1. Family relationship:
A family, father respects mother, mother cares for father, and the family is happy. Children living in the sun are peaceful, optimistic, confident and happy. If parents respect their children, don't do all the big and small things, and help them make all the decisions, then the child will be an independent person.
If parents are noisy and fighting, children will inevitably be passive to Nuo Nuo and feel extremely inferior. The happiness of childhood is very important. After many years, I can't help but smile when I recall the interesting things in my childhood. That kind of satisfaction is the driving force to move on.
My childhood was very happy. My parents lived in harmony. In my impression, they never quarreled, and they were very patient with me. Although my family was difficult when I was a child, I was very confident in studying at school or playing with children. A girl who played together since childhood, when we were in the first grade, her parents always fought and used knives at every turn. She told me that her mother and her father had fought again. Her mother smashed the TV and kitchen utensils at home, and her father hit her mother. Does her mother want her? For quite a long time, she always cut her own flesh with a pencil sharpener, which was particularly pessimistic. Now she is not in love, and she is afraid of men.
Before the age of three, it is a critical period for shaping a person's character and habits. Family of origin is happy, the child's personality is sunny, he has a sense of security, and he is decisive in handling things. Character decides fate, and family of origin decides a person's character.
2. Family background:
I am an orator. In one program, a female college student gave a speech that everyone praised. Her argument is that the descendants of the poor are poor and the descendants of the rich are still rich. She has done systematic data analysis, and more than 95% of the descendants of the rich will continue their ancestors' diligence and study spirit, and with the help of family strength, they will still be rich. More than 95% of the descendants of the poor, due to economic conditions and vision constraints, it is difficult to turn over.
The speaker declaimed: The descendants of the rich are still rich, and the descendants of the poor are still poor, but fate has also slipped through the net.
A very small number of people are very lucky. Through hard study, they have been admitted to universities and doctors, and become doctors and teachers. Changed fate.
but among the best, it is difficult to have children from poor families. There is a follow-up survey. Every year, the top candidates in the college entrance examination are mostly concentrated in famous schools in provincial capitals or sub-provincial capitals, with excellent family education, well-off family, comprehensive quality and aura.
For example, Zheng Chenxiao, from Hefei No.1 Middle School, won the first place in the liberal arts in Anhui College Entrance Examination in 218 with a total score of 678. In an interview, the quiet girl with glasses said that she loves to travel abroad. She traveled to more than ten countries in junior high school and traveled to the United States alone when she was 12 years old. His family is good, his tutor is good, and he is extremely self-disciplined.
Children in rural areas have too few resources and narrow vision, and it is too difficult to go out and change their destiny. It's really hard to give birth to a noble child in a poor family, but if the children in a poor family don't work hard and fight for it, they will never get out of the bottom.
what determines a person's fate? I think it's really God. Judging from what happened this year, I'm more sure it's God. What personality, attitude and living conditions? Actually, they are not. They just give us positive energy and make us love life positively.
why did I say "god"? I was in the 197s, and my family was poor before, so I got into the habit of saving money. My shopping cart was full and cleared, and then it was full again, because I couldn't bear to buy it. I went to clear the shopping cart when I remembered the bitter days before, but at the end of February this year, because of my greed and quarrelsome mood, I was cheated by tens of thousands of swindlers, and it took me a month to recover. I also asked someone to tell my fortune that I should lose money, and the number was not small. Until mid-July, I was really cheated again, and I was the stupidest one who asked me for the verification code. At that time, I felt that I had met a liar when I heard the verification code, but I still sent it to the other party. I woke up afterwards and blamed myself. What happened? Obviously, the verification code appears in my mind and I feel inappropriate. Why did you give it back to him? This makes me feel that my life is arranged for you, that is, "sitting at home with the door closed, and disaster falls from the sky"
Although I believe that fate is arranged by God, I still have to face it positively, believing that fate will not always make me so bad. As the saying goes, when God closes a door, he will open a window for you.
