Yu Fengzhi: It is better to be happy than perfect

This is what the fortune teller said about Fengzhi, and it is also one of the reasons why Zhang Zuolin chose Yu Fengzhi as his daughter-in-law.

Judging from Yu Fengzhi's horoscope, this is indeed not a compliment. This is a special horoscope commonly known as the "half-human and half-god chart". It indicates extremely high talent, willingness to learn and good understanding. It is also quite religious and naturally likes to explore knowledge and spiritual fields.

There is a talent line in the natal chart. They are talented and intelligent. They are also full-brained people with balanced development of left and right brains. Their talents are also widely distributed. The more prominent ones are creativity, art, logical analysis, leadership execution and imagination awareness, followed by eloquence, service dedication and design thinking. Have leadership skills and team spirit, have influence on others, know how to gather people's hearts, have team charm, and can make people love and respect you.

Peach Blossoms have a high interpersonal index and can easily gain the favor of others. As long as they take the initiative to make friends, their popularity will not be bad. With good fortune both innate and acquired, there will be people who will take the initiative to lend a helping hand in difficult situations. If you have Yima in your life, it is suitable for you to leave home and go out for development. It is easier to get money and meet noble people, and you are also very adaptable.

The fortune of the person is medium to high, with the ability to enter the treasury and the partial treasury, and be able to manage money and invest. Although he travels hard and works hard, his ability to make money is also excellent, and he has a sense of diligence and thrift. Although there is a lack of a positive treasury, a natural lack of awareness of savings, and a tendency to lose money, scatter money and consume irrationally, it can be compensated for by a sense of diligence and thrift and rationality.

The blessings are very good, the religious wisdom is high, the intuition is strong, and the god of food is in the horoscope, so you often receive gifts from others, and you are young and hardworking, and you will have good luck in your old age.

He is a person who values ??friendship, has a delicate mind, has keen intuition, can consider others, is willing to contribute, and is independent-minded. He can analyze things rationally and give unique opinions. What is lacking is a talent for planning and a spirit of adventure, the former easily supplied, the latter often not considered a weakness.

She is almost impeccable in both talent and temperament.

In his later years, Zhang Xueliang talked about his marriage to Yu Fengzhi: "My wife was three years older than me. At that time, we had to get engaged first, but I didn't know what she looked like at all. , So, I didn’t get on well with my wife later on. I didn’t like my wife because we were the matchmaker and my parents. I told my wife that you married the wrong person. You are a good wife and mother. But Zhang Xueliang just didn’t want a good wife and mother.”

In Yu Fengzhi’s memory, the two got along well before marriage, and they were harmonious after marriage. Zhang Xueliang would discuss all military and political matters with her. She once explained to Soong Meiling: "This is because we have known each other since childhood and have become accustomed to talking about everything. Especially after his father passed away, he was burdened with heavy burdens, so he talked to me about big things and listened to my opinions so that he could sort things out. Thorough consideration.”

What the two said was actually the truth seen from different angles.

The right-brained Zhang Xueliang is emotional and impulsive, casual and undisciplined. He has a strong luck in love affairs. In addition, he is straightforward and values ??friendship. Regardless of his status, even his personality itself is very attractive to the opposite sex.

His talents are concentrated in creativity, art, and imagination, and his personality is also related to them. They are opinionated but also stubborn; they are thoughtful and care about others, but they also like to argue and stick to their own opinions; they are intuitive and sensitive, but they are prone to daydreams and even neurosis.

Although he changed the direction of Chinese history, he never became a thoughtful politician throughout his life.

His life themes are cooperation and self-reflection. For him, who is outspoken and overly idealistic, cooperating with others and introspecting himself has always been a difficult task.

Planning, analysis, and execution are also abilities that he does not possess. He only has a three-minute enthusiasm for doing things, acts haphazardly, and even lacks leadership skills. His influence stems more from his natural personal charm and friendly personality.

