When a person reaches middle age, the most terrifying thing is that he or his wife will collapse. In that case, there will be no meaning in life. Poverty is not terrible. As a man, I am afraid of not having responsibility and responsibility. As a wife, what I fear is not caring about the family and not doing anything. Husband and wife would rather be like a rope and spend time like an onion. If there is no love between husband and wife halfway, they are afraid that life will become a rotten dish.
When a person reaches middle age, he is at the peak of his powers. It should be vigorous and exciting, but it has the "ten fear" itch.
Looking back on the past in middle age, I can clearly see the ups and downs, walking with fear and caution, and many terrible things. In summary, there are as many as "ten fears", which makes people feel a thousand emotions. , sighing endlessly:
——It’s so difficult to reach middle age!
First, they are afraid that they will be weak and sick.
Health is the capital that everyone strives for, especially middle-aged people. Imagine a middle-aged man who is progressive, quick-thinking, and ambitious. Just when he is about to show off his talents and make contributions, he is plagued by illness. He is unable to support the elderly, express his ambitions, care for his husband or wife, and protect his children from the wind and rain. How sad is it to be like a semi-crippled person who cannot live well, cannot die, is constantly burdened, and needs the care of his relatives instead, living an ignoble existence?
The second is the fear that I have no confidence.
Time flies, and before you have time to enjoy the romance of youth, the years push people into middle age. Entering middle age empty-handed, I feel guilty:
I haven’t begun to understand what I need to know;
I haven’t learned what I need to learn;
I don’t have any skills that I should use;
I don’t know where to think, where to use my energy, and which way to go. I have no idea, no confidence, my vision is confused, and my feet are weak. Looking at the responsibilities that middle-aged people should bear, I feel confused and anxious, not knowing what to do.
The third is the fear that the family environment will not be excellent.
A fence has three stakes, a hero has three gangs, and middle-aged people are no exception: family conditions directly affect the living conditions of middle-aged people. Parents with good financial conditions, money, houses, and Having a car and savings saves you at least ten to twenty years of hard work. If your parents have nothing and rely on themselves to build everything from scratch, you will have to struggle for at least twenty more years than others.
The fourth is the fear that men will enter the wrong profession and women will marry the wrong man.
We are all fellow countrymen, classmates, comrades, and friends. Some are brothers, sisters, or even twins. They are all on the same starting line. Due to differences in industries: one has a lot of money, One lives up to his reputation;
One lives up to a rich life, the other lives a simple life;
One lives up to the jewels and jewels, and the other lives a rustic life;
One is so happy and proud, the other is so miserable;
One is happy and relaxed, and the other is poor and miserable.
Sometimes those who do well may not necessarily be as beautiful, smart, wise, capable and brave as those who do poorly.
Women are afraid of being short-sighted, marrying the wrong husband in a moment of passion, impulsiveness, only to find out in middle age that he is not good, does not love me, and has no ability. But there is no medicine for regret, so I can only secretly regret and retreat, make do, live in depression, and waste my years.
Women are more afraid that they will become mature and old, and that their husbands will be neglected, abandoned, and find new love.
The fifth is the fear of not meeting a good leader or boss.
If Liu Bei did not visit Zhuge Liang twice, Zhuge Liang would not be able to become a wise military advisor; if Wei Zheng could not meet Tang Taizong Li Shimin, he would not be able to achieve the reputation of "straightforward admonishment" and loyalty.
When people reach middle age, they are doing great things and making achievements. When they meet a good leader or a good boss, they will have a discerning eye:
If they treat you as a thousand-mile horse, you will be able to stand on your own feet. Galloping thousands of miles, show your glory;
Treat you as a pearl, and you will use all your strength to shine dazzlingly;
Treat you as a hero, and you will show your strength. Skills will reward your ambition;
Treat you as a close friend, and you will go through fire and water to repay your kindness. A scholar will work hard for a close friend;
Treat you like a donkey pushing the mill. , always worried about killing and eating the birds;
Treat you as a good bow, always worried about the birds being burned after shooting;
Think of you as a guard dog, or a rabbit Once you die, or if you upgrade to a security door, you are always worried about being sent to a dog meat restaurant.
