In the past, before men and women got engaged, there was an important link, that is, after the man got the birthdates of the woman, he put it in the main place of the living room at home, or put it under the incense burner for three days. If everything is safe at home within three days, it means that this marriage is appropriate. If it doesn't go well within three days, even if a bowl is broken, it means that the two are not suitable.
This custom still exists today, but it has become to find someone to read the eight characters. Is to write the names and birth dates of both men and women on red paper, and then send them to the woman's home, and the woman will find someone to see them. There is a folk saying: "A man loses thirty-nine, and a woman loses her husband's family." This sentence is about a marriage where both sides are incompatible with each other.
Because the "year, month, day and hour" when everyone was born corresponds to four branches, namely, the annual column, the moon column, the sun column and the time column, it is called the "four columns". The "dry branch" consists of ten dry branches and twelve branches, with 60 branches in each group. For example, 202 1, he was born at 8: 00 a.m. on the first day of the first lunar month, and the corresponding four pillars are Xin Chou nian, Geng Yin Yue, Xin Mao ri and Ren Chen Shi.
Each earthly branch corresponds to a Zodiac animal, that is, mouse, ugly cow, vulva, hairy rabbit and so on. Then introduce the "lost moon" according to the zodiac, that is, some zodiac animals are in a lost position this month, so they are called "lost moon". For example, snakes lose the moon in the first month and pigs lose the moon in July.
Of course, "monthly decline" also distinguishes between decline and dark decline, which means that the date of birth declines in the month, so it is called "child decline". If you are pregnant with a failed moon, it is called dark failure, also known as "blood failure". You should know that "dark decline" is more powerful than "bright decline". For example, a pig was conceived in July of the previous year, which was a dark failure, so a baby who was pregnant in the lost month should change the time to the past.
There are some jingles corresponding to the lost moon in the zodiac: "One snake, two mice, three cows, four rabbits, five monkeys, six dogs, seven pigs, eight horses and nine sheep's heads, chicken worries in October, tigers run all over the mountain in November, and the old dragon doesn't look up in December." This jingle is only suitable for men Of course, it is only a "clear defeat", but it can be derived from a "dark defeat" according to the date of birth.
The months when girls are lost are only four months, that is, the first month, March, April and June. Rabbits, sheep and pigs lost the moon in the first month, tigers, horses and dogs lost the moon in March, cows, snakes and chickens lost the moon in April, and mice, dragons and monkeys lost the moon in June. Of course, this is also the so-called "obvious loser", and the dark loser is the date of conception, which can be inferred according to the date of birth.
Because a month is divided into three days: morning, noon and evening, being born in the middle of the "lost month" is the most powerful. The boy was born in the lost moon, and after marriage, he mainly targeted at the family of the elderly. Because there are five kinds of lost moons, I won't introduce them in detail here. One of them is called "Unique Fireworks", which means that if the son-in-law is born in a lost moon, the father-in-law may have no children, and of course there are other influences.
This sentence means that if a girl is born in a lost month, such as a rabbit, a sheep or a pig, or is pregnant in the first month, she is talking about a girl. After marriage, it is mainly aimed at the husband's family, which means it is not good for the husband's family. Therefore, there is a saying that "men lose to their husbands for thirty-nine, and women lose to their husbands endlessly".
Therefore, before the ancient people got married, there was an important link, that is, "matching the eight characters." If one party is born in the lost month, even if they fall in love again, the marriage will be politely rejected. This is also the reason why the woman wants to see someone, because the date of birth of the man is very important to her father-in-law's family.