She and him are more like eldest sister and younger brother. People often use this incident to prove his love for her: when she was on the verge of death due to dystocia, he refused his family's offer to renew their relationship. But judging from his horoscope, this is just "righteousness". To him, she was a virtuous and generous eldest sister, a decisive and wise business partner, but she was not his lover. Emotionally, he didn't like her.

But she is as thoughtful as the rest of the world, and is willing to understand "righteousness" as "emotion", and even interprets his dependence and dependence as love. Having the same career goals can deepen love, but if the skin is not there, the hair will not be attached. If love itself does not exist, how can career support and assistance make love more meaningful?

For him, her love is too mature and gentle, and lacks passion. She can tolerate all his willfulness and is an important source of his sense of security, but she has never been able to become a "cute" in his mind. people.

His feelings for her were like a child playing in the park. Sometimes he would look back at his mother to make sure that she was still there, and then he would continue to linger.

Her and his natal houses are both vine stars, just like two vines intertwined with each other.

Even if he doesn't love her, he has to admit that she is the most reliable partner in both relationships and career. Although he looks strong and assertive, he still has an instinctive dependence on her. She helped him get through difficulties more than once. After Zhang Zuolin was killed, she kept her mourning secret in order to stabilize the situation, so that he could calmly return to Shenyang and take over the leadership of the commander-in-chief. After he was placed under house arrest, it was she who tried her best to rescue him and clear his name. .

For her, he is everything in life and a lifelong career. After marriage, in order to better help him, she, who was already quite talented, often went to Shenyang universities to attend lectures to enrich her knowledge. She advocated knowledge and was enthusiastic about education. She invested in running schools when she was in Northeast China, which not only won him a good reputation but also put her own ideas into practice.

If a Vine star wants to succeed in his career, it is best to cooperate with others and act as a think tank, and the role of "good wife" does give her room to display her talents and help him in his career. He was at home like a fish in water, until he launched the Xi'an Incident, which was somewhat motivated.

After going to the United States, livelihood became a problem. But with her excellent financial management and investment talents, as well as good analytical skills and keen intuition, she opened up a world in the Wall Street securities market and successfully invested in real estate. She just downplayed this: "I rely on my economic knowledge to buy and sell stocks. Whenever I have a surplus, I buy a nearby property to rent out and settle down in the United States."

In fact, she has accumulated enough wealth to buy There are two adjacent villas, one is Ingrid Bergman's Linquan Villa, and the other is Elizabeth Taylor's former residence.

She has a strong adaptability, and she took Yima Ge to a foreign country. On the one hand, she had too much helplessness, but on the other hand, she had a brighter future. And once she focuses on her talents and is in a positive state of energy, she can fully unleash her huge potential.

With wisdom, courage, experience, and beauty, she deserves happiness and has the ability to make herself happy. However, she chose the latter between happiness and perfection and insisted on being a perfect wife.

Not only did she spare no effort to fight for his freedom, she was even tolerant of his relationship with Zhao Si. The two villas were decorated by her according to the living style of her family in the Prince's Mansion in Shuncheng, Beijing. One was for herself and the other was for him and Zhao Si, just waiting for him to regain his freedom and spend his old age here.

However, to be a perfect person, you need many imperfect people and things to reflect it. These imperfections and dissatisfactions will inevitably cause her to accumulate too much psychological pressure. What's more, she already has depression and bipolar tendencies, and she will not relieve herself of stress, let alone have fun. The nearly fatal breast cancer in 1940 expressed her inner depression and resentment.

From the 1940s to the 1990s, she thought she was waiting for him, but in fact, what she was doing was mostly escaping from her own heart. She attached the meaning of all her efforts to him, thereby forgetting his coldness.

But she couldn't wait for the perfect ending. He was eventually buried with Zhao Si, and the grave she left for him remained empty.

Whether your destiny is good or bad is determined by God, but whether you live a good life depends entirely on human effort. Cultivation of the mind and character, and striving to improve one's talents and talents, are certainly the way to create an ideal life. However, if you fail to learn to love yourself while improving yourself, the emptiness in your heart will always exist, you will only have a perfect appearance, and you will be exhausted both physically and mentally. . Better to be happy than perfect.