Sixth, they are afraid of being unemployed in middle age.
When a person reaches middle age, he must respect his elders and raise his children, who are the mainstay and the hope of the whole family. If you suddenly encounter the pain of unemployment, cut off your source of income, suddenly feel dark clouds over the city, besieged from all sides, trapped in a tight siege, and want to cry without tears, the scene will be chilling.
Seventh, they are afraid that their parents will be unhealthy.
The physical quality of parents directly affects the study, work, life and performance of middle-aged people.
Parents with good health not only do not hinder middle-aged people, but can also help them, making middle-aged people more powerful and like a fish in water. Not only can they relieve their worries, but they can also be energetic, travel lightly, and achieve their dreams. On the other hand, the parents are weak and sick, so they have to be cared for and spend money. They work hard, lose money and feel sad. They have no choice but to admit that their life is miserable.
Eighth, they are afraid of losing their spouse in middle age.
The middle-aged couple join hands, fly together, build a love nest, and their love is as deep as the sea. One is lost in an instant, and the other is alone without a partner, becoming a solitary bird, weak in power, lonely, frustrated, unwilling to eat, and full of sorrow.
Ninth, the fear of making careless friends.
When people are in the world, they inevitably make friends and support each other, but there are no good or bad guys on the faces of friends. Once friends turn against each other, are shot in the back, and are completely defeated, it is difficult to make a comeback. This is really a great tragedy in middle age.
The tenth is the fear that the children will not go as they wish.
When people reach middle age, it is the time when their children go to school, find jobs, and start families:
Who doesn’t want a handsome son and a beautiful and dignified daughter?
Who doesn’t want to raise a son to become a dragon or a daughter to become a phoenix?
Who doesn’t want their children to be talented and capable, to get ahead, and to have their dreams come true?
Who doesn’t want to say that “the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead, and each generation becomes stronger than the previous generation?”
The most fearful thing is that children are not in good health,
The most fearful thing is that children do not learn well,
I am most afraid that my children will have bad conduct,
I am most afraid that my children will have bad habits,
I am most afraid that my children will not do well at work,
I am most afraid that my children will not have good habits. Fear of poor marriage for children.
The most fearful thing is that children will encounter misfortunes, lose children in middle age, have cold knees, and become homeless and miserable for the rest of their lives.
The endless worries and endless worries make you worry from middle age to old age, until you close your eyes.
Let me first share with you a poem by Xin Qiji: Ugly Nuer·Shubo Mountain Road Middle Wall:
Young people don’t know the taste of sorrow, they fall in love with the upper floors, they fall in love with the upper floors , to express sorrow for the poem.
Now that I know all the sorrow, I want to say goodbye, but I want to say goodbye, but it’s a cool autumn.
It writes about middle-aged people recalling their youthful frivolity and emotion as well as their current mood...
I wrote a poem by myself to express the ups and downs of middle-aged people, and then share it with them. Friends share:
Years pass by and frost stains your temples, but your infatuation will not change and you will run towards life.
The years are merciless and make people grow old, and looking back at things is profound.
The young man once had high ambitions and wanted to show his arrogance and tenderness.
There is always fear when walking on thin ice, and I look forward to the winged totem cloud.
It is better to be aware of the danger and take precautions beforehand than to be attacked unexpectedly. Being aware of the situation and taking precautions is a wise move for middle-aged people to take precautions before they happen.
There is a middle-aged couple in our village who make a living by farming all year round. They have a 28-year-old son and two elderly people at home, a total of five people.
When they were 49 years old, their family happily held a banquet and invited relatives and friends to their home for dinner to celebrate their 49th birthday. But not long after celebrating his birthday, his wife felt unwell. After going to the hospital for a check-up, the doctor told him that his wife had cancer.
The word cancer is really frightening. He knew that treating his wife would cost a lot of money, and the family also had two frail parents and a son who had not yet married. He fainted on the spot when he thought that he would have to spend a lot of money to treat his wife. However, fainting would not solve the problem, because he could not ignore death.
