It doesn’t matter if you don’t watch it, it really makes me want to cry. Nine times out of ten, life is not what you want it to be. This has always been the case! ! ! Tang Wan Tang Wan, named Huixian, his birth and death dates are unknown. Lu You's cousin, the daughter of Lu You's maternal uncle Tang Cheng, was quiet, smart and talented since she was a child. The Lu family once used an extremely exquisite family phoenix hairpin as a token to get engaged to the Tang family. Lu You married Tang Wan at the age of twenty (fourteenth in Shaoxing). Unexpectedly, Tang Wan's talent and close relationship with Lu You aroused dissatisfaction with Lu's mother (it is virtue for a woman to be untalented). Later, Lu's mother believed that Tang Wan had delayed her son's future, so she ordered Lu You to divorce Tang Wan. Lu You once built another courtyard to house Tang Wan. After his mother found out, she ordered Lu You to marry another docile and dutiful daughter of the Wang family. Tang Wan then married Zhao Shicheng, a scholar from the same county and a descendant of the royal family, at the discretion of her family. In 1155 AD (the 20th year of Shaoxing), after Lu You failed in the examination of the Ministry of Rites, he went to Shen Garden to play and met Tang Wan by chance. Both of them were very sad. Lu You sentimentally wrote a poem on the wall called "The Hairpin Head Phoenix" (Hongsu Hands). In 1156, Tang Wan came to Shen Garden again and saw Lu You's inscription. She couldn't help but be filled with emotion, so she wrote a poem about "The Hairpin-headed Phoenix" (The world is weak). Soon afterwards he died of depression. Tang Wan and Lu You Tang Wan is Lu You's cousin and first wife. Lu You and Tang Wan are cousins. The sister-in-law of Lu You's mother is Tang Wan's mother. When Lu You's mother was not yet married, she had a bad relationship with her sister-in-law at her parents' home. Therefore, he naturally dislikes the daughter born to his sister-in-law. However, the custom at that time was to get closer to each other, so Tang Wan still passed the marriage. Tang Wan was very beautiful, and she was a talented woman who was somewhat famous at the time. She has a very good relationship with Lu You, but her behavior in the family may be relatively liberal, which often makes her mother-in-law feel disrespected. Although Lu You's mother often complained and scolded her, she was still tolerant. But there was one thing she couldn't tolerate: Logan had not had children for several years after marriage. She didn't want her son to die because of this woman. At that time, childbirth was a family matter. Lu You's mother proposed to divorce Tang Wan for this reason. No matter who was in the Lu family or the Tang family, they felt that they could not come up with many strong reasons to object. In the end, the two were forced to divorce. After the divorce, Lu You first married his wife, whose surname was Wang, and gave birth to a child soon after the marriage. The Tang family was aggrieved and felt that if they didn't marry off their daughter, they would lose face. So he married his daughter to another scholar who was also quite famous at the time. This scholar was very kind to Logan. He is a family friend of the Tang family and knows all about Lu You's literary friends. He admires Lu You and sympathizes with Tang Wan and wants to do his best to make her happy. One day, Lu You went to visit Shen Garden and happened to meet Tang Wan and his wife in the garden. It was awkward for both parties. Tang Wan's step-husband knew that their relationship was not over, so he took the initiative to arrange an opportunity for them to talk alone. Said: "Your cousin is here, you are relatives, why don't you go and get together?" So Tang Wan came over to Lu You with a maid and a jug of wine. Both parties talked about their separation, knowing that their fate in this life was over and there would be no chance of getting back together. Unspeakably sad. Tang Wan personally toasted a glass of wine to Lu You. After drinking, Lu You inscribed the song "The Hairpin-headed Phoenix" in Shen Garden. After writing, I put down my pen and left: The city is full of spring scenery with red hands and yellow wine. The east wind is full of willows, the joys are thin, and I am filled with melancholy. A few years have passed, and the strings have gone wrong. Spring is like an old man, empty and skinny. Tears are red and the crocodile silk is shining through. The peach blossoms are falling in the idle pond. Although Geshan League was in Jinshu, Momomo was in the garden for a while, Tang Wan was filled with grief. After returning home, I repeatedly pondered