After the two families agreed, they wrote their names, place of origin, three generations, titles, official positions on the stickers, and exchanged them with each other. After the visit is confirmed, the man's family will choose a day to send a nian geng sticker, also called a horoscope sticker, to the girl's family, and ask for the nian geng sticker from the girl's family. Then the Nian Geng is placed in front of the ancestor's shrine for divination or the birth date is reported to a fortune teller. If there is no conflict or conflict, the report is then reported to the woman, who also has to go through divination. This is called intermarriage.
When both parties agree on the marriage, they become engaged, commonly known as engagement. Betrothal gifts are required for engagement, and betrothal gifts are also called Dingli. There are customs in different places. In ancient times, betrothal gifts used leather and silk items, but in the Han Dynasty, betrothal money began to be used. The descendants will have all their property, depending on their family circumstances. A man and a woman who are engaged are regarded as husband and wife, and no one else can come to ask for marriage again.
From the engagement to the wedding, both parties should give each other gifts during the holidays. The wedding date is determined by a fortune teller based on the zodiac sign.
One or two days before the wedding, the man will give the woman a gift for a banquet, and the woman will definitely reciprocate the gift. At this time, relatives and friends of both parties will send congratulatory gifts, most of which are money, wine and food to congratulate the man. Happy curtain, happy axis. Gifts to the woman are mainly items, mostly clothing, utensils and cosmetics, which are called dowry gifts.
The dowry is given out the day before the wedding, commonly known as the dowry. On this day, the girl's family places the dowry in the courtyard for people to visit, which is called dowry display. The dowry depends on financial resources. Acacia quilts, pillows, boxes, cabinets, tables, buckets, basins and dressing tables are essential items. In the old days, in order to show off their generosity, rich families would have all their daily necessities, and some would even marry off all the necessary means of life and production, which was called the whole house dowry, including the mountains, forests and fields, until the coffin after death and the poverty-stricken people. The basket and dog-beating stick used to escape famine and beg for food are also included in the dowry. The toilet is indispensable in the dowry, commonly known as the descendant bucket. The bucket is filled with red eggs and happy fruits, which means giving birth to children. To send makeup, things are counted in several carries. The rich and poor vary, and the rich can carry more than a hundred carries.
In the old days, wedding sedans were carried by eight people and four people. When the sedan chair arrives at the door of the woman's home, in Nanyang, Henan and other places, the woman closes the door, and the man fires guns and firecrackers and plays music to announce it. There is a folk song that goes: "Blow three times, play three times, blow and blow to open the door of the in-laws' house." Before a girl gets on the sedan, she must use velvet to twist off the hair on her face, open her face, take a bath, and dress up, which is commonly known as dressing up before getting on the sedan. At noon, the woman's side held a farewell banquet to entertain the guests and the man's bride.
Before getting into the sedan chair, the bride must bid farewell to her ancestors and kneel down to worship her parents. Generally, the bride's brothers carry or carry the bride into the sedan chair. When setting off on a journey, there is a custom of weeping when getting married. The girl's parents, brothers, sisters-in-law, and sisters should cry to each other and say some auspicious words of blessing while crying. It is believed that the harder the weeping, the more likely the daughter will have children and grandchildren. After the bride hears her mother's cry, she can cry in response to express her farewell.
When arriving at the groom's house, like in northern my country, the bride has to step over a saddle and then take a bite of an apple to bring peace.
When worshiping in the church, one must kneel three times and kowtow nine times, first worshiping heaven and earth, ancestors, then parents, and then husband and wife worshiping each other, commonly known as worshiping heaven and earth. After paying homage, the bride is sent into the bridal chamber, but her feet are not allowed to touch the ground. The floor must be paved with sacks, mats, futons, etc., and they are spread as they go, and they are passed on from front to back, which is called passing the bag, that is, passing on from generation to generation.