I think it is due to parents' education (congenital conditions), their own efforts (self-efforts) and social development (related to the general situation).
speak slowly.
family of origin's influence is the brand of a child's life. My parents (my father in 1942, my mother in 1941, my brother and sister in 1972, my brother in 1974 and I in 1985) are very honest and dutiful people. My father is too straightforward and my mother is too weak. My father seldom talks reason with us, but complains and scolds. My mother has a better temper and never says anything about our brother. It's hard to survive in a home full of complaints. I want to leave this home in my heart, but I have been trying hard for nearly 3 years and I have not succeeded.
My brother is too lazy, he doesn't want to do something, and my father is quick-tempered. He always scolds everyone when he threatens my mother, but my mother doesn't worry about it and can't control us. I don't listen to my mother sometimes. My father loves to worry and is lazy. My brother is also like this. He is too lazy to pay. So far, he has not found a daughter-in-law (a 46-year-old man has not found a daughter-in-law). My father, my mother and my brother are all such people. I have gone to college, and I am very worried that I can't make it at home. My father is in poor health, and he is often involved. He doesn't know how to recuperate. My mother follows my father to do farm work. My brother doesn't worry, he just goes to work. He is too lazy to do farm work at home, but he just doesn't do it. My parents don't want to move.
I'm worried that such a family can't survive. After I graduate from college, I also fantasize about finding a suitable job, but the family is too messy, my father has a bad temper, my mother doesn't care about anything, and my brother is lazy. I really can't worry about them.
Of course, I think it's too difficult to find a job after graduating from college (in 29). It's not easy to break out of my own world. I have to take care of my family. It's already hard for me, and I'm worried that my parents will complain that I don't care about them. A man who doesn't take care of his family and thinks about his career first is not a good man.
it's also difficult to patronize the family. Who will take care of the family affairs in the future? I also know that it is not easy to find a job, and it is already difficult to get married. My brother can't cook, and my mother is almost eighty. Cook for him. What do you suggest I do?
such a family, that's all. I work hard at school. My classmates and I often go to the school classroom for self-study at three or four o'clock. I worked very hard before I was admitted to the university, but when I was at school, I didn't work too hard. I went to Jingzhou Petroleum Institute to study, and I was a normal major. I don't like this major myself. Alas, I didn't find a suitable job after graduation, and I was too lazy to find a job. I have been working in a private enterprise for six or seven years. I didn't make any money and was used by others.
later, the company merged departments and transferred me to the countryside. I was unwilling and had no choice.
Later, I was fine in the company, but my father suffered from renal failure and uremia. I took care of him in the hospital for four or five months and will take care of him in the future. I am also very helpless. I don't want to waste my youth and intelligence in the past. Otherwise, there will be no chance to turn over in my life. My mother is old, my father can't stand the toss, and my mother will grow old.
I can only take care of them at home. Dialysis three times a week, I can only take care of it at home. My brother can't help me. Two years ago, xiong'an new area was established in our hometown, and now it is Rongdong area, which needs to be demolished. Waiting for the good news, I'm going to change my fate, and I won't take it anymore. Just waiting for an opportunity
I believe that when many people see this topic, their first reaction is "personality determines fate". Have you ever thought about what determines our character?
○ family of origin decides a person's character
Let me tell a story about my cousin: I have a cousin, who is 1 years younger than me. His family's living conditions are relatively difficult, and his parents are also busy with work, and they don't care enough about him. Therefore, he has a little inferiority complex since he was a child, and he is very cautious in dealing with people and things. When he was a child, once our relatives had a dinner party, my aunt kept asking him to eat less, but my cousin didn't listen, or wolfed it into his mouth. My aunt directly hit his hand with chopsticks, and my cousin still cried and ate when he was beaten. My aunt was so angry that she directly pulled him off the table, beating and talking about him, and at the end, the two of them cried together. I was overwhelmed on the spot. How can a mother not give her children food? Later, I heard from my mother that my cousin can't eat meat several times at home all the year round. Every time he goes out, he often eats until his stomach hurts. My aunt loves him dearly, but there is nothing she can do. Now, although he can't eat enough, he really doesn't look good. Chopsticks are rummaged around in the dish plate just to pick up his favorite dishes, regardless of other people's feelings. Sometimes he throws them away when he says a few words.