So he returned to the village to borrow money from relatives, and collected 110,000 yuan in one day to perform surgery on his wife. Although his wife was able to walk around later, the doctor said that she could not do heavy work and needed to take good care of her body. If she took good health care, she might be able to live for a few more years. For this reason, his family lost a labor force.
In order to meet the normal expenses of the family, he asked his son to work in Shenzhen. In the first year after his son left his hometown, his elderly father fell ill and was sent to the hospital for rescue for half a month. After spending more than 20,000 yuan, rescue efforts failed and he died. After his father passed away, his mother shed tears every day.
Less than two months after his father passed away, his mother committed suicide and followed his father out of her mind. Losing his parents within two months was a very painful thing for him, a filial son, so he was depressed for a while. During that time, he had no intention of working and used alcohol to anesthetize himself every day.
But God did not pity him because of his difficulties, but because of his decadence. In September of the same year, his wife also passed away due to a recurrence of cancer. The pain was so unbearable that medicine could not relieve the pain. He thought that he was alone at home, so he asked his son to come back from Guangdong to accompany him. The father and son worked at home to earn money.
But his son said: My mother is gone, why should I go home? I already have a girlfriend in Shenzhen, and I plan to be a temporary son-in-law here. His son's words were like a bolt from the blue, hurting him severely. Because his son does not come back to continue the family tradition, his family will face an unprecedented situation.
He tried to discuss with his son that he should go back to the local area to find a wife. For the sake of the future of the family, he should not become a temporary son-in-law. But his son said: I will just send you the living expenses every month. I will support you until you die. I am not an unfilial son. I will consider the next generation later.
Faced with the death of both his parents and his wife, he pinned the reason for his continued life on his son, but even his son wanted to abandon him, so he became frustrated and thought wildly, and eventually died of overuse of his brain. , became delirious. Nowadays, his mental state goes up and down. When he is in a good state of mind, he just drinks to get by. When he is in a bad state of mind, he dares to do anything.
Now he relies on the whole village for relief. When we villagers see him, they call him into the house to eat together, or bring food to him in front of the house. Because he used to be low-key and kind, he had a good impression on the villagers, so the villagers and his relatives would not abandon him. And his son has been married for 2 years now. He sends 2,000 yuan back to him every month, but he never comes back to take care of him.
In fact, the author believes that if we look at the problem from a realistic perspective, the departure of his parents and wife should be the time for him to put down his burdens, travel lightly, and start a new life again. Because life is alive, birth, old age, illness and death are inevitable for everyone, so we should face the reality bravely.
At the same time, you should learn to live for yourself, and never pin your reasons for living strong on anyone else. Just like the middle-aged man described in the article, he placed his only reason for living on his son, but his son was unwilling to come back, so he overused his brain and became delirious.
Through his deeds, as well as his own thinking and analysis, the author believes that there are eight things that are more terrifying when people reach middle age.
The first thing is losing your spouse. In the homes of many middle-aged people, they are still the mainstay of the family, and all household expenses depend on them. If they lose their spouse, they will lose a labor force. At the same time, it is not that easy for middle-aged people who have lost their spouses to choose a spouse again. Unless the economic conditions are very good.
The second thing is that there is no money for medical treatment. As the saying goes, a penny beats a hero. When faced with an ordinary family, with seniors and young children, disasters come frequently within a year or two, and sometimes they really can't bear it. The most helpless thing is that one's relatives are sick, and they could recover through treatment, but they have no money to treat them.
Third, children are unfilial. It is said that raising children can prevent old age, but the reality is always unsatisfactory. We don’t know whether the children we raise will be filial to us when we grow old. When people reach middle age, they realize that their children are unfilial, and it is too late to regret it, because most people are no longer able to have children in middle age.
Fourth, children are happy. Poor parents in the world, children are everything to their parents, and their children's happiness is also related to their parents' happiness. If a child's marriage is not going well and his career is not going well, parents will have a lot of concerns about their child. However, as they have entered middle age, there are not many days when they can work, so they can only do what they want but not what they can do.
Fifth, work failure. At home, the main source of income still relies on them. If they are cut off from the economic chain at this time, it will be a big blow to them. At the same time, when people reach middle age and fail at work or start a business, they are less likely to make a comeback because their energy is not as strong as before.
