In the TV series "Parents' Love", the main line is the love of "parents", that is, the 50-year love between naval officer Jiang Defu and capitalist girl An Jie. But for the sake of foil, Lao Ding's love and marriage life is also described in heavier terms.
Lao Ding’s first wife left behind four “like children” and died of massive hemorrhage when giving birth to them. He was transferred at work and brought four items from the Qingdao Artillery School to the island.
Lao Ding is an educated naval officer who wants to find an educated partner who shares the same language. It is not ruled out that he has a mentality of comparing with his old comrades and classmate Jiang Defu. This has nothing to do with the overall situation and is beyond reproach.
Lao Ding first fell in love with Ge Meixia, a female school teacher on this small island. Just when they were quietly having a heated fight, and when it was time to talk about marriage and make ready meals, a basin of cold water poured on them made them dizzy and dejected. The organization (actually political commissar Wang) firmly refused to approve their marriage because Teacher Ge was the daughter of Yu Ba.
Older people know that in the era when Lao Ding was in love, special emphasis was placed on "class status", and the reactionary "blood theory" was also very popular. Especially for military cadres, who they choose to find a partner must undergo strict scrutiny by the organization. If someone comes from a good family background, anyone can do it and will be approved; if someone comes from a bad family background, no one can do it and will not be approved.
So how can Jiang Defu marry the capitalist’s daughter An Jie? Because Jiang Defu was willing to risk his life to take off his military uniform and return to the countryside. What's more, they met a good principal of the artillery school and his wife, Secretary Yang of the hospital, who understood the policy, was not extreme left, and was reasonable. Lao Ding was different: he was old at the top and young at the bottom. He couldn't support his family without his military uniform. The political commissar Wang of the "organization" he met was a very "left-wing" person with very stubborn ideas. Unfortunately, the lovers Lao Ding and Teacher Ge did not get married in the end.
Lao Ding had no choice but to fall in love with a nurse from the Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital. Unexpectedly, he turned out to be a "tiger" with no facial features and several bloody marks on his face. He was unable to see Jiangdong's father. In the end, Lao Ding formed a happy family with Dehua, who was uneducated but always had him in his heart.
Later, political commissar Wang, who had retired and had not allowed Old Ding to marry Teacher Ge, the daughter of Yuba, took the initiative to propose marriage to Teacher Ge, the daughter of Yuba.
What can people say about this? All I can say is: This is a wonderful satire and a powerful criticism of the reactionary "bloodline theory".
The subjective factor of not wanting to marry is greater than the objective factor of not daring to marry.
Not daring to marry is objective. It is said in the play that "Old Ding's superiors do not agree." In that era, family composition was the primary factor considered in marriage relationships, and the most important thing was to be well-matched. Lao Ding is not Lao Jiang. If he can't do it, he doesn't want military membership or party membership, but he also wants Anjie. Old Ding has the burdens and responsibilities of Old Ding. He has an eighty-year-old mother to support and four sons who are like wolves and tigers. He is not the "single man" Jiang Defu was back then. We understand Lao Ding's difficulties and feel guilty for Teacher Ge. Fortunately, Political Commissar Wang appeared and gave Teacher Ge the life he dreamed of in his later years.
Not wanting to marry is subjective. Comparing Jiang Defu and An Jie, Lao Jiang liked An Jie more than he loved him. From the first time he saw An Jie, he decided that he would not marry her unless she was her. He practiced calligraphy, looked for medicine, and even went home to farm for her. On the other hand, Lao Ding's affection for Teacher Ge is not love, but good impression, interest, difference with Xiu'e, and slight similarity with Anjie. It has been the preliminary standard for choosing a mate for many years. But it's not love, it has no emotional basis, it's just a momentary impulse from the heart. Therefore, when encountering difficulties, what comes to mind is whether to persevere or not, whether to escape and look back.
So, it’s not so much that I don’t dare, but it’s more that I don’t want to. For Dehua, I support Lao Ding!
In "Parental Love", Lao Ding's character is compared with Jiang Defu in terms of marrying a wife.
Jiang Defu married An Jie regardless of everything.
Old Ding thought about it and did not dare to marry Teacher Ge.
First of all, the timing of marrying a wife is different.
When Jiang Defu married An Jie, he was barefoot and not afraid of wearing shoes. The worst he could do was go home and farm. The one who is risking his life is himself. His retreat was to lose everything and return to his hometown to become a farmer.
Old Ding is on the island. He already has parents and four eldest sons. The burden is too great. And he has already received a warning from his leader Wang Zhenbiao. Therefore, not only is he faced with the difficult situation of having nothing, but he is also more likely to be unable to support his family and his son.
Secondly, in terms of character and love.
