First, what should I prepare for the proposal?
1, gift
Before proposing marriage, the man should take the initiative to ask the woman about the bride price, such as the amount, whether to accept the bride price, etc. Engagement fees are divided into large and small. Generally, the small ones are collected and the large ones are returned. According to local customs, in some areas, there is no gift for proposing marriage.
2. Put forward six kinds of gifts
Two cigarettes, two bottles of famous wine and two boxes of high-grade supplements. If the woman lives with other elders, she needs to buy some drinks, food and fruit for the elderly to show her respect. If the woman has children at home, she needs to bring a children's toy, a small schoolbag and books.
3. Eight kinds of gifts to propose to relatives
Traditionally, marriage proposal should bring eight gifts: cigarettes, wine, tea, sugar, cakes, noodles, fish and meat. These gifts must be of good quality, high grade and even quantity.
(1) tobacco, liquor and tea: choose high-grade ones.
(2) Cake: Choose a cake with good meaning.
(3) Candy: four-color sugar, rock sugar, orange cake and winter melon sugar.
(4) Noodles: selected noodles (including dried noodles).
(5) Fish: Choose carp.
(6) Meat: choose pig hind legs.
4. Holiday gifts
If the marriage proposal is on a holiday, you need to bring holiday gifts, such as moon cakes on the Mid-Autumn Festival and zongzi on the Dragon Boat Festival.
5. Special products prepared by yourself
If the two sides are in different places, they should prepare some special products of their own home, which can make the woman's parents feel that the man's home is very attentive and sincere.
6, incense sticks, firecrackers
You need to prepare a pair of dragon, phoenix and red candles, a piece of incense to pay homage to your ancestors, and some firecrackers for the wedding day, all of which must be even, so as to be lucky.
Second, the specific process of proposing marriage
1. Preparation before marriage proposal
Before proposing marriage, the woman's family should set a date to show respect. When proposing marriage, the man should say to the woman's parents, "My parents have a dream to visit at home. I don't know when you are free. "
Step 2 Choose a date to propose marriage
Most people don't care much about the date of marriage proposal, as long as it is a sunny weekend. If they care more, it's not in the first month and July of the lunar calendar. It will be more pleasing to propose marriage on days with even lunar or even solar calendars.
3. What do you need to discuss when proposing?
(1) Marriage: Make sure that both parents agree to this marriage.
(2) Wedding date: After the proposal, the bride's parents are willing to give the bride's birthday to the man to choose the date.
(3) Bride price and dowry: The amount and proportion of bride price and dowry, as well as the purchase budget of Sanjin hardware, should also be discussed together when proposing marriage.
4. The specific process of a man proposing marriage
(1) Prepare gifts in advance; Pay attention to the preferences of future in-laws, bring gifts that meet the tastes of the woman's parents, especially not taboo.
(2) The time for proposing marriage is usually in the morning, when the groom-to-be and the parents at home will arrive at the woman's house.
(3) Both parents meet, explain their purpose and send a betrothal gift.
(4) After the discussion at home, you can eat in the reserved restaurant or have lunch at the woman's home.
(5) Conversation during dinner can enhance mutual understanding and bring us closer together.
(6) After dinner, the man's family left.
Third, matters needing attention in marriage proposal
1, pay attention to clothing appearance
Clothing must be decent and tidy.
2, many people don't blame.
When you propose to a woman's house, you must bring a gift. This is a courtesy and a respect for the elders.
Step 3 smile.
Never frown, show sincerity and smile, which will add a lot of points.
4. Show enough respect.
In the face of the reasonable demands made by the woman, show respect as much as possible and deal with them according to their regulations.
5. Be punctual for appointments.
Don't be late. In case of traffic jam or other force majeure, you must call us to inform us that you will arrive later.
6. The woman should prepare a gift in return.
Finally, it is polite for the woman to prepare gifts in return, such as special products and fruits, for the man to take away when he leaves.