Sixth, losing parents. The people who love you most are always your parents. Losing your parents will be the loss of the greatest love. When people reach middle age, their parents are at least 60 years old. It is human nature for people to get old and sick, and they will die from old age, sickness, and death. Despite this, who can not be sad and sad when facing the loss of a parent.
Seventh, breaking the law. Those who fear the law are the happiest. Everyone wants to spend their lives in peace, but sometimes they accidentally make big mistakes. Especially when people reach middle age, they work and socialize more, and they interact with more people. There will be more, and everyone has different thoughts and ideas. When encountering differences of opinion or disputes, you can't help but have physical conflicts.
Eighth, reputation is ruined. Everyone wants to be famous for eternity, but not everyone can achieve it. Therefore, although you cannot be famous for eternity, you must at least keep your reputation and your career, so that you will not be infamous for thousands of years. Don't want to be criticized or isolated by those around you.
After we know these eight things that people will be afraid of when they reach middle age, we should take precautions before they happen. While you are still young, you should maintain a motivated and positive attitude, work hard, and prepare yourself for middle age and old age.
Summary of the eight characters: mentality, hard work, education, self-control!
When people reach middle age, they are not afraid of anything. The most terrifying thing is illness. The ancients said, "A good man is afraid of illness." Once a serious illness occurs, no matter how strong you are, you will fall. No matter how hard you have a fighting spirit, People who are determined but unable to do so have lost their spirit. No matter how much hope they have in life, they will always be in vain.
When a serious illness sets in, the doctor ruins the family and wears out the wife. She urinates early, poops late, feeds early, and is busy all day long. Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes. . Your wife is forced to divorce you.
The ancients often said that if you are chronically ill, you will not have a filial son. After a long time, even your own children will not have the energy to serve you and serve you for a few years or more.
Even your parents have given up on you because you are raising children to protect yourself from old age. Even you yourself are too sick to get up. Your parents are old, so they can earn money to support you. Only give up the person who hurts you the most in your mind. Lost despair!
If you get sick in middle age, you will lose your whole life, your responsibility, your responsibility, your hope, and everything else in your life. Life is worse than death, which makes you despair.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, what they fear most is poor health and serious illness.
When I reach middle age, I think extramarital affairs are more terrifying. Regardless of whether a woman or a man has an extramarital affair in middle age, something might happen one day, and it could range from being beaten and fined a huge sum of money to, at the worst, costing your life. If you don’t believe it, please take a look at the female model Pan Jinlian and the male model Ximen Qing.
When I reach middle age, I feel that there are many scary things. No matter big or small, I feel that extramarital affairs are more scary. Because extramarital affairs violate the love of other people's lovers, take away the bodies of other people's lovers, and possess the desires of other people's lovers, you take away other people's love. Because of your appearance, other people's feelings have been hurt, or because of your extramarital affairs, other people's wives have been separated. To put it bluntly, you are the mistress, that is, you are the third party. If you go on a date secretly, you will suffer a loss if someone catches you. Even if they scold you and beat you and still hate you, some people will put you to death. An extramarital affair destroys two families. An extramarital affair is a one-to-one family, where happiness and pain correspond to each other. You both feel better, but they both feel worse. When people reach middle age, poor health and no money are scary, but I think extramarital affairs are more scary. People die for love, birds die for food, trapped by love, and extremely sad. When people fall in love in middle age, the terrible situation is a shadow.
Middle-aged people are the time when the sun at noon is the hottest and most promising. This is the time when you are most energetic and energetic. This is the time when you have the strongest will and the most prosperous career. It is the stage from ignorance to maturity. It is a period of moving from freedom to self-reliance, working hard, tirelessly, being diligent and thrifty, managing every step of the way, and worrying all the time. It is a link between the past and the future and a period of careful management of the family. It is also a necessary period for life to move towards glory.