Jiang Defu is still very courageous and daring to act, while Lao Ding is a little hesitant. However, the root cause is that Jiang Defu really loves Anjie. To be honest, Lao Ding, he really doesn’t love Teacher Ge that much. Look at Lao Ding, one moment he is hooking up with a dentist, the next moment he is flirting with Teacher Ge. It really shows that he doesn’t want to marry Mr. Ge.
Therefore, he does not really have to marry Teacher Ge. And Jiang Defu must marry An Jie.
So, in the end, Lao Ding, after much thought, married Dehua and lived a "hot" little life.
Old Ding’s first wife and second wife are both kind-hearted, straight-talking, good wives who love their husbands. Old Ding is still very lucky
There are factors that hinder others. , but mainly for the sake of future, I dare not marry Mr. Ge who is too high-ranking. Later, Wang Zhenbiao took advantage.
Wang Zhenbiao is the political commissar of Songshan Island. Because he prevented Lao Ding and Ge Meixia from getting married, Jiang Defu, Jiang Dehua, An Jie and others had great opinions on him. Later, shortly after the death of his original wife Zhang Guiying, he was going to marry Ge Meixia, and asked An Jie to be the matchmaker. In fact, the two of them had already built a plank road openly and secretly crossed Chencang.
First of all, it’s because of Anjie. Anjie really caused a big sensation when he went to Songshan Island. He changed the image of an officer’s wife as a rural woman with muddy feet. The focus of the island. Wang Zhenbiao, like Lao Ding, was extremely envious of Jiang Defu for marrying such an educated, beautiful and well-educated wife, but looking back at his own wife, she was really miserable!
Once Wang Zhenbiao and Jiang Defu were walking on the road, first they met An Jie, who was carrying water beautifully, and then An Jie, who came back from the sea with bare feet, wrapped in a scarf, carrying a basket, laughing and shouting Zhang Guiying. Comparing the two, Wang Zhenbiao sighed inwardly, why other people's wives looked so good at picking out water, and snorted coldly at his own wife. It can be seen that Wang Zhenbiao is very eager to have an intellectual and beautiful wife.
Ge Meixia is the only woman with a temperament similar to Anjie on Songshan Island. Once, Wang Haiyang said during dinner that Ge Meixia was an old girl and she might marry some ugly guy in the future. At that time, Wang Zhenbiao got angry and slapped his son on the head. It can be seen that at that time, Wang Zhenbiao protected Ge Meixia from the bottom of his heart.
So when Lao Ding applied for marriage with Ge Meixia, he blocked it ruthlessly. Therefore, although Wang Zhenbiao had been away from the island for many years, he wanted to marry Ge Meixia who was still on Songshan Island after Zhang Guiying's death.
Lao Ding and Teacher Ge are not destined to be different.
First of all, there is the background of the era in which Lao Ding and Teacher Ge lived. Lao Ding was sent to the island because of the revolution in school. Just because of Jiang Defu's care, no one on the island made things difficult for Old Ding. But despite everything going smoothly with Jiang Defu, it is clear that Lao Ding's life is very difficult. Lack of food and clothing, Dehua also needed to bring supplies and bedding from home for relief. Not to mention Teacher Ge, she is the daughter of Yuba and is a target of attack. At first, I could still teach in school, but later I no longer had the qualification to teach.
The second is the specific living conditions at that time. It cannot be said that Lao Ding is not as courageous as Jiang Defu. After all, he has four sons. He should not only consider his own love, but also consider his sons' lives. At that time, Political Commissar Wang did not approve his marriage to Teacher Ding. If he insisted on having his own way, it is hard to imagine what kind of life their family would live.
It can only be due to fate.
Lao Ding and Teacher Ge have the same problem, the same misfortune to others, the same inability to control themselves, and the same helplessness towards reality.
Lao Ding has always wanted to find a wife who speaks the same language as him. Especially after seeing his good friend Jiang Defu marry An Jie, a wife with good culture and good looks, Lao Ding decided to marry him. Ding couldn't wait to renew his string.
Teacher Ge can be said to be the most suitable partner for Lao Ding. Why didn't the two of them get together? There are three reasons.
First, the problem of Teacher Ge’s family “composition”
Teacher Ge is kind-hearted and has ink in her belly. Such a woman can easily get the pity of men, but she Why did she become an older leftover girl?
Just because she is the daughter of a fisherman, in that era, with her family background, most men would not dare to marry her, let alone Lao Ding, who is the deputy chief of staff?
Teacher Ge was burdened by her family and had a difficult life on the island. Later, her life got back on track, but she was already a little old by then.
She herself is also a proud and arrogant person. After becoming friends with Anjie, she envied Anjie’s petty bourgeoisie life from the bottom of her heart, so she also has a higher vision when choosing a partner, which leads to the failure of high-end and low-end. .
Lao Ding is a good candidate. If Teacher Ge marries him, he will definitely be able to live a bourgeois life like Anjie, so Teacher Ge is willing. It was just her family background that kept Lao Ding away.
