Liang Qichao was born in poverty, and his ancestors had no prominent family background and profound cultural background. How did he educate such an excellent child?
In this letter from Liang Qichao, we can get a glimpse of the key to his successful parenting.
Confucius has a saying: there is no class in teaching, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.
The real educator is to conform to the nature of children and let them do what they like.
As the father of nine children, Liang Qichao practiced a truth in each child's academic choice, that is, to respect children's preferences.
When his second daughter Liang Sizhuang went abroad to study, he sent a letter and wrote:
But the second daughter's ambition is not here, and it is very difficult to learn. She poured out her inner confusion with her eldest brother Liang Sicheng in every way. Liang Qichao regretted it and immediately wrote:
Liang Qichao's words completely dispelled his daughter's worries about Sizhuang. She chose her favorite unpopular professional library science, found the right direction, and finally became one of the best library scientists in China.
Interest is the best teacher, and Liang Qichao, who is well aware of this, adopted this concept for every child.
Thanks to Liang Qichao's teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, Liang's nine children have become elites from all walks of life and shine brilliantly.
The eldest daughter Liang, an expert in poetry research, is the author of Selected Poems of Yihengguan.
Liang Sicheng, the eldest son, is the founder of China architecture, who led and participated in the design of the national emblem and the monument to the people's heroes.
Liang Siyong, the second son, is one of the pioneers of modern archaeology in China.
The third son, Liang Sizhong, graduated from West Point Military Academy, a famous American military academy, and participated in the Battle of Songhu.
The second daughter, Liang Sizhuang, is a top expert in the field of library science in China.
The fourth son, Liang Sida, an economist, wrote Modern Economic History of China.
The third daughter, Liang Siyi, is a famous social activist and has been engaged in friendly liaison with foreign countries for a long time.
Liang Sining, the fourth daughter, joined the New Fourth Army under the influence of her elder sister Liang Siyi and engaged in propaganda work.
The fifth sub-beam, a famous rocket control expert, has made outstanding contributions to China's space industry.
There are also three national academicians, namely Liang Sicheng, Liang Siyong and Liang, among whom Liang Sicheng and Liang Siyong are the first national academicians in China.
Such excellence is inseparable from the children's own efforts, but what is more indispensable is Liang Qichao's interest education.
He didn't follow the crowd and let his children learn popular majors. It is to follow the nature of children and learn what they like, so that they can get such proud results.
Zeng Guofan once said: prosperity is not lazy, adversity is not timid, and everything can be achieved by controlling the situation with your heart.
A tough and optimistic attitude is the greatest wealth in a person's life.
Liang Qichao gave this wealth to his children.
In those turbulent decades, Liang Jia could not live without this mentality.
Liang Sicheng and Liang Sizhong were hospitalized in a car accident, and their original study abroad plan had to be postponed for one year. Their two sons are very depressed.
As a father, Liang Qichao wrote in his letter:
In difficult times, he inspired the children like this:
Liang Qichao's teachings have become the spiritual nourishment of Liang Sicheng and others all their lives.
When War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression broke out, Liang Sicheng and his wife fled south and had to live in the thatched cottage in Lizhuang.
This family lives in poverty and often eats every meal.
But even in such difficult days, Liang Sicheng remained optimistic.
In order to survive, I had to pawn my pens and watches one by one in exchange for food rations. Liang Sicheng also joked:
Braise this watch.
Let's stew this dress.
In that war-torn era, Liang Sicheng's family persisted in the victory of the Anti-Japanese War with this indomitable mentality.
Liang's family experienced the most unstable years in China, but no matter how many hardships they experienced, they never gave up.
This open-minded spirit comes from Liang Qichao's words and deeds.
As a father, Liang Qichao knows that people will encounter numerous setbacks and hardships in their lives, but as long as they have a strong heart and an optimistic attitude, there will be no difficulties in life.
Liang Qichao was a lecturer in several universities at that time, and he often needed to give lectures in various places, as well as write books and many other jobs.
But even though he was so busy, he never neglected family and parenting education, but gave his children deep love.
Write to my daughter Si Shun:
You can't imagine that the revolutionary pioneers who shouted for old China in history were like this in front of their daughters.
In many letters to children, you can see that the old father is infinitely kind to his children, without any paternalism, but with inexhaustible gentleness.
He called his children "Dazhuang", "Xiaozhuang", "Old Baby", "Dada" and "Loyalty". From these nicknames, we can feel the father's love for his children.
Liang Qichao's warm and sincere fatherly love has become the foundation of his children's life happiness.
Zhou Zeng said: Making friends with children is the highest realm of parents. The best parent-child relationship is to be like friends.
I have never imposed restrictions on you because I am your parents. I just want to be your friend on the road of life and go forward with you.
Liang Qichao not only gave the children sincere love, but also gave them great autonomy.
He never interfered with his children's employment and marriage in the name of his father. All he did was give advice from a friend's point of view.
My daughter, Si Zhuang, is under great pressure because of her poor English performance abroad. Liang Qichao immediately comforted her after learning:
I don't care about grades, I just want my children to learn. Even in modern society, many parents can't compare with this enlightened attitude.
Not only that, he also said:
Children are most concerned about their parents' attitudes, and timely encouragement will enhance their self-confidence.
Despite a bad start, under the guidance of Liang Qichao, Liang Sizhuang finally achieved something and became a famous librarian in China.
Liang Qichao is not only a good teacher for children, but also a good friend for children.
He pursues interesting education and is afraid that his children will fall into a state of death, so he often writes to his children to persuade them to dabble in something outside the discipline and feel the joy of life.
This pure parenting attitude has benefited Liang Qichao's children a lot. Liang Sicheng is quite accomplished in painting, violin and football.
The pictures he draws are often amazing, as neat as machines.
It can be said that without Liang Qichao's education, we could not have witnessed the birth of such an excellent family.
But it is Liang Qichao's education that gives future generations a chance to know what real education is.
It is not the supremacy of scores, obedience or unconditional love, but I respect you as an independent individual and would like you to measure the width of the world.
Not only can you enjoy the joy of being born, but you can also face all kinds of life calmly.
Only in this way can we live up to our parents' feelings in this life.