stay at home to "find husbands". Daughter's family often takes over after the daughter grows up and lets the man get married, which is called "Zhao Lang", "son-in-law" or "inverted door" and "Zhao Lang". Call each other brothers and avoid calling each other brothers; The younger generation calls uncle, and the uncle avoids calling uncle, in order to avoid the suspicion of "people with other surnames". "Zhaolang" has the right to control property and inheritance in the woman's family. There are two kinds of names, namely "two don't split up" and "two don't split up", also called "two-faced" and "half-recruited", that is, after marriage, both men and women should take care of their children in family production and life, and so on. Children born in a woman's family who changed her surname all took the mother's surname. Han people "recruit" married men "recruit" or "adopt". Children born to women who do not change their surnames do not change much with their mother's surnames. Children who take their mother's surname do not change their surnames.
Marrying lang
In the early years of the Republic of China, men in the Qing Dynasty cut their braids into bald heads and then cut them into flat heads. After the dome, young women wear long hair or braids, while old women wear "Babatou", also called "Babatou". In the early 1950s, men liked to shave their heads or cut their heads. Young students cut off western-style heads. Boys are used to keeping a short square hair on their foreheads, which is called "drooling hair", while girls like to tie a claw braid or a big seedling. Unmarried women in rural areas braid their hair after marriage and cut it into shoulder-length short hair. Middle-aged women in cities and towns often cut into the double braids of Dozza, a girl with short hair.