380,000 is relatively high, and it depends on local customs.
1. There is no one measurement standard for the amount of bride price. Family situation, relationship, income, etc. need to be considered. Nowadays, having a car and a house has become a standard requirement for marriage. In addition, the heavy betrothal gifts also make young people unable to stand upright. A trend of comparing betrothal gifts has arisen across the country, with terms such as "motionless", "violet and red" and "three pounds and three taels" emerging one after another.
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: The tradition of giving betrothal gifts has a long history. Ancient weddings pay attention to six rites, which originated in the early Western Zhou Dynasty. The six rites are the collective name of ancient wedding etiquette. The ancient Weddings generally include six steps, namely accepting, asking for names, accepting, accepting, asking for dates, and welcoming. Every step has strict requirements, and a wedding often lasts for several months.
Nacai is what we often call marriage proposal. It is the first step in ancient weddings. Parents come forward to find a matchmaker as a guide. Both men and women leave each other's names and birth dates. This step is to ask for names. . Then the fortune teller will tell whether the two parties are compatible and whether it is auspicious. This step is called Naji.
If there are no problems, you can proceed to the fourth step of collecting the betrothal gift, which is the current betrothal gift. Primitive tribes make a living by hunting. In intermarriage between tribes, the man will give a deer to the woman’s tribe. On the one hand, the deer is The rare prey in hunting is relatively precious; on the other hand, the deer has strong vitality and strong reproductive ability, which means that the newlywed wife will have many children and good luck. Later, this custom was retained and became the first-generation form of betrothal gift. After that comes the invitation period, where the soothsayer is asked to predict an auspicious day. On that day, the groom will pick up the bride, which is to welcome the bride in person. She will return to the groom's house to worship the bride and enter the bridal chamber. Only in this way can the complete marriage process be completed. The betrothal gifts used for collecting taxes also changed between dynasties and generations, reflecting different cultural customs and social customs.
The prey obtained by hunting in primitive societies was the most precious, so in addition to common deer, betrothal gifts could also be replaced by other rare and exotic animals. With the progress of society, ordinary farmers make a living by farming and no longer hunt, and the use of deer as betrothal gifts is gradually eliminated.
During the Warring States Period, the concept of betrothal gifts appeared. At this time, cloth was usually used as betrothal gifts, mixed with coins. However, in the Han Dynasty, gold began to be used directly as betrothal gifts.
After the Han Dynasty, Confucianism was deposed and more emphasis was placed on etiquette. Accordingly, the types of betrothal gifts also increased, including 30 utensils such as wild geese, cloth, lambs, sake, and liquor, and money. This is the most important part. Without money, you cannot get a wife.