Secondly, Lao Ding’s career will be affected
If Lao Ding is still single and does not have a family to support his family, he may risk his career being affected and resolutely get the job. Walking with Teacher Ge.
In addition to family issues, Teacher Ge is Lao Ding’s ideal marriage partner. Lao Ding has been looking for such a confidante all his life, but after finding it, he let go. Why?
Because of family. Teacher Ge was burdened by her family background and became an older leftover girl. Lao Ding had four sons, and they all relied on him and his parents in his hometown, so after careful consideration, Lao Ding gave up on Teacher Ge.
If Lao Ding and Teacher Ge get together, he may lose his official position. The whole family depends on him to support him, so he cannot sacrifice his family for a woman. The price of marrying Teacher Ge was too high for Lao Ding to bear, so he gave up his love.
Third, the infatuated Dehua
Dehua has always been in love with Lao Ding, but Luo Hua is ruthless. Lao Ding has always disliked Dehua for being uneducated, so Dehua has always been with him. Unrequited love.
Anjie Jiang Defu has always known Dehua's thoughts, and they also want to help, but they can't do it.
Although Lao Ding doesn’t want to marry Dehua, he can’t live without Dehua. His children also said that they want Dehua to be their mother, which fully shows that Dehua has a foothold in the Ding family. Land, location is of great importance.
Dehua's kindness to Lao Ding was like the gentle spring rain that moistened things silently. Over time, it left a mark on Lao Ding's heart bit by bit. At first, he didn't care, but later Ding still noticed Dehua's kindness.
In the end, Lao Ding gave up his insistence and married Dehua back home, and everyone got a happy ending.
Because the person Lao Ding really has a crush on is An Jie. In the past, because of Wang Xiu'e, he only thought about it in his mind. Later, Wang Xiu'e passed away, and Lao Ding included in his plan to find a partner according to An Jie's standards, so he fell in love at first sight with An Jie's good friend Teacher Ge. However, Teacher Ge was bound to do it. She is just a beautiful woman who grew up in a fishing village. In that special environment, she behaves submissively and has a strong sense of inferiority. Her temperament and knowledge are not as good as those of Teacher An. Although she is a person who has read books, she has been a senior person. Lao Ding, who teaches at the artillery school, and Teacher Ge, who teaches elementary school, are not very educated people...
Despite this, if there was no objection from Political Commissar Wang, Lao Ding, who is already the father of four sons, would still marry him. The reason why he gave up on Teacher Ge, who was married, was partly because of the pressure from Political Commissar Wang, and partly because he had never loved Teacher Ge the way Jiang Defu loved Anjie (including later Doctor Assistant Wu). So I chose to give up after a little external pressure.
The reason why Lao Ding chose the uneducated Dehua was probably a decision he made after careful consideration. In one sentence: since he can’t find someone he loves, let’s find someone who loves him! Another reason is that Dehua is Commander Jiang's biological sister, so getting married to the Jiang family will be beneficial to himself and his sons.
Old Ding is afraid that it will affect his future because Teacher Ge is the daughter of Yuba.
Unlike Jiang Defu, who also encountered political censorship when getting married, he could either get married and go home to farm, or stay in the army without getting married and get promoted. Jiang Defu chose to get married and go home to farm because he had no education at the time. There is no younger brother under the old man. It is said that those who are barefoot are not afraid of those who wear shoes. Of course, he is very lucky and has not been expelled from the military. And old Ding has an older brother, a younger brother, and four children. If he is expelled for getting married, then his parents Old Ding did not dare to gamble on who would bear the child's burden, and he could not gamble. If he dared to gamble, it would also prove that Old Ding was too selfish. He ignored his parents and children for the sake of his own marriage. Therefore, Old Ding weighed the pros and cons and made the decision not to follow. Teacher Ge’s decision to get married
I think the reason why Lao Ding did not dare to marry Teacher Ge, the daughter of an educated fisherman, was because Lao Ding had a “record” of wrong lifestyle. Lao Ding was transferred from the Qingdao Artillery School to the Island Garrison Division. He was not promoted. He was still a lieutenant colonel and regimental cadre. Something must have happened and he was "assigned" there. At that time, if an officer made a mistake in the army, as long as it was a political or economic issue, he would, with almost no exception, take off his uniform and transfer to a local job. It's just a matter of lifestyle. As long as it doesn't cause a big impact, it's usually someone who has been transferred from another place and won't change jobs. This may be the case for Lao Ding. Moreover, when he was at the artillery school, Lao Ding's first wife, Xiu'e's sister-in-law, repeatedly dismissed her husband as a playboy. This was a hint to the audience that Lao Ding was likely to struggle with his life style. Because of this, he backed down on the issue of marrying Teacher Ge and gave up his dream of finding an educated wife as a wife to avoid further setbacks on personal issues.