Lu You's lyrics and made up a poem with the same tune: The world is unkind, the human kindness is cruel, the rain brings dusk, flowers fall easily, the wind dries, the tears remain, and the paper is full of desire. The soul of a disease is often like the sound of the horn on a swing in the cold night. Afraid of being asked, swallowing tears and pretending to be happy. These two words were written by different people, but they are soaked with the same feelings, resentments and helplessness, because they tell the same story. A sad love story - Tang Wan and Lu You fall in love in the garden. Lu You was a famous patriotic poet in the Southern Song Dynasty. He was born in a well-to-do scholarly family in Shanyang, Yuezhou. When he was a child, the Jin people invaded the south, and he often fled with his family. At this time, his maternal uncle Tang Cheng's family had many contacts with the Lu family. Tang Cheng had a daughter named Tang Wan, also known as Huixian. She was quiet and smart since she was a child, not good at words but considerate. They are very similar to Lu You, who is similar in age. The two are childhood sweethearts and have been together for a long time. Even in the chaos of war, the two young people who are not familiar with the world still spend a pure and beautiful time together. As they grew older, a lingering affection gradually grew in their hearts. In their youth, Lu You and Tang Wan were both good at poetry. They often expressed their feelings through poetry. In front of flowers and under the moon, they recited poems and sang to each other. Their beautiful figures were in pairs, like a pair of colorful butterflies fluttering among the flowers, and their eyebrows were filled with happiness. harmonious. The parents of both families, as well as all the relatives and friends, also believed that they were a match made in heaven, so the Lu family used an exquisite phoenix hairpin from their family as a token to make a marriage agreement with the Tang family. After becoming an adult, Tang Wan became the wife of the Lu family after a night of wedding ceremony. From then on, Lu You and Tang Wan became even more harmonious and deeply in love. They were immersed in the world of the two of them. They didn't know what time it was, and they temporarily put all their imperial examinations, fame and wealth, and even their loved ones out of the sky. At this time, Lu You had already made love to become an official, but this was only the first step in becoming an official. He would then go to Lin'an to participate in the "Lock Hall Examination" and the Ministry of Etiquette Examination. Newly married Lu You lingers in the gentle countryside and has no time to take care of his exam homework.
Lu You's mother, Tang, is a dignified and domineering woman. She wholeheartedly hopes that her son Lu You will be named on the gold medal list and become an official, so that he can shine in the family. Seeing the current situation, she was very dissatisfied. She scolded Tang Wan several times as an aunt and even as a mother-in-law, ordering her to focus on her husband's future in the imperial examination and to neglect the love between her children. However, Lu and Tang were deeply in love and couldn't look back, and the situation never improved significantly. Mother Lu was disgusted with her daughter-in-law because of this, believing that Tang Wan was really the star of the Tang family and would delay her son's future. So she went to Wuliang Nunnery in the suburbs and asked the nun Miaoyu to tell her son and daughter-in-law's fate. After some calculations, Miao Yin said in a serious manner: "Tang Wan and Lu You are not compatible. First he misled them, but eventually his life was in danger." Upon hearing this, Lu's mother was so frightened that she hurried home, called Lu You, and forced him to say: : "Quickly write a divorce letter and give up Tang Wan, otherwise I will die with you." This sentence was undoubtedly a thunderstorm on a sunny day, which shocked Lu You and didn't know what he was doing. When Lu You's mother recounted Tang Wan's misfortune, Lu You felt as sad as a knife. He, who had always been filial, had no choice but to cry secretly when faced with his resolute mother. Forced by his mother's fate, Lu You had no choice but to agree to send Tang Wan back to her parents' home. This situation seems to be unreasonable today, and the relationship between two people cannot be allowed to be interfered with by others. However, in ancient Chinese society that advocated filial piety, the mother's destiny was the imperial edict, and the son of man could not obey it. In this way, a pair of deeply affectionate