Middle-aged people, about thirty-three to fifty-seven years old, neither young nor old, some younger and some older. The younger ones rely on you to support them, the older ones rely on you to serve them, the whole family relies on you for food, clothing and shelter, and those in the kitchen also rely on you for firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Therefore, middle-aged people are the main force of the family and the backbone of the family. You have to do the work, you have to earn the money, you have to bear the responsibilities, you have to suffer the hardships, the marriage of the children, the illness of the elderly, you have to take care of all the big and small things. You: This is the God of this family! But the sky cannot fall, for if the sky falls, the earth will collapse!
Therefore, what middle-aged people fear most is: misfortunes in the family and unexpected illnesses! This is the scariest thing. People are not afraid of eating, not afraid of clothes, not afraid of fancy things, not afraid of poverty, but they are afraid that people will not live up to expectations, not endure hardship, and not work hard. As long as there are people, as long as people work hard, they are not afraid of anything, nothing is a problem, and as long as people are not lazy, bad, or evil, they can live a comfortable life.
However, no matter how good or capable a person is, especially middle-aged people, they are afraid of disaster if they lie down due to illness. If so, the family's sky has fallen. Is it okay if the pillar of support falls? Who will raise the child? Who is a filial parent? Who will take care of my wife and children? Who will help with food and clothing expenses?
Therefore, middle-aged people are the pillars and must not fall down. When middle-aged people are killed or trapped by illness, that is the most terrible disaster for a family!
I hope everyone in the world is healthy and every family is happy!
Thank you.
When they were 48 years old, their family happily held a grand banquet for them, inviting relatives and friends to have dinner at home to celebrate his 48th birthday. But shortly after his birthday, his wife felt unwell. After going to the hospital for a check-up, the doctor told him that his wife had cancer.
So he returned to the countryside to borrow money from relatives and collected 80,000 yuan for his wife's surgery. Afterwards, although his wife could walk on the ground, doctors said she could not do heavy work and needed to take good care of her body. If she does well, she might live a few more years. As a result, she lost her labor force in the family.
In order to pay for the family's normal expenses, he sent his two sons to work in Guangzhou. In the first year after his son left his hometown, his elderly father fell ill and was sent to the hospital for rescue for a month. It cost more than 20,000 yuan. Finally, the rescue failed and he died.
After his father died, his mother washed her face with tears every day and was in great pain.
Less than three months after his father passed away, his mother went with him because she was too sad. Losing his parents within three months was a very painful thing for both of them. Because he was a filial son, they were very decadent for a while. During that time, he didn't want to work and drank to numb himself every day, which might have been too sad.
But God did not have mercy on him because of his difficulties and degradation. Later that year, his wife also died from a recurrence of cancer, unbearable pain and a failure of medication to relieve the pain. He thought he was alone at home, so he called his two sons back from Guangzhou to stay with him. Then both the father and his two sons worked at home to earn money.
But his son said: My mother is gone. What will I do when I get home? I made a girlfriend in Guangzhou. I plan to be a son-in-law here. His son's words broke his heart. Because his two sons do not come back, he will face a desperate situation.
He tried to negotiate with his two sons to let him return to the local area to find a girlfriend. For the sake of the future of the family, he didn't want his son to be a son-in-law. But his son said: I will send you living expenses every month. I will take care of you in your old age. I am not an unfilial son. I will think about the next generation in the future.
Now he relies on charity from the entire village. When people in our village saw him, they asked him to eat at home or cooked for him at the doorstep. Because he was low-key and kind in the past and left a good impression on the villagers, the villagers and his relatives would not abandon him. His two sons are already married and both are his sons-in-law. His two sons sent him 2,500 yuan every month, but they never came back to take care of him.
In fact, the author believes that if we look at this issue from a realistic perspective, the departure of his parents and wife should be the time for him to put down his burden, travel lightly, and start a new life. Because life is alive, birth, old age and death are inevitable for everyone, so we should face them bravely.
At the same time, we should learn to work hard and live for ourselves. Don’t put our reasons for being strong on anyone else. Just like the middle-aged man described in the article, he put his only reason for living on his son, but his son was unwilling to come back, so he had mental problems.
I think that when people reach middle age, the most terrifying thing is disease, especially terminal illness, because when they reach middle age, they have a heavy burden, which is old at the top and young at the bottom.
Therefore, the task of educating children and honoring their parents is very arduous!