To get married, you should first find a matchmaker to make peace. All courtiers are men who go to women's houses to ask for help, and no woman asks for men. When you entertain the matchmaker, you must prepare wine and food as gifts for the guests. As the saying goes, "If you can't get married, send 120 bottles of wine." After the two sides agree, the man will accompany him to the woman's house for a "blind date". After the woman agrees, parents or brothers, as well as matchmakers or relatives, will accompany the girl to the man's house to "see others." After the blind date, the man chooses a lucky day and the trustee brings a gift to ask the woman for eight characters (date of birth). After the "Niangeng Post" is withdrawn, please ask the blind fortune teller to "match the eight characters". The eight characters can't collide with each other, such as "Long Hudou", "Two Dragons Divide the Pool" and "Chicken and Rabbit Divide the Cage", which are not suitable for marriage. The man also needs to send eight characters to the woman. When the eight characters coincide, both parents agree to get married, that is, the date is selected by the man's family, and the date of engagement is written on the dragon and phoenix red post, and the matchmaker is invited to send it to the woman's family together with the dowry, which is called "engagement". The woman gave Zhuang Yuan a flower hat, candy and cakes, as well as some embroidery bags and two kinds of evergreen plants, commonly known as "giving back love". After the engagement, men and women are regarded as husband and wife, and others are not allowed to visit relatives and friends. It takes at least six months to three years from engagement to marriage. The wedding ceremony is called "Day", which is determined by the fortune teller according to the horoscope. If the wedding date is unfavorable to the daughter-in-law, you can retire and choose another day. One or two days before marriage, the man sends someone to the woman's house to get a dowry, which is called "dowry". Dowry is similar everywhere, and there are generally necessities such as acacia quilt, pillow cabinet, box, drawer table, square stool, foot bucket, child bucket and dressing table. In recent years, dowry has been combined with the old and the new. In the evening, the man gave a banquet for the "greenhouse". On the wedding day, the man sent a sedan chair to greet the bride. Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, both mother and daughter cry, indicating that they are inseparable, which is called "crying marriage". In Jiangshan, the bride's sedan chair is on the road, and my brother hangs his hands on the sedan chair bar and carries it for a while. Commonly known as "hanging the sedan chair bar", it also means that he doesn't want to leave. There are "crying words" in civilized areas, such as "I hope you can see that person, a rising tide lifts all boats, and step by step on the stairs;" Holding lotus flowers makes Tiffany's wife and in-laws happy; Steve went to bed with children and grandchildren all over the room; When Steve walked to the table, copper coins were stuffed everywhere ... Four seasons get rich, and ingots roll in! "When the sedan chair arrives at the groom's house, the bride, supported by Shiva Lishi, steps on the red carpet or sack laid on the ground in turn, which is called" Dai ". Then they get married at the wedding, host a banquet in the evening, and make trouble in the new house after the banquet. Three days after the wedding, the bride and groom go back to their parents' home to visit their in-laws, which is called "going back to their parents' home" and return the same day.
1950 after the promulgation of the marriage law, it advocates marriage autonomy, freedom of love and civilized marriage. The red tape of the old customs has gradually diminished.