mandarin ducks are about to be torn apart by unwarranted filial piety, secular power and mysterious destiny. Lu You and Tang Wan were inseparable, and they couldn't bear to leave without a chance to get together, so they quietly built a separate courtyard to accommodate Tang Wan. Lu You went there as soon as he had the opportunity to renew his dream with Tang Wan, and their love was as good as before. Unfortunately, nothing could stop the fire, and the shrewd Mother Lu quickly noticed the incident. He strictly ordered the two to cut off all contact and arranged for Lu You to marry a docile and dutiful daughter of the Wang family, completely severing the long-lasting love between Lu and Tang. In desperation, Lu You had no choice but to put away his grievances. Under the supervision of his mother, he focused on studying for the imperial examinations and studied hard for three years. At the age of twenty-seven, he left his hometown of Shanyin alone and went to Lin'an to participate in the "lockdown". Hall test". In Lin'an, Lu You won the appreciation of the examiner Lu Fu with his solid foundation in Confucian classics and brilliant literary thinking, and was recommended as the leader. The person who won the second place in the same subject examination happened to be Qin Xun, the grandson of Qin Hui, the prime minister of the dynasty. Qin Hui felt deeply ashamed, so during the Ministry of Rites examination in the spring of the next year, he made excuses and excluded Lu You's test paper. Lu You's career encountered ups and downs from the very beginning.
The poem "Nostalgia of Shen Yuan": Part 1: The dream has faded away for forty years, and the old willow trees in Shen Yuan are no longer flying; I am walking in the soil of Jishan, and I still hang up my traces. Second: The setting sun on the city is painted with mournful corners, and the sinking garden has no old pool platform; the spring waves under the sad bridge are green, and it is suspected that it is the shadow of a startled tiger. Shen Garden is the place where Lu You feels nostalgic, and it is also the place where he feels sad. He was thinking about Shen Yuan, but he was afraid of going to Shen Yuan. When spring comes again, the sultry pink willows and willows, the annoying fragrance of birds and flowers, although the dying Lu You can no longer go to Shen Garden to look for traces of the past, but that encounter with Tang Wan, the beautiful woman's sad eyes, timid attitude, and helpless The way he walked and hesitated to speak made Lu You remember it, so he wrote a poem "Dreamwalking in Shen Garden": First: The road near the south of the city makes me afraid of walking, and Shen's home is even more sad; The plum blossoms are on the sleeves of travelers, and the spring water on temple bridges is green. Second: It’s spring again on the small street in the south of the city, only plum blossoms can be seen but no one is there; jade bones have been sinking in the spring for a long time, and the ink marks are like dust on the walls. Since then, Shen Garden has changed owners several times, and all the personnel and scenery have changed from the past. It is now "pink walls, drunk with dust, and deserted", with only "broken clouds and secluded dreams". One spring day when Lu You was eighty-five years old, he suddenly felt physically and mentally refreshed and extremely light.
He originally planned to go up the mountain to collect herbs, but because his physical strength did not allow him to do so, he turned back to Shen Garden. At this time, Shen Garden was reorganized and the scenery was roughly restored to its original appearance. Lu You wrote the last poem affectionately
Shen Garden Garden love poem: The flowers in Shen's home are like brocades, half of which he knew when he was young; he also believes that beauty will eventually become ashes, and cannot bear the hurried dream. Shortly thereafter, Lu You passed away suddenly. Time has passed, the scenery of Shen Garden has changed, and the poems on the pink walls have disappeared. However, these poems that record the love song between Tang Wan and Lu You have been circulated for a long time among people who fell in love in later generations.
It reminds people: Cherish the relationship you have, and don’t say goodbye easily, which will lead to helpless lifelong regret.
When I went to Yuyao, Cixi, Zhejiang Province in November 2007, I passed by Shaoxing. There are rice fields on both sides of the high-speed railway, there are awning boats floating in the river, and in the distance are the characteristic water town buildings! . . . It’s a pity that I couldn’t stay! Shen Garden is worth a visit! It